DR. MALKIN QUOTED IN THE PRESS - 2024

Can a Narcissist Really Change for the Right Woman? (10 Warning Signs)

eNotAlone, 23-Oct-2024

Understanding these differences is critical in recognizing the specific behaviors of a narcissist in your life. As Dr. Craig Malkin explains in “Rethinking Narcissism,” we all have some level of narcissistic traits, but what distinguishes pathological narcissism is the consistent harm it does to relationships and self-worth. Read More.

If you recognize these 10 behaviors, you’re dealing with a low-key narcissist

Small Business Bonfire, 21-Oct-2024

Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist at Harvard Medical School, explains that narcissism isn’t about love or hate for oneself but rather a “addiction to feeling special." Read More.

Narcissist and Flying Monkeys – What Does it Mean?

Soulitinerary, 18-Oct-2024

Dr. Craig Malkin, a well-known psychologist and author of Rethinking Narcissism, explains, “Narcissists are driven by a deep need to feel special, which makes them highly sensitive to criticism and prone to seeking admiration at the expense of others.” Read More.

How To Deal with Narcissists: Expert Tips to Manage Toxic Behavior and Stand Your Ground

Womens World, 10-Oct-2024

“Instead of asking yourself, ‘Am I the problem? Should I be more sensitive?’ ask yourself, ‘Am I happy?’ Am I getting what I need?” advises clinical psychologist and lecturer for Harvard Medical School, Craig Malkin, PhD, author of Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.

Why Do Toxic People Seem So Charming at First?

The Serenity Scrub, 8-Oct-2024

Many toxic individuals possess an uncanny ability to be exceptionally charming in the beginning stages of a relationship. Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and author of Rethinking Narcissism, explains that toxic people, particularly narcissists, are adept at reading others and knowing exactly what they want to hear. Read More.

7 Surprising Signs You're Dating a Communal Narcissist

eNotAlone, 2-Oct-2024

As Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist, notes, “Narcissists don't just want attention. They need it to feel like they matter.” This craving for attention is at the core of communal narcissism, where doing good is just another means to get applause. Read More.

Happiness Isn’t Something You Find. It’s Something You Create

Michele Lian, 28-Sept-2024

Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret To Recognizing And Coping With Narcissists by Dr. Craig Malkin I never realized narcissists existed until I became tangled up with one for several years. It was only after I discovered what a narcissist was that I understood the damage that had been done to me. Read More.

Can Two Narcissists Really Get Along? (Surprising Signs)

eNotAlone, 26-Sept-2024

Psychologically speaking, narcissists have a deep fear of vulnerability. Dr. Craig Malkin, author of "Rethinking Narcissism," explains, “Narcissists use grandiosity to shield themselves from feeling insignificant.” In a relationship, this defense mechanism means neither partner wants to let their guard down. They're too busy trying to outshine each other to experience genuine connection. Read More.

RECOGNIZE AND TEST NARCISSISM (German)

Sylvia Pietzko, 20-Sept-2024

Narcissism is a scale, according to American psychiatrist Dr. Craig Malkin. All people are on it, whether they like it or not, whether they accept it or repress it. The healthy middle and thus a stable balanced self-esteem must be strived for. Because narcissism has a lot to do with one's own self-esteem. Read More.

10 Ways to Cope with a Narcissistic Husband (Now)

eNotAlone, 19-Sept-2024

According to Dr. Craig Malkin, author of " Rethinking Narcissism," it's possible for narcissists to change—but only if they're willing to seek help and recognize the impact of their behavior on others. Unfortunately, getting to that point is rare without a major life crisis forcing self-reflection. Read More.

16 Things Narcissists Intentionally Do To Hurt You On Purpose

MSN, 28-Aug-2024

Narcissists are known for their manipulative and toxic behavior, often causing significant pain and harm to those around them. Dr. Craig Malkin, a Harvard Medical School psychologist, explains that narcissists possess an inflated sense of self-importance and lack empathy, making it easy for them to intentionally hurt others without remorse. Read More.

