INTERVIEWS & PRESS
DR. MALKIN QUOTED IN THE PRESS - 2019
ARE THEY A NARCISSIST OR JUST SELF-CONFIDENT? HERE'S THE DIFFERENCE
Confidence is about knowing and appreciating your own qualities and worth, and that’s a good thing. Narcissism involves an exaggeration of and obsession with one’s qualities and worth. Read More.
HOW TO KNOW IF THE PERSON YOU'RE DATING IS A 'HEALTHY' VS 'UNHEALTHY' NARCISSIST
Your Tango, 12-Nov-2019
The word certainly conjures up a negative image! However, we all fall somewhere on the scale between pure selflessness and complete arrogance. Read More.
SEEING THE NARCISSIST IN YOUR REARVIEW MIRROR: WHAT YOU MISSED
When it comes to not taking responsibility, the brushstrokes are very broad and include, as Dr. Craig Malkin observed in his book Rethinking Narcissism, what he calls “emotional hot potato.”
3 TYPES OF NARCISSISTIC PARENTS
Yahoo! Lifestyle, 18-Oct-2019
The more extreme the narcissism (and the more disordered the narcissist) the more likely you are to see physical and emotional abuse,” Craig Malkin, Ph.D., lecturer at Harvard Medical School and author of “Rethinking Narcissism,”. Read More.
UNLOVED DAUGHTERS AND THE PROBLEM OF UNMET GOALS
Psychology Today, 17-Oct-2019
Dr. Malkin reminds us that narcissism is a spectrum—think of it as a line that stretches from left to right—and in the middle is healthy self-regard. Read More.
TOP 3 THINGS YOU CAN DO TO HELP A LOVED ONE WHO’S STUCK IN LIFE
Thrive Global, 15-Oct-2019
A personality disorder is a pervasive disturbance in a person’s ability to manage his or her emotions, hold onto a stable sense of self and identity, and maintain healthy relationships in work, friendship, and love. Read More.
THE EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT WAY TO DEAL WITH 5 TYPES OF COWORKERS
Fast Company, 07-Oct-2019
Rather than stroke their ego or ignore them altogether, clinical psychologist Craig Malkin previously told Fast Company that a better way is to “catch” and acknowledge them when they display good behavior. Read More.
UNFIT FOR OFFICE
The Atlantic, 03-Oct-2019
“Pathological narcissism begins when people become so addicted to feeling special that, just like with any drug, they’ll do anything to get their ‘high,’ including lie, steal, cheat, betray, and even hurt those closest to them,” Malkin says. Read More.
Scientists don’t even know for sure what causes narcissistic tendencies. But it can be useful to think of narcissism as a spectrum, from absolute selflessness to total arrogance. Everyone is on it, argues Craig Malkin, a Harvard Medical School instructor and author of Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.
ECHOISM: THE TRAIT YOU MIGHT RELATE TO IF YOU GREW UP WITH A 'NARCISSISTIC' PARENT
Yahoo! Lifestyle, 10-Sep-2019
Echoism is a trait of people who are skilled at echoing the needs and feelings of those around them — often at the expense of their own needs and feelings. Read More.
HOW LONG SHOULD YOU BE WITH YOUR PARTNER BEFORE YOU MOVE IN TOGETHER?
Relationship expert Craig Malkin says the key to success is for both partners to show " an active and clear commitment before deciding to live together". Read More.
WHAT IS ECHOISM? A PSYCHOLOGIST TELLS US ABOUT HOW SOME PEOPLE REALLY HATE BEING PRAISED
Malkin and his colleagues have found that echoists tend to agree with statements such as “I'm afraid of becoming a burden,” and “When people ask me my preferences, I’m often at a loss.” While these traits might sound a lot like run-of-the-mill people-pleasing behavior or even humility, Malkin says there’s a big difference. Read More.
YOU AREN’T A NARCISSIST, BUT COULD YOU BE AN ECHOIST?
Echoism is a fairly new term for a personality type that many of us might be familiar with — the people pleaser. In the recent years Harvard psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin has done work defining echoism and the traits associated with it. Read More.
WHEN SCAPEGOATING IS A WEAPON IN MOM OR DAD’S ARSENAL
Scapegoating is a way of controlling the dynamics among and between family members and, not surprisingly, mothers (and fathers) who are high in control or narcissistic traits or are combative by nature use it.
VULNERABLE VS GRANDIOSE NARCISSISM: WHICH IS MORE HARMFUL?
Psychology Today, 23-Jun-2019
As Dr. Craig Malkin points out in Rethinking Narcissism, vulnerable narcissists “are just as convinced that they’re better than others as any other narcissist, but they fear criticism so viscerally that they shy away from, and even seem panicked by, people and attention”. Read More.
ARE YOU AN ECHOIST? TAKE THIS QUIZ TO FIND OUT
Echoism is a trait, not a diagnosis, and while it's popped up here and there in papers over the last few decades, its big moment in the sun came with Dr. Craig Malkin's 2016 book, "Rethinking Narcissism." "... their defining characteristic is a fear of seeming narcissistic in any way," Malkin wrote.
SPOTTING THE NARCISSIST BY HOW HE TELLS (AND CURATES) HIS STORY
Narcissists bury normal emotions like fear, sadness, loneliness, and shame because they’re afraid they’ll be rejected for having them; the greater their fear, the more they shield themselves with the belief that they’re special.
6 WAYS THE NARCISSIST TAKES CONTROL OF A RELATIONSHIP
The women who are more likely to swept in by the narcissist’s charms past the initial meeting are those whose emotional needs weren’t met in childhood, and whose mother or father or both were unloving, narcissistic, combative, withholding, or hypercritical. These women typically have low self-esteem, especially if their mothers were high in narcissistic traits; the chances are good that rather than be criticized or scapegoated by their mothers, they learned to duck under the radar and draw as little attention to themselves as possible. In his book, Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin calls these daughters “echoists,” pointing out that they actually lack healthy narcissism.
LISTENING TO ECHOISM
Psychology Today, 07-May-2019
You won't find echoism in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. That's because it's not a disorder, but a measurable trait that my colleagues and I have studied for the past six years. And like all traits, it exists to a greater or lesser degree in all of us, causing damage only when it becomes extreme. Read More.
NARCISSISTIC MOTHERS: THE LONG-TERM EFFECTS ON THEIR DAUGHTERS
If you think of narcissism as a spectrum with healthy self-regard in the middle, the ends are occupied by the echoist, who lacks self-regard, and the narcissist, who uses exaggerated self-regard as armor. Read More.
8 SIGNS YOU’RE DATING A NARCISSIST
Narcissism exists on a spectrum, Malkin said, and individuals with severe cases that compromise interpersonal relationships likely have narcissistic personality disorder. Read More.
IS YOUR TOXIC CHILDHOOD MAKING YOU OPEN TO ABUSE IN ADULTHOOD?