Bullies Are Everywhere These Days—Here’s How to Respond to Them

Encompass Counseling, 18-Aug-2024

‘They exploit others, doing whatever it takes to feel special,” Malkin said. “They feel entitled, acting as if the world owes them and should bend to their will. And they lack empathy, often becoming so fixated on the need to feel special that they stop caring about the feelings of others.” Read More.

Psychology of People Who Like to Prey on Vulnerable People

Soulitinerary, 13-Aug-2024

Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, explains that such individuals have an inflated sense of self-importance and are driven by a relentless pursuit of recognition. To them, vulnerable people are just a means to an end, serving their insatiable appetite for attention and validation. Read More.

Can “Grey Rock” Work As A Communication Strategy With A Narcissistic Co-Parent?

Forbes, 9-Aug-2024

According to Dr. Craig Malkin, author of “Rethinking Narcissism”, narcissism “is most problematic when people become dependent on the feeling of superiority and seek it at all costs, displaying the triple ‘E”: entitlement, exploitation and a lack of empathy.” Read More.

The Three Types of Narcissists Identified by a New Study (Italian)

Vanity Fair, 6-Aug-2024

Psychologist Craig Malkin, professor at Harvard Medical School and author of Rethinking Narcissism, confirms that - if left to their own devices - "extremely narcissistic people will not change". Read More.

Narcissist Magnet: Why you always attract toxic people (German)

Dr. Reinhard Pichler, 29-Jul-2024

“Narcissism becomes a disorder when it interferes with a person’s functioning in relationships and other important areas of life.” – Dr. Craig Malkin, Harvard Medical School Read More.

How to end a relationship with a narcissist? (Spanish)

Cosmopolitan, 25-Jul-2024

Planning your breakup carefully and strategically is essential when dealing with a narcissist. Dr. Craig Malkin, author of “Rethinking Narcissism,” recommends choosing an appropriate time and place for the conversation, and making sure you have a safe exit plan. Read More.

5 Things “Highly Narcissistic” People Always Do in Relationships, According to a Harvard Psychologist (Spanish)

Latercera, 24-Jul-2024

Psychologist Craig Malkin listed a series of attitudes that are implicitly present and that tend to appear in the early stages of a relationship. Read More.

Is narcissism really on the rise? Here’s what it is and how to recognize it

Deseret News, 12-Jul-2024

Craig Malkin, author of “Rethinking Narcissism,” told the New York Times that people in this frame of mind will display the “triple E,” which includes “entitlement, exploitation and a lack of empathy.” Read More.

Can a Narcissist Change? Exploring the Myths & Truths

Grace Being, 2-Jul-2024

Dr. Craig Malkin, a Harvard Medical School lecturer, emphasizes that personality is not fixed and that relational patterns play a significant role. Read More.

‘Narcissistic abuse’ has gone mainstream. But what is it?

The Washington Post, 1-Jul-2024

“It’s the triple E: exploitation, entitlement and empathy impairment,” said clinical psychologist Craig Malkin, author of “Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists.” “That’s the core of pathological narcissism.” Read More.

Miley Cyrus is a self-confessed narcissist – could you be one too?

Independent, 1-Jul-2024

Dr Craig Malkin, a leading clinical psychologist, Harvard Medical School lecturer and the author of Rethinking Narcissism, draws a clear line between healthy and unhealthy narcissism. “When I looked at all the research, it became clear that the core of narcissism is something called self-enhancement. And self-enhancement is the drive to feel special, exceptional or unique. It’s not self-esteem. It’s not self-confidence. It’s a slightly overly positive view of self.” Read More.

7 Steps to Stop Being a Narcissist

eNot Alone, 18-Jun-2024

According to Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and author of Rethinking Narcissism, narcissism exists on a spectrum. Recognizing where you fall on this spectrum is essential. Read More.

12 Signs of Addictive Love (Is It Addiction or Love?)

eNot Alone, 7-Jun-2024

Dr. Craig Malkin, a renowned clinical psychologist, delves into how emotional paralysis from feeling trapped can fuel addiction and dependency, offering insights into breaking the cycle of narcissism in relationships. Read More.

Needy people: 6 things they do (and how to deal with them)

Hack Spirit, 7-Jun-2024

Dr. Craig Malkin highlights how individuals with anxious attachment often seek others' approval before making decisions, a behavior rooted in childhood neglect that leads to dependency and fear of rejection. Read More.