This way of going along to get along is the ultimate self-effacement and, not surprisingly, these daughters have little sense of who they are, in addition to having low self-esteem. In his book Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin describes narcissism as a spectrum with healthy self-regard in the middle, pathological narcissism on one end and echoism on the other other; the daughters I am describing here are echoists, content to stay off the radar.
WHY DO WOMEN STAY? - IS THE WRONG QUESTION
Modern Ghana, 27-Jan-2019
Batterers, the ill-formed, and ignorant individuals may blame women for staying, “But you won't find a single expert familiar with domestic violence who agrees that victims like being in an abusive relationship,” asserted Dr. Craig Malkin. Read More.
WHAT A NARCISSIST MEANS BY SAYING "I LOVE YOU"
News Dog, 22-Jan-2019
This is hard part—really understanding what motivates and drives those who are high in narcissistic traits and what underlies their words and actions. Keep in mind that it’s the underlying drivers of behavior that set the person high in narcissistic traits apart, and not always the behaviors themselves. They are more than capable of nice gestures, for example, but they don’t do for others but for the value of how they’re perceived. Read More.
AGING ANXIETY AND FACEBOOK'S 10-YEAR CHALLENGE
Psychology Today, 18-Jan-2019
Dr. Craig Malkin points out that narcissism is driven by a pathological need to feel special, and claiming not to have aged in a decade would certainly seem to express the narcissist’s need. Read More.
IN THE PRESS | 2018
MICHAEL ADKINS: WORRIES ABOUT TRUMP’S MENTAL STATE
Daily Reporter, 26-Dec-2018
If pathological narcissists, in their reality-warping efforts to feed their addiction, bring themselves to the precipice of disaster, why should we, as nations, allow them to pull us into the abyss with them? It’s this urgent existential question, he says, that faces Democracies throughout the world today. Read More.
ARE YOU AN ECHOIST?
Good Men Project, 18-Dec-2018
Echoists fear seeming narcissistic in any way—and act accordingly. Does this describe you? Read More.
ECHOISM IS THE LITTLE-KNOWN CONDITION THAT AFFECTS VICTIMS OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE
Echoism typically arises when someone is in a toxic relationship with a narcissist. The narcissist may be their partner, parent, or sibling. Highly sensitive, compassionate, and emotionally intelligent, echoists are extreme people-pleasers. Read More.
ECHOISTS ARE BASICALLY THE OPPOSITE OF NARCISSISTS
It's worth noting that echoism, unlike narcissism, is not an officially recognized condition or disorder. While the term has been used informally—mostly among psychologists—for the better part of a decade, it was popularized most recently in the 2016 book Rethinking Narcissism by Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and lecturer at Harvard Medical School. As Malkin put it, “Echoism is a fear of feeling special or standing out in any way, even positively. It’s a fear of seeming narcissistic in any way." Read More.
10 REASONS YOU WERE FOOLED BY A NARCISSIST
It’s thought by most experts, including Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, and Dr. Joseph Burgo, author of The Narcissist You Know, that for all the outward braggadocio, swagger, and projected confidence, people high in narcissistic traits are deeply wounded emotionally and on the run from a deep sense of shame and inadequacy. While he won’t articulate his needs directly—that’s one of his hallmarks—his real motivations are always self-directed and have nothing to do with you. But that may only be obvious in retrospect. Read More.
ECOÍSMO: LOS INSOSPECHADOS RIESGOS DE VIVIR EN LA POSTERGACIÓN
Economía Y Negocios (Spanish), 27-Nov-2018
El ecoísmo se podría definir como el opuesto del narcisismo y del egoísmo. Los ecoístas tienen miedo de sobresalir y sienten que merecen menos o son menos importantes que los demás. Tienden a ser las personas más modestas y de mejor corazón, pero en su versión extrema lidian con una baja autoestima. No se sienten merecedores de atención o cariño, les cuesta reconocer sus propios logros y no tienen la habilidad de reconocer su voz, sus necesidades y sus sentimientos dentro de una relación. Read More.
WHEN YOU’RE NOT NARCISSISTIC ENOUGH: MEET THE ECHOIST!
Well, no one wants to be high in narcissism but did you know that some people don’t have enough healthy self-regard and that, in some ways, they’re just as problematic as the folks at the other end of spectrum—yes, the Big Bad Wolf types—with their grandiosity, lies, and lack of empathy. As Dr. Craig Malkin explains in his book, Rethinking Narcissism, there’s actually a spectrum of narcissism.
THE SIMPLEST WAY TO SPOT NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER
Good Men Project, 02-Nov-2018
Is there a narcissist in your life? Read More.
UNLOVED DAUGHTERS AND THE STRUGGLE WITH "ECHOISM"
Psychology Today, 25-Oct-2018
Echoism isn’t a diagnosis, but a trait, and knowing about it can be valuable on the journey to reclaiming yourself from the effects of a toxic childhood or one in which your emotional needs weren’t met. Read More.
DEALING WITH NARCISSISTS: TWO TIPS FROM SHAKESPEARE
Psychology Today, 10-Oct-2018
Every play, practically, has characters who show some of the “warning signs” of narcissism that psychologist Craig Malkin has outlined—emotion phobia, emotional hot potato, exerting stealth control, placing people on pedestals, and pretending to have found a “twin.” Read More.
THE SIMPLEST WAY TO REDUCE ANXIETY & TRAUMA SYMPTOMS
Good Men Project, 01-Oct-2018
One of the most powerful tools in battling anxiety and posttraumatic stress disorder, drawn straight from science, is the knowledge of how trauma symptoms operate in our nervous system. Read More.
9 THINGS EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW ABOUT ECHOISTS
Psychology Today, 28-Sep-2018
Echoism support groups, therapists, and workshops are springing up, and demand for information appears to be growing. But what does the word mean? Read More.
PERILS OF BEING AN ECHOIST
Daily Mail, 23-Sep-2018
Echo, the once-talkative nymph cursed to repeat back the last words she hears, whose love for Narcissus is callously spurned until she fades and dies. Echo is the silent partner to Narcissus’s cruel vanity. Read More.
25 FUN AND HELPFUL QUOTES ABOUT SELF-CONFIDENCE
Psychology Today, 14-Sep-2018
To produce anything great—to even sit down and try—often requires feeling that we’re capable of greatness, hardly the humblest state of mind. Read More.
THE MOST POWERFUL WAY TO PROTECT YOUR KIDS FROM PATHOLOGICAL NARCISSISM
Good Men Project, 31-Aug-2018
You have far more power to protect your children from emotional abuse than you realize. Read More.
10 MYTHS ABOUT CONFIDENCE THAT ARE HOLDING YOU BACK
Psychology Today, 22-Aug-2018
As Dr. Craig Malkin points out in his fascinating book, Rethinking Narcissism, having too little narcissism can also be harmful: “The less people feel special, the more self-effacing they become until, at last, they have so little sense of self they feel worthless and impotent.” Read More.