9 things a narcissist will do when you challenge their authority

The Expert Editor, 22-May-2024

Renowned psychologist and author, Dr. Craig Malkin, once said, “Narcissism isn’t about love at all…It’s about a constant hunger for recognition.” When we view their reactions through this lens, we can better understand their behaviors for what they truly are – desperate attempts to maintain an inflated sense of self. Read More.

4 Behaviors That Unmask a Hidden Narcissist

Psychology Today, 22-May-2024

Kudos to Craig Malkin for giving this a name and for singling it out as one of the narcissist’s behaviors. Malkin identifies “hot potato” as a form of projection. Read More.

People who are deeply self-absorbed usually display these 10 behaviors (without realizing it)

Global English Editing, 17-May-2024

Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and author of “Rethinking Narcissism,” points out that narcissism (a trait often associated with self-absorption) isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It becomes problematic only when it’s excessive or deficient. Read More.

Interview with Dr. Craig Malkin, the Author of Rethinking Narcissism (PODCAST)

The Release Podcast, 13-May-2024

On today’s episode we talk about whether it is even possible, to narcissist-proof, and narcissism-proof — our children. We look at how his mom’s behavior affected his worldview, and whether he could transfer his distilled empathy into a career as an FBI hostage negotiator (you know, if this Harvard Medical school thing didn’t pan out). We discuss the spectrum that goes from healthy narcissism and confidence to unhealthy narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and what percent of people fall into each bucket. We explore whether social media, the fracturing of the extended family, or our fame-focused culture are to blame for the rise in narcissism in general. Read More.

Harvard Psychologist Shares 5 Toxic Things 'Highly Narcissistic' People Always Do

Microsoft Start, 11-May-2024

A Harvard psychologist named Craig Malkin published an article in CNBC that confirmed that signs of extreme narcissism are frequently recognizable through behaviors such as bragging, dominating conversations, and making belittling comments. Read More.

Does healthy narcissism exist? Why experts say there are positives to this personality disorder

Salon, 9-May-2024

Harvard Medical School lecturer Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and author, told Salon that "narcissism" itself is not an official diagnosis and never has been, but is rather a "trait" defined as "a pervasive universal human tendency called 'self-enhancement'" or "the drive to feel special — to stand out from the other nearly 8 billion people on the planet in some way." Read More.

Donald Trump the Grandiose Leader: Societal Peril in the Shadow of Narcissism

CyberNesco, 5-May-2024

Dr. Craig Malkin, a Harvard Medical School lecturer and author specializing in personality disorders also shares similar concerns stating that "the danger lies in their inability to regulate their emotions and impulsive behavior." He goes on to explain that individuals with grandiose narcissism tend to have a distorted view of reality and may act impulsively without considering the consequences of their actions. Read More.

Love Bombing 101: How to Spot the 18 Signs and Avoid it

Science of People, 15-April-2024

“Love bombing, unlike real love, is a self-centered, anxious pursuit, with the singular goal of acquiring someone because it boosts the bomber’s ego.” Read More.

8 phrases that often indicate that a person has a toxic personality (FRENCH)

Ouest France, 10-April-2024

According to psychologist Craig Malkin , author of "Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad—and Surprisingly Good—About Feeling Special," this can be a tactic to maintain unequal power dynamics. By making the other person believe that they are incapable of understanding, the manipulator maintains control in the relationship. Read More.

Meet the Trumps 2.0 – how the family enterprise may look a second time around

iNews, 30-Mar-2024

Malkin believes the presence of a family member he trusts could be the sole moderating influence on Trump as he starts a second term and “without that, they spiral further into thought disorder and psychosis in the face of their failures”. Read More.

How to Deal with a Parent with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (SPANISH)

Expresa, 27-Mar-2024

Children of narcissists often have a long history of self-blame, says psychologist Craig Malkin. That's because their parents manipulated them to get that reaction, he said. He added: “Narcissistic parents are very good at lashing out or crying when their children express needs of their own, training their children to point the finger at themselves whenever they feel hurt, alone, or angry about the abuse.” Read More.