HOW TO SPOT COVERT ABUSERS
Good Men Project, 21-Aug-2018
Dr. Craig Malkin identifies the clear traits that predict covert abuse. Read More.
THESE 11 SIGNS MEAN YOUR BOSS COULD BE A NARCISSIST
Science Alert, 20-Aug-2018
Feeling an emotion "challenges their sense of perfect autonomy," he wrote. "To admit to a feeling of any kind suggests they can be affected by someone or something outside of them." Read More.
THE SIMPLEST SCIENTIFICALLY—PROVEN WAY OF OVERCOMING PTSD (AND ANXIETY)
Good Men Project, 17-Aug-2018
One of the most powerful tools in battling anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder. Read More.
6 WAYS THE NARCISSIST TURNS THE TABLES ON YOU
As Dr. Craig Malkin notes in his book, Rethinking Narcissism, it’s easy to confuse or conflate the roller-coast ride of this kind of relationship—with its dramatic ups and downs, its quick turn from love-bombing to disparagement and control—with passion. Read More.
7 SUBTLE SIGNS YOU’RE DATING A NARCISSIST WHO’S REALLY GOOD AT HIDING IT
There are some subtle signs you're dating a narcissist who's really good at hiding it that might give you some added insight into what really might be going on with your partner and might keep you from feeling so blind-sided when the truth really does come out later on down the line. Read More.
DO YOU KEEP DATING NARCISSISTS? 4 ROMANTIC SCRIPTS YOU MUST GIVE UP
Think about it for a second: No one is perfect, not even you, and you have to wonder why anyone would put you up there to begin with. Answer?
IS YOUR PARTNER EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE? 7 SIGNS YOU SHOULDN’T IGNORE
These are actually red flags but may not appear to be. It’s in the context of love bombing that the abuser begins to isolate his or her partner, either by asserting what Dr. Malkin calls “stealth control” or by an outright protest.
5 SAD DETAILS ABOUT ANTHONY BOURDAIN'S SUICIDE, INCLUDING THE 2016 PARTS UNKNOWN EPISODE THAT SHOULD'VE WARNED US HE NEEDED HELP
Yahoo Lifestyle, 08-Jun-2018
If you do not trust that you can depend on people for love, for caring, connection, you're going to have to soothe yourself some other way. You can soothe yourself with narcissism, you can soothe yourself with a drug addiction. Read More.
6 WAYS TO SPOT A NARCISSIST FROM DAY 1
Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, makes this point brilliantly because how the narcissist controls you may not be as obvious as telling you what to do or issuing directives or ultimatums. Instead, the narcissist switches up plans you’ve already made—whisking you off for a weekend alone when you’ve made plans with friends, for example, or deciding that a French restaurant would be so much more glamorous than ordering in—always under the guise of making things nicer or better. This allows him to run your life without your even noticing; in time, you’ll forget that you had your own wants and needs which is the point.
IS HE OR SHE REALLY A NARCISSIST? IS CALLING SOMEONE A “NARC” A FAD?
On the far ends of the spectrum are those who lack healthy narcissism—these are people Malkin calls echoists—and those who are addicted to attention, the narcissists we are fixated on.
ARE YOU A VICTIM OF GASLIGHTING?
U.S. News & World Report, 25-Apr-2018
The more addicted to feeling special and flawless they are and the more they're confronted with information that challenges that, the more they'll start distorting reality," Malkin says. "If reality doesn't match their sense of how wonderful they are, they'll do things to make you feel like you're memory isn't correct. Read More.
WHY DAUGHTERS OF UNLOVING MOTHERS STRUGGLE TO FIND A PARTNER
Psychology Today, 09-Apr-2018
In the case of the unloved daughter, what she’s learned about love in childhood — that it must earned, fought for, sought, and is never given freely — makes it easier to mistake the arousal of intense feelings such as anger, pain, or fear for passion. Read More.
THERE’S NOTHING ROMANTIC ABOUT LOVE BOMBING
Huffington Post, 16-Mar-2018
Love bombing, unlike real love, is a self-centered, anxious pursuit, with the singular goal of acquiring someone because it boosts the bomber’s ego. Read More.
CURSE OF NARCISSISM
While there are several types of narcissists what they all have in common is “self-enhancement”. Their thoughts, behaviors, and statements set them apart from others, and this feeling of distinction soothes them, because they’re otherwise struggling with an unstable sense of self…a pervasive disturbance in a person’s ability to manage his or her emotions… Read More.
11 SUBTLE SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE IN AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
Huffington Post, 05-Mar-2018
While overt control — insisting they get their own way, asserting veto power over plans, making constant demands without discussion — is easy to spot, what Dr. Craig Malkin calls ‘stealth control,’ a behavior he identifies with narcissists, is much more insidious. Read More.
CAN NARCISSISTS ACTUALLY CHANGE THEIR WAYS? WE ASKED THE EXPERTS
Huffington Post, 28-Feb-2018
“The truth is that not all narcissists care about fame, looks or money,” said Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and author of Rethinking Narcissism. “Some can be extremely quiet, so if we get too stuck on these images — really, stereotypes — we miss signs of trouble that have nothing to do with vanity or greed.” Read More.
7 TOXIC BEHAVIORS YOU SHOULD NEVER TOLERATE
Rather than own his or her feelings and take responsibility for them, the narcissist projects those onto you—trying to make his or her anger yours. Read More.
HOW TO DEAL WITH A NARCISSIST COWORKER
HR Digest, 17-Feb-2018
Craig Malkin, a psychology lecturer at Harvard Medical School suggests you should walk back when you're receiving the emotional outburst from a narcissist coworker. Read More.
WHAT EVERYONE NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT COVERT ABUSERS
Psychology Today, 16-Feb-2018
There’s another kind of violence, directed at men and women alike, that isn’t as obvious. It creeps into people’s lives in the form of whispered profanities, subtle put-downs, and simmering rage. It thrives in the shadows, as it always has, wreaking havoc with people’s health, safety, and sanity. Mental health professionals call it “covert abuse.” Read More.
HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSIST ON THE VERY FIRST DATE
Huffington Post, 05-Jan-2018
Narcissism exists on spectrum; it’s possible to have some characteristics of narcissism without having full-blown, clinically diagnosed narcissistic personality disorder. There are some telltale signs. Read More.
IN THE PRESS | 2017
THE POST THAT HIT A NERVE: WHY UNLOVED DAUGHTERS FALL FOR NARCISSISTS
Narcissists are experts at projecting their feelings onto you; it’s what Dr. Craig Malkin calls playing “emotional hot potato” in his book Rethinking Narcissism.
5 WAYS NARCISSISM MAKES PEOPLE STRONGER, SMARTER, AND MORE SUCCESSFUL
Business Insider, 22-Dec-2017
Malkin introduces the concept of "healthy narcissism," which means that you display some narcissistic qualities — but they contribute to, rather than detract from, your success in life. Read More.
EVERYONE’S A LITTLE BIT NARCISSISTIC, BUT 5 TRAITS CAN GIVE TRUE NARCISSISTS AWAY
Business Insider, 15-Dec-2017
All narcissists have "self-enhancement" in common: They somehow stand out from the pack. Read More.
A PSYCHOLOGIST REVEALS OUTSTANDING TRAITS OF THE SUPER RICH
Business Insider, 13-Dec-2017
When we look at the relationship between wealth and wealth accumulation and measures of narcissism, people's narcissistic scores go up as they tend to earn more. What all super wealthy people have in common is they feel deserving of their wealth. They don't feel any conflicts about pursuing it. Read More.
HOW TO WORK WITH A NARCISSISTIC BOSS
Business Insider, 12-Dec-2017
If you're dealing with a boss who is just sort of arrogant and can be aloof and difficult to deal with, there are two approaches that are very effective. Read More.
LOOK OUT FOR THESE EARLY WARNING SIGNS THAT YOU'RE DATING A NARCISSIST
Business Insider, 09-Dec-2017
Some early warning signs that you're with a narcissist when you're dating someone that you really want to pay attention to all come down to one thing: All narcissists hate depending on others in mutually caring and emotional ways. Read More.
REPORT: LEADING PSYCHIATRISTS WARN TRUMP’S MENTAL ILLNESS THREATENS NATION
Craig Malkin writes on pathological narcissism and politics as a lethal mix. Read More.
DIAGNOSING DONALD TRUMP, AND HIS VOTERS
The New Yorker, 06-Oct-2017
Craig Malkin, a lecturer at Harvard Medical School and the author of “Rethinking Narcissism,” suggests relying on “people already trained to provide functional and risk assessment based entirely on observation—forensic psychiatrists and psychologists as well as ‘profilers’ groomed by the CIA, the FBI, and various law enforcement agencies.” Read More.
THESE 27 TOP SHRINKS THINK TRUMP MIGHT BE NUTS
The Daily Beast, 02-Oct-2017
Healthy narcissism is a trait that all of us carry: the drive to feel special or unique. “In fact, people with a healthy dose of narcissism are happier, more optimistic and consistently confident than people at the low end of the spectrum,” he writes. Pathological [or malignant] narcissism begins “when people become so addicted to feeling special that, just like with any drug, they’ll do anything to get their ‘high,’” writes Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.
FEELING OVERWHELMED? THE MFA SAYS ONE MINUTE WITH A ROTHKO PAINTING COULD HELP
WBUR 90.9, 22-Sep-2017
Malkin points to the rise of “nature coaches” who help people reconnect not just with the earth and a sense of peace, but also with themselves.
Art can also help you step back and reflect, Malkin says — as long as it speaks to you. Read More.
IS DONALD TRUMP ACTUALLY CRAZY? 27 MENTAL-HEALTH EXPERTS OFFER UP THEIR CONCLUSIONS (COMMENTARY)
The Oregonian, 19-Sep-2017
Richard Nixon, the 37th president, was a narcissist, clinical psychologist Craig Malkin states. Donald Trump, the 45th president, is a step beyond that: a pathological narcissist. “Pathological narcissism begins,” Malkin writes, “when people become so addicted to feeling special that, just like with any drug, they’ll do anything to get their ‘high,’ including lie, steal, cheat, betray and even hurt those closest to them.” Read More.
5 IMPORTANT MYTHS (AND FACTS) ABOUT NARCISSISM
U.S. News & World Report, 30-Aug-2017
Fact: Like many things in life, narcissism occurs on a continuum from healthy to unhealthy (or pathological). On the positive side, people who have narcissistic tendencies are often charming, intelligent and intuitive, experts say. Healthy narcissism involves “seeing yourself through slightly rose-colored glasses,” Malkin says. “It lets you dream big but not at the expense of relationships, and it helps you persist in the face of failure.” Read More.
THE NARCISSIST’S PLAYBOOK: TEN TACTICS TO RECOGNIZE
Everyone fights—and that’s what you keep telling yourself—but somehow you manage not to fully register, not at the start at least, that he doesn’t own up to what he’s feeling. Instead, he plays what Dr. Malkin calls “emotional hot potato,” ascribing his feelings to you. Read More.
TRUE DO-GOODERS DON'T DO GOOD FOR 'LIKES' ON SOCIAL MEDIA
The Straits Times, 08-Aug-2017
According to Dr. Craig Malkin, who wrote the book, Rethinking Narcissism, communal narcissists regard themselves as especially nurturing, understanding and empathetic. They proudly announce how much they give to charity or how little they spend on themselves. Communal narcissists come from many walks of life. Read More.
DIAGNOSING AND TREATING NARCISSISM
The Carlat Report, 10-Jul-2017
At its heart, pathological narcissism is a desperate need to feel special—in fact, you can call it an addiction to feeling special. The confusing thing is that we tend to focus on one presentation, which is the loud, arrogant, conceited narcissist, but that’s only one type. Click here to get the full article from The Carlat Report. Click here to get the full article from The Carlat Report.
TRUMP ASKS WHY OBAMA ‘DID NOTHING’ TO STOP RUSSIA’S ‘MEDDLING’ IN PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION
One response over Twitter from Dr. Craig Malkin summed up some of the of critical responses to the Trump tweet. Read More.
THE REAL NARCISSISTS
Willing Ways, 15-Jun-2017
One response over Twitter from Dr. The label is everywhere, but it's widely misused to describe anyone who offends us. The truth? A little narcissism is good for you. Read More.
ON A CAROUSEL WITH A NARCISSIST? 5 STEPS TO GET OFF
The problem with seeing the narcissist as the Big Bad Wolf is that you expect him to behave horribly in obvious ways and that’s probably not going to happen. The truth is that he’s a master of grand gestures which Dr. Craig Malkin has identified as his tactic of stealth control.
IN DELUSIONAL TWEET, TRUMP CLAIMS ‘VINDICATION’ FROM ‘LEAKER’ COMEY. GETS EPIC RESPONSE
Political D!g, 09-Jun-2017
Dr. Malkin fires back about Comey's firing. Read More.
THREE WAYS TO SPOT A NARCISSIST
No one wants to be accused of being a narcissist: someone with an excessive interest in themselves. But how can you tell if you (or someone you know) is a narcissist? When does self-interest become self-limiting? The answer lies in knowing the difference between healthy and unhealthy narcissism. Read More.
ECHOISM: THE FLIP SIDE OF NARCISSISM.
Elephant Journal, 31-May-2017
Echoists tend to be introverted because they’ve learned it’s unsafe to express themselves. Read More.
9 THINGS YOU NEED TO DO IF YOU’RE INVOLVED WITH A NARCISSIST
Because narcissists in popular culture are portrayed as bad guys and gals, many people expect a straightforward scenario—like being locked up in a dungeon by someone who acts like a thug or being derided or humiliated publicly front of other people. Nope, that’s not how the narcissist plays it.