35 Self-Doubt Quotes to Beat Fear and Conquer Doubt

Personal Development Zone, 21-Mar-2024

“To produce anything great—to even sit down and try—often requires feeling that we’re capable of greatness, hardly the humblest state of mind.” – Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists. Read More.

5 Clear Signs You're Dealing With Toxic Parents As An Adult, According To Experts

Yahoo Lifestyle, 17-Mar-2024

One of clinical psychologist Craig Malkin’s clients grew up with a father who responded to any display of emotion with some variation of “you need to grow a thicker skin” or “you need to learn to let things go.” This led to a lot of shame and confusion around his own emotions, a struggle that followed him into adulthood. Read More.

Rethinking Narcissism With Author Dr. Craig Malkin PhD (Podcast)

The High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast, 8-Mar-2024

In this Episode Brook interviews Dr. Craig Malkin, author of the internationally acclaimed, Rethinking Narcissism is a clinical psychologist and Lecturer for Harvard Medical School with over 30 years of experience helping individuals, couples, and families. This interview goes into the creation of the Narcissistic personality and separates out the healthy and unhealthy parts of narcissism. Read More.

Narcissism: The Spectrum of Self Importance with Dr. Craig Malkin (Podcast)

At Home and Abroad, 2-Mar-2024

Dr. Craig Malkin helps us to understand that narcissism is a spectrum on which we all find ourselves. Dr. Malkin is a lecturer in Psychology for Harvard Medical School and the author of the internationally acclaimed book Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists. Read More.

Not just good for the soul

Harvard Health Publishing, 1-Mar-2024

But what forgiveness doesn't mean is a bit more nuanced: it doesn't condone the harm you've suffered — and it definitely doesn't mean you're expected to forget it, says Craig Malkin, a lecturer in psychology at Harvard Medical School. Read More.

Experts Say These Are The Signs To Be On The Lookout For When It Comes To Spotting Narcissists

Yahoo News, 27-Feb-2024

Like overt narcissists, covert narcissists lack empathy for others, use manipulation to get their way and have a strong drive to feel special in comparison to other people. But the way the two different types of narcissists try to stand out is different, said clinical psychologist Craig Malkin. Read More.

Psychologists says there are five signs your partner is a covert narcissist

LAD Bible, 25-Feb-2024

Talking to the Huffington Post, clinical psychologist Craig Malkin said: “Covert narcissists don’t feel special by virtue of positive qualities like attractiveness or intelligence; they feel exceptional because of their pain or suffering, agreeing with statements like ‘most people don’t understand my problems’.” Read More.

5 Great Books About Narcissism

Medium, 13-Feb-2024

Dr. Malkin offers a fresh perspective on narcissism, challenging the notion that all narcissism is harmful. Read More.

How to Survive Working for a Boss with a Godzilla-Sized Ego

Office Bantomime, 9-Feb-2024

Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and the author of "Rethinking Narcissism" reveals two effective ways to handle a narcissistic boss. Read More.

5 changes in a couple's relationship when the wife is pregnant, including wanting to be close to her husband all the time (Indonesian)

HaiBunda, 7-Feb-2024

“Maintaining physical connection during pregnancy and talking about it with your partner will strengthen your bond as a couple,” says Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a psychologist in Cambridge, Massachusetts. Read More.

10 Things To Never Do If You’re Dealing With A Narcissist

Toxic Relationship Recovery, 31-Jan-2024

When faced with a direct accusation or criticism, even if it’s well-intentioned or constructive, they may respond with what experts like Dr. Craig Malkin and clinical psychologist Al Bernstein describe as a narcissistic injury. Read More.

Harvard experts warned Donald Trump was 'mentally unstable' and 'shouldn't be president'

Mirror, 24-Jan-2024

Clinical psychologist Craig Malkin said: "Equating mental illness with incapacity merely stigmatizes the mentally ill." He believes Trump displays "extreme present hedonism". Read More.

Trump is not dangerous because he is immoral but because he is amoral

Enlightened Conflict, 23-Jan-2024

Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and lecturer for Harvard medical school, suggests a Healthy narcissism is a trait that all of us carry: the drive to feel special or unique. Read More.