9 THINGS A NARCISSIST WILL NEVER DO
What the person high in narcissistic traits doesn’t do constitutes a pattern of its own and, in many ways, makes him easier to identify. Once you’ve focused on what he isn’t doing, you can see that what motivates him isn’t the need to connect to you in any meaningful way—which is, of course, what you’ve been hoping for all along—but a very private and specific agenda which is making sure that his vision of himself stays protected and invulnerable.
IN PRAISE OF SELFISH WOMEN
We all have narcissistic tendencies that can be roughly measured on a scale of 1 to 10, with the most problematic cases at either end of the spectrum. Read More.
DONALD TRUMP WAGES WAR AGAINST REPUBLICANS OF THE FREEDOM CAUCUS — AND TWITTER LAUGHS AT THE HYPOCRISY!
Perez Hilton, 30-Mar-2017
Dr. Malkin was quick to criticize to the President's latest divisive remarks.
NARSISIZME YENI BIR BAKIŞ (TURKISH)
Lately, everyone is talking about narcissism. In newspapers and magazines, in television programs, on the internet, in everyday conversations, this word comes out constantly. It is mostly used with negative connotations and accepted by many as an "epidemic". What is the cause of narcissism and, worst of all, is it bad? Read More.
10 PROJECTIONS FROM THE MIND OF A NARCISSIST
Power of Positivity, 10-Mar-2017
There’s a long-standing belief…that narcissists actually feel great about themselves…Savvier researchers recognized that the emperor had no clothes…They hooked the narcissists up to a lie detector (fake) then asked them how they felt about themselves. Suddenly, their high self-esteem vanished... Read More.
DOES YOUR SIGNATURE REVEAL YOU ARE A NARCISSIST? RESEARCHERS FIND LARGE SIGNATURES ARE A SIGN OF DARK TRAITS
Daily Mail, 27-Feb-2017
A study analyzing the signatures of 500 chief financial officers found that signature size is linked only to the dark elements of narcissism. Read More.
PATIENT IN CHIEF
The Huffington Post, 25-Feb-2017
Narcissism is best understood as a drive to feel special, to stand out from the rest of the 7 billion people on the planet. At its healthiest, it can engender big dreams, charisma, and ambition. Read More.
WHEN YOUR BOSS IS A NARCISSIST
Psychology Today, 08-Jan-2017
Narcissists are ego-driven, big-headed, cold-blooded individuals who expect total loyalty from others without being loyal in return. According to Dr. Craig Malkin, Harvard Medical School Lecturer and author of Rethinking Narcissism, narcissists want to feel important. Read More.
IN THE PRESS | 2016
9 LITTLE WAYS TO MAKE YOUR HUSBAND FEEL BUTTERFLIES AGAIN
Coastal Courier, 20-Dec-2016
You two still love each other — but the days are getting duller. Your husband is a great man, but sometimes it's difficult to rekindle the spark you once had. If your husband needs a bit of a nudge, here are some small ways to give the him butterflies he had when you were dating.
22 SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE A NARCISSIST
Midland Daily News, 09-Dec-2016
The "very fact of having a feeling in the presence of another person suggests you can be touched emotionally by friends, family, partners, and even the occasional tragedy or failure," Harvard Medical School psychologist Craig Malkin writes in The Huffington Post. That's why narcissists avoid emotional displays. Read More.
LIFE AFTER YOU: RECOVERING FROM A NARCISSIST
It’s often only at the end that you may fully appreciate how much of you has been chipped away over the course of the relationship.
SEXUAL ASSAULT AWARENESS MONTH
Kerry Hayes, 04-Nov-2016
“Eventually there’s sort of this wearing down for people on the receiving end of the abuse where they continue to tolerate more and over time feel less entitled to safety.” Read More.
NARCISSISTIC PARENTING: ITS HARMFUL & LONG-TERM SIDE EFFECTS ON CHILDREN
Parent Herald, 30-Oct-2016
Children with parents who have narcissistic personality disorder display side effects, with chronic self-blame among them. According to a The Huffington Post report penned by clinical psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin, narcissistic parents are emotionally tone deaf and they are too absorbed in themselves to focus on their child's pleas or pains. Read More.
WHY WE CAN'T STOP READING ABOUT TRUMP
LA Weekly, 30-Oct-2016
"Absolutely, we are attracted to this kind of extroverted narcissist," Malkin says. "They’re more outgoing, they tend to be chest-thumping, glib, show a lot of braggadocio. They’re overwhelmingly rated as more attractive, whether they’re physically attractive or not. Narcissists are more likely to take risks." Read More.
8 COMMON EFFECTS OF NARCISSISTIC PARENTING
The Huffington Post, 27-Oct-2016
What happens to the development of our personality when we live in the shadow of narcissistic parent? Here are eight of the most common effects. Read More.
DO YOU HAVE A NARCISSIST IN YOUR LIFE? THESE TRAITS CAN BE TELLTALE SIGNS.
When narcissists feel vulnerable, they don’t want to process those feelings. Instead, they put others down to bolster their self-esteem, what Craig Malkin calls playing “emotional hot potato.” Read More.
IS THERE SOMEONE ELSE NARCISSUS?
Dr. Gail Beck, 23-Oct-2016
Narcissism is a word that gets used a lot these days, mostly because of the American election, but I am absolutely going to say nothing else about that because I want to focus on the central message of Craig Malkin’s 2015 book Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad – and Surprisingly Good – About Feeling Special. Read More.
NARCISSISTS ARE EVERYWHERE — BUT THEY MAY NOT BE THE PEOPLE YOU THINK THEY ARE
The Washington Post, 07-Oct-2016
Some true narcissists are obsessed with helping other people — kind of self-aggrandizement through martyrdom. We’ve all met people like this, Craig Malkin, author of “Rethinking Narcissism,” tells Webber — “self-sacrificing to the point where you can’t stand to be in the room with them.” Other narcissists might have so damaged a sense of self that they cannot handle criticism and become highly introverted. Read More.
BOOSTING YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE MAY BE KEY TO WINNING AND KEEPING FRIENDS.
"Part of it is the self-centeredness of the personality," he said. "With narcissism, you are looking for the power and status. That can interfere with relationships over time if what you are looking for is status over warmth and caring." Read More.
IS HE OR SHE AN ADDICT FIRST? OR A NARCISSIST FIRST?
Psychology Today, 03-Oct-2016
Deep down, is every addict also a narcissist? And is every narcissist actually an addict? These are the difficult questions that the partner of a narcissist and addict has to explore and answer for him or herself. Read More.
IS IT TIME TO GET HELP? NARCISSISM EPIDEMIC.
Aquarius Magazine, 01-Oct-2016
Malkin argues that modern society is no more narcissistic than previous generations, merely that today’s show off has more platforms on which to do it. He says, “Technology is only as healthy as our use of it. Research suggests that people largely express their personalities though social media: extroverts are more extroverted, introverts are more introverted, narcissists are more narcissistic.”
WHY UNLOVED DAUGHTERS FALL FOR NARCISSISTS
Feelings of anger and jealousy can easily be triggered in an anxious person by the threat of separation or a perceived slight; the narcissist in your life knows this about you and he’s likely to play this reactivity to his advantage. Narcissists are expert at projecting their feelings onto you; it’s what Dr. Craig Malkin calls playing “emotional hot potato” in his book Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.
5 MOMENTS GETTING BACK TOGETHER WITH AN EX IS A WASTE OF TIME
Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist at Harvard Medical School says those who are abused usually rationalize the situation. “People wind up blaming themselves for the abusive behavior of their partners. They convince themselves if they approach the person differently, maybe they won’t be abused.” He also says that having a relationship with an abusive partner is like a gambling addiction, “the person being abused is focused on the positive and waiting for the next positive.” Read More.
HOW NARCISSISM HURTS US ALL
Craig Malkin, the author of Rethinking Narcissism, warns that expecting a one-size-fits-all manifestation of narcissism is likely to cloud your judgment when you encounter one who runs against the popular grain.
WHAT TO DO WHEN A WOMAN DOESN’T LIKE YOU
True Viral News, 15-Sep-2016
The truth being that “people are attracted to us, or not, for all sorts for reasons that are beyond our control. We worry about the right word, the right approach, the right clothes, all because we’re convinced that if we craft ourselves in the perfect way, we’ll find a great date.”
5 THINGS A NARCISSIST NEVER DOES
Think of it more like a jolt of energy that accompanies any intense feeling and courses through your nervous system. A big dose of arousal ramps up our feelings of attraction. Anxiety excites. Anger entices. Terror titillates. Unfortunately, as far as our bodies are concerned, uncertainty is as good a source of passion as any other feeling.
THE REAL NARCISSISTS (COVER FEATURE)
Psychology Today Magazine, 01-Sep-2016
Dr. Malkin is featured in this month's cover story of Psychology Today. Read More.
DOES YOUR OFFICE HAVE A CLEAR HIERARCHY? THEN YOU COULD BE A NARCISSIST, RESEARCHERS SAY.
Daily Mail, 17-Aug-2016
People who have narcissistic tendencies are more likely to work in an office with a clear hierarchy, researchers have found. They discovered those with narcissistic traits tended to support hierarchical businesses and organizations when they were either at the top of the hierarchy or when they expected they could rise to the top. Read More.
LINDSAY LOHAN EXPOSES A SAD REALITY ABOUT ABUSE
Many people in abusive relationships faced domestic abuse as children or watched one of their parents suffer in an abusive relationship. Read More.
4 KEYS TO LEAVING A BAD RELATIONSHIP
The Huffington Post, 08-Aug-2016
Self-blame comes in handy when a relationship no longer works and leaving feels too painful. If we convince ourselves that someone’s being hurtful or insensitive because of our own failings, there’s still hope. All we have to do is improve. If I’m the problem, then the happiness of the relationship is entirely in my hands. It’s a solution that preserves hope at the expense of our self-esteem. Read More.
DID YOU MARRY A NARCISSIST?
The caricature of the narcissist the culture embraces—the guy so full of himself that every sentence begins with “I,” the bully who’s easy to spot from just a few yards, the control freak out in the open—is, according to Craig Malkin, far from the truth.
WHY AMERICA CAN’T GET ENOUGH OF TRUMP’S CAMPAIGN OF SPECTACLE
The Buffalo News, 17-Jul-2016
Most politicians are narcissists, Malkin said, and voters usually can discern the healthy ones from the rest.
I'M SPECIAL! THE SCIENCE OF NARCISSISM
While narcissism is often considered a bad thing, does it have to be? Psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin isn’t sure. He sat down with Canvas8 to explain what healthy narcissism looks like. Read More.
THESE SIMPLE STEPS WILL IMPROVE YOUR DATING LIFE
There’s nothing sexier than a woman who knows how to carry herself–and someone who is confident enough not to seek another person’s approval is definitely attractive. Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a Harvard psychologist says that confidence makes you seem more trustworthy and the lack of it “may even unintentionally spoil the attraction. Read More.
IS NARCISSISM ALL BAD?
Narcissism is more than a stubborn character flaw or a severe mental illness or a rapidly spreading cultural disease, transmitted by social media. Read More.
7 HOURS OF CEC CREDIT FOR RETHINKING NARCISSISM
Web Wire, 21-Jun-2016
With this being the final month for mental health professionals to obtain their licensing hours through continuing education credits, if you or a colleague is in the process of gathering credits, the book Rethinking Narcissism by Dr. Craig Malkin could be perfect for you! Read More.
THE SECRET TO SPOTTING SUBTLE NARCISSISTS
The Huffington Post, 20-Jun-2016
Subtle narcissism is marked by an entitlement surge — those moments when a normally understanding friend or partner or coworker angrily behaves as if the world owes them. It’s usually triggered by a sudden fear that their special status has been threatened in some way. Read More.
WHY RECOVERING FROM THE NARCISSIST IN YOUR LIFE IS SO HARD
Psychology Today, 20-Jun-2016
One of the most dizzyingly disorienting experiences about uncovering layers of lies is that you end up questioning your judgment about everything, especially if you had a partner who covered his or her tracks by trying to convince you that you were ‘crazy’ or ‘paranoid.’ Read More.
A NARCISSISTIC LEADER TENDS TO MOVE TOWARDS BEING A FASCIST LEADER
Intuitive fred888, 09-Jun-2016
Craig Malkin calls a lack of healthy narcissism "echoism" after the nypmh Echo in the mythology of Narcissus. Read More.
4 REASONS A NARCISSIST IS LIKE CATNIP–AT FIRST…
The narcissist likes to be in control and unless you are willing to park your own needs by the door in perpetuity, there are bound to be conflicts—lots of them. Additionally, the narcissist is an expert at playing games and manipulating others; he plays what Dr. Malkin calls “emotional hot potato,” meaning that he denies his own feelings and projects them onto you.
THE COMMUNAL NARCISSIST: ANOTHER WOLF WEARING A SHEEP OUTFIT
Psychology Today, 24-May-2016
In his book Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin distinguishes between three types of narcissists—the extrovert, the introvert, and the communal. Read More.
WHY WE STILL THINK ABOUT RODIN'S 'THE THINKER,' NOW SITTING PENSIVELY AT THE PEABODY ESSEX
90.9 WBUR, 16-May-2016
Malkin is author of the book, “Rethinking Narcissism,” and blogs for The Huffington Post. For him, "The Thinker" is open to interpretation, and he believes our reactions to the sculpture tell us something about ourselves. Read More.
13 THINGS YOU MUST KNOW IF YOU ARE DIVORCING A NARCISSIST
Psychology Today, 11-May-2016
“A good therapist,” says Malkin, “should talk to you about the possibility of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, common in abuse survivors, even when the only abuse has been serial infidelity.” Keep in mind that your lawyer isn’t a therapist, and your therapist isn’t an attorney. Read More.
FEATURED IN PSYCHOLOGIE HEUTE - GERMAN PUBLICATION
Featured In Psychologie Heute - German Publication, 01-May-2016
Ich finde mich prima! Sie stellen sich selbst in den Mittelpunkt und haben kein Ohr und kein Herz für die anderen: Extreme Narzissten sind eine Plage. Doch zu eine gewissen Grad sind wir fast alle narzisstisch. Wir sind von uns eingenommen, halten uns für besser, als wir tatsächlich sind. Und das ist gut so!
WHAT IT TAKES — 2016: EXCERPT II FROM ‘BRIGHT, INFINITE, FUTURE’
The Huffington Post, 28-Apr-2016
While a strong ego is necessary to survive the political gauntlet, if it’s too large then a person can plunge over the cliff into narcissism if not solipsism, a place where others exist only for your enhancement. And extreme self-absorption is inconsistent with the public good or maintaining public support. Read More.
13 HONEST CONFESSIONS FROM PEOPLE MARRIED TO NARCISSISTS
The Huffington Post, 27-Apr-2016
Keep in mind that not everyone who’s vain or self-absorbed necessarily has the disorder. Narcissism exists on a spectrum, according to Dr. Craig Malkin, an instructor of psychology at Harvard University and the author of Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — and Surprising Good — About Feeling Special. Here are some signs to look out for. Read More.
HOW ARE WE FOOLED BY A NARCISSIST? (LEARN HOW!)
Surviving Narcissistic Abuse, 13-Apr-2016
While many descriptions of narcissistic behavior would have you imagine someone who begins every sentence with “I” and demands that everything be done his way, it’s actually more complicated than that. You don’t fall for it because you’re stupid but because you misread his motivation.
UNDERSTANDING THE LANGUAGE OF THE NARCISSIST
PR Newswire, 12-Apr-2016
In reading her book, I have found myself instead becoming her fan." Dr. Craig Malkin, Psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School and author of the critically acclaimed book, "Rethinking Narcissism," totes Swithin's work, "After years of research as an advocate, Swithin knows enough about these disorders to put some clinicians to shame. If you need to start over, this is the woman you want holding your hand through the process." Read More.
WARUM DIE DIAGNOSE NARZISSMUS ETWAS GUTES HAT
Die Welt, 12-Apr-2016
Malkin takes the word narcissism and shows how adaptive it is for people to feel valuable. Read More.
FEATURED IN DIE WELT - GERMAN PUBLICATION
Featured in Literarische Welt - German Publication, 09-Apr-2016
Verdammt, ich lieb mich. Craig Malkin erklart Narzissmus als Adaptionsstrategie.
HOW TO SPOT (AND WORK WITH) THE OFFICE NARCISSIST
Fast Company, 08-Apr-2016
We can get too focused on that stereotype that we miss the danger signs that have nothing to do with greed or vanity. Narcissism is a spectrum of self-importance, and everyone falls somewhere on the scale between utter selflessness and total arrogance, says Malkin. Read More.
ERST ICH – UND DANN DIE ANDEREN
Narcissism occurs, according to Malkin, on a graded scale. He deems insufficient narcissism to be harmful. "The less someone thinks something better, the more he takes himself back until he has such a low self-esteem that he finds himself worthless and powerless." Read More.
IN THE PRESS | 2015
IS TRUMP’S NARCISSISM REALLY A BAD THING?
The Goodmen Project, 26-Dec-2015
We paint narcissism as a bad thing, but in truth, what we call narcissism contains components of healthy functioning. The challenge, Dr. Malkin points out, is when these ingredients are in bad proportions. Read More.
9 THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT LOVING AGAIN AFTER EMOTIONAL ABUSE
The Huffington Post, 17-Dec-2015
Letting friends fall to the wayside leaves you completely dependent on one person for connection, making it that much more difficult to leave.
ARE YOU A NARCISSIST?
Curtis Yungen, 15-Dec-2015
Not all narcissists are this obvious. The more subtle narcissists may seem self-effacing and modest, but they secretly harbor an unhealthy sense of entitlement which will suddenly rear its ugly head when they fear their special status has been threatened in some way.
BOOK REVIEW: RETHINKING NARCISSISM
Eating Disorders Blogs, 07-Dec-2015
Whether the Narcissist in your life is a spouse/partner, adult child, parent, boss or co-worker, Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad—and Surprisingly Good—About Feeling Special by Dr. Craig Malkin, will help you deal with him or her rather than eat over the distress they’re bound to generate.
THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE REJECTION FROM WOMEN
Men's Health, 04-Dec-2015
"There is no right move,” Malkin says. “Some women might even like the guy who seems a little nervous or quiet. One women’s Adonis is another’s Quasimodo — and vice versa."
8 QS TO ASK TO KNOW IF YOUR JEALOUSY IS NORMAL (OR WAY OUT OF HAND)
Your Tango, 28-Nov-2015
A little jealousy is totally normal, but are you the green goblin? Jealousy is rarely a black and white issue, and it is rarely objective, either.
7 TIPS FOR CHOOSING THE NEXT PRESIDENT
Credit goes to Craig Malkin, a Harvard psychologist and author of "A Psychologist's Open Letter To U.S. Voters." His subtitle caught my eye: "A research-backed guide to picking the next president." Facts and logic affecting an election? Now, that's interesting. Read More.
THE 100 MOST FOLLOWED PSYCHOLOGISTS AND NEUROSCIENTISTS ON TWITTER!
The British Psychology Society, 18-Nov-2015
The 100 most followed psychologists and neuroscientists on Twitter based on follower counts recorded over the last few weeks.
SECRET SIGNS OF NARCISSISM
Oprah Weekly, 16-Nov-2015
Are you in a toxic relationship without knowing it? A Harvard researcher explains how to identify people that may hurt you—and how to protect your emotional health.
5 THINGS PSYCHOLOGISTS WISH THEIR PATIENTS WOULD DO
Everyday Health, 16-Nov-2015
“Many of my clients berate themselves for each and every mistake,” he says. But research shows that this kind of self-punishment is the worst way to change behavior. “We’d all do much better celebrating our moments of success than laying into ourselves for our ‘failures,’” he says. Read More.
READ THIS TO MOVE YOUR LIFE FORWARD
Oprah's Book Club 2.0, 12-Nov-2015
Is there someone in your life who's hurting you and you just don't know it? In this Harvard researcher's illuminating—reads-like-a-novel—book, he reveals how to identify and repair your relationships to live with more fulfillment. Click here for more details.
THIS IS A SALES CALL, NOT A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL
Don't allow emotional neediness to derail your confidence. Instead, switch to connectedness, which Dr. Craig Malkin defines as a valuing of relationships and sensitivity to the effects of our actions on others. Read More.
THINK CAREFULLY BEFORE CALLING SOMEONE A NARCISSIST
Catholic Herald, 29-Oct-2015
Dr Malkin teaches at Harvard Medical School, and in his book he gives fascinating insights which have helped me understand what is ‘unhealthy narcissism’.
LETTERS: THE CULTURE OF NARCISSISM
New York Times, 23-Oct-2015
The question of why the public currently seems fascinated enough by apparent narcissists to buy their products and turn them into celebrities is not addressed. Read More.
23 THOUGHTS ON “READER QUESTION: ABOUT THIS BLOG…?”
An Upturned Soul, 15-Oct-2015
Information about the narcissistic continuum is finally being offered to the public. Dr. Craig Malkin has written an excellent book. Read More.
CAN A NARCISSIST EVER REALLY CHANGE? THE EXPERTS WEIGH IN
Yes, Narcissists CAN Change - "I’m going to go on record as saying yes—I do believe it’s possible for people to change, even if they’ve been diagnosed with something as deeply entrenched and formidable as a personality disorder,..." Read More.
21 SIGNS YOU'RE A NARCISSIST
The "very fact of having a feeling in the presence of another person suggests you can be touched emotionally by friends, family, partners, and even the occasional tragedy or failure," says Harvard Medical School psychologist Craig Malkin. Read More.
I AM A NARCISSIST. THAT'S A GOOD THING.
Psychology Today, 13-Oct-2015
"Chock full of eminently practical advice on how to cope with the dangers of narcissism, in ourselves and others, Rethinking Narcissism brings much needed compassion and clarity to one of the most vexing problems in mental health without ever resorting to false hopes or naivete. In that way, the book itself is special.”—Tom Wooton, Huffington Post Blogger and author of The Bipolar Advantage Read More.
6 SIGNS YOU WERE RAISED BY A NARCISSIST
Huffington Post, 12-Oct-2015
A narcissistic parent will trample all over their family to address their own desires without giving much thought to what anyone else needs. Because of this, some adult children of narcissists will actually overcorrect and bend over backwards to make sure no one could ever possibly perceive them this way. Alternately, they may have grown up all their lives being told that their needs don’t matter. Either way, the result is the same: They let people walk all over them because they’re not in touch with what they need and they don’t know how to express it. Read More.
RIHANNA POIGNANTLY EXPLAINS WHY SHE WENT BACK TO CHRIS BROWN
Craig Malkin, PhD, a clinical psychologist at Harvard Medical School, offered a helpful analogy for this mental barrier: He likened the dysfunctional relationship to an addiction. “The person being abused is focused on the positive and waiting for the next positive. There’s a psychological effect like gambling: the moments of tenderness and intimacy are unpredictable, but they are so intense and fulfilling that the victim winds up staying in the hopes that a moment like that will happen again.” Read More.
8 WAYS TO TELL IF YOU'RE IN A HEALTHY PLACE ON THE JEALOUSY SPECTRUM
We recently published an article on this site by Dr. Craig Malkin about how narcissism exists on a spectrum -- and either end of this spectrum is a rather unhealthy place to be. That's how we first started thinking about this idea of jealousy existing on a spectrum, too.
OCTOBER’S BOOK OF THE MONTH: RETHINKING NARCISSISM
Patrick Betdavid, 01-Oct-2015
Harvard Medical School psychologist and Huffington Post blogger Craig Malkin addresses the “narcissism epidemic,” by illuminating the spectrum of narcissism, identifying ways to control the trait, and explaining how too little of it may be a bad thing. Read More.
3 SIGNS YOU NEED A NARCISSIST EXIT STRATEGY
The pattern of a relationship with a narcissist often goes like this: a flurry of attention, a huge romantic drama... then nothing. Or your partner seems to care but you keep feeling worthless, neglected or alone. 'The good and bad coexist,' says Dr Malkin. 'We stay for the good. But you don't have to wait for physical abuse to leave.' So when should you leave? Read More.
WHAT’S YOUR NARCISSIST SCORE?
‘Narcissists can be aloof, insensitive, entitled – but not all the time,’ says Malkin. ‘They’re difficult to live with. It’s confusing for people in relationships, there’s no ongoing abuse that’s a reason to leave the relationship but things don't feel right, don't feel secure. Partners often don’t feel special in the lives of milder narcissists, more like one of the crowd.’ Other varieties of narcissist are the ‘fair-weather friend’ or a ‘ruthless co-worker’. Read More.
YOU, ME, AND THE NARCISSIST NEXT DOOR
Psychology Today, 29-Sep-2015
In Dr. Malkin’s view, both the echoist and the narcissist are products of their childhoods, with what he terms insecure love identified at the culprit. While acknowledging that nature does play a role—personality traits such as introversion or extraversion, a higher narcissistic drive in some children or a more fragile nature in others—he lands firmly in the court of nurture, arguing that what pushes people to one end or another of the spectrum is how they are parented.
WHY EMOTIONAL ABUSE IS SUCH A NEGLECTED TOPIC
The Covington News, 25-Sep-2015
There are other factors that make it even more difficult to pick out those that are suffering from emotional abuse. One clinical psychologist and author, Dr. Craig Malkin explains about a common type of emotional abuse that sometimes both the victim and the abuser have no idea they are playing the roles in an abusive relationship.
‘SELFISH,’ BY KIM KARDASHIAN WEST, AND MORE
The New York Times, 22-Sep-2015
“Narcissism isn’t all bad,” he writes. “In fact, some narcissism is good — even vital — for us to lead happy, fulfilled and productive lives.” He writes that “creativity, leadership and high self-esteem” are associated with the feeling that one is better than average. Read More.
Why a Little Narcissism Can Be Healthy
Quiet Revolution, 08-Sep-2015
Confusing introversion and narcissism is a common mistake. The irony of the introvert’s experience in the boisterous, extroverted world, where loud debating and relentless socializing are the norm, is that the least selfish people end up being accused of being narcissists: entitled, aloof, and insensitive. But nothing could be further from the truth: most introverts actually need to feel more, not less, entitled—at least when it comes to enjoying their inner lives. They need more pride, more confidence, and more appreciation of what makes them unique. Read More.
Healthy Narcissism? 8 Ways To Be (A Bit) More Like Donald Trump
WBUR Blog, NPR affiliate, 07-Sep-2015
Dr. Craig Malkin, author of the new book, “Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — And Surprising Good — About Feeling Special.” A clinical psychologist and instructor at Harvard Medical School, he begins with a massive disclaimer: “I would not advise anyone to emulate Donald Trump in a lot of the ways that he behaves.”
But broadly speaking, he says, it’s a myth that narcissism is all bad. In fact, narcissism is a trait, not a diagnosis, Malkin says; it’s a drive to feel special. And it exists on a spectrum, unhealthy mainly at the extremes. Read More.
Smart Advice For When You Disagree Over What’s Really Risky For Your Kid
If you're the risk-taking parent, Dr. Malkin says, "The first question should always be, 'What is it that has you worried? I love you and don't want you to be scared about what happens to our child, so can you tell me what you picture might happen?' You want your partner to really spell it out."