Medical experts warned that Donald Trump is 'too mentally unstable to be President'

Daily Express US, 21-Jan-2024

Not all of the co-authors of the book agreed, however. Clinical psychologist Craig Malkin said: “Equating mental illness with incapacity merely stigmatizes the mentally ill." Read More.

8 Long-Lasting Effects Of Having Narcissistic Parents, According To A Harvard Psychologist

Your Tango, 18-Jan-2024

What happens to the development of our personality when we live in the shadow of narcissistic parents? Read More.

DR. MALKIN QUOTED IN THE PRESS - 2023

Alert! According to Harvard Psychologists, These are the Characteristics of Narcissistic People in Toxic Relationships (Indonesian)

Beautynesia, 16-Dec-2023

A psychologist from Harvard named Dr. Craig Malkin has explained some of the early warning signs when dealing with a narcissistic person. Read More.

Harvard psychologist revealed the 5 actions that narcissists do in their relationships (Spanish)

Página 7, 16-Dec-2023

The “highly narcissistic” attitudes that these people present come to light at the beginning of the relationship. Read More.

Trump’s aberrant behavior is getting worse. Why are Americans ignoring his decline?

Salon, 29-Nov-2023

Craig Malkin, who is a lecturer in psychology at Harvard Medical School, emphasized what he believes is Trump’s increasingly psychopathic behavior. Read More.

Shrinking Yourself And Having A Fear Of Being Seen Are Signs Of This Response To Narcissism

XO Necole, 29-Nov-2023

As the author explains, “Where narcissists are addicted to feeling special, echoists are afraid of it. In the myth of Narcissus, Echo, the nymph who eventually falls madly in love with Narcissus, has been cursed to repeat back the last few words she hears. Like their namesake, echoists definitely struggle to have a voice of their own.” Read More.

Will He Cheat? 14 Red Flags You Can’t Ignore

Everyday Health, 20-Nov-2023

“We’re talking about the more selfishly motivated lie to maintain appearances or avoid an unpleasant reaction,” explains Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a psychologist in Cambridge, Mass. Read More.

6 signs you may have a narcissistic boss — and what to do about it

Business Insider, 17-Nov-2023

"The mantra of the narcissistic boss is that all rules are guidelines. The more narcissistic a boss is, the more likely they'll feel too special to have to limit their own behavior and choices for anyone, even HR," Malkin said. Read More.

What Is Echoism & How Can It Affect Your Relationships?

Women.com, 16-Nov-2023

"At the heart of healthy narcissism is the capacity to love and be loved on a grand scale," clinical psychologist and expert on narcissism Craig Malkin, Ph.D. told MindBodyGreen. "People who live in the center of the spectrum don't always take to the stage, but when they do, they often lift others up with them. People who live in the center know when their grandiosity is getting the better of them. They know when they're getting too caught up in themselves." Read More.

5 Things ‘Highly Narcissistic’ People Always Do in Relationships, According to Harvard Psychologist

The Storiest, 10-Nov-2023

Psychologist Craig Malkin has listed a series of attitudes that are implicitly presented and tend to appear in the early stages of a relationship. Read More.

Harvard psychologist shares 5 toxic things ‘highly narcissistic’ people always do in relationships

CNBC Make It, 9-Nov-2023

With 25 years of experience, Dr. Craig Malkin shares his best advice for recognizing the early warning of highly narcissistic people. Read More.

How To Deal With A Narcissist Boss, Co-Parent Or Child

Yahoo! Lifestyle, 6-Nov-2023

While nature creates a narcissist, nurture can save one, according to Dr. Malkin, who believes one’s tendencies come from a “genetic blueprint”—nature. At the same time, he says a child’s score on the Narcissism Spectrum Scale (NSS), which he co-created, can be lowered or raised through nurture. Read More.

Why Echoism Can Make Dating Difficult and What to Do About It

Psychology Today, 30-Oct-2023

According to Craig Malkin, clinical psychologist, Harvard Medical School lecturer, and author of Rethinking Narcissism, to overcome the negative impact echoism can have on forming healthy relationships, we all must possess some level of primary healthy anger where we are willing to speak up for ourselves and express boundaries when necessary. Read More.

Why Do People Love To Be The Center Of Attention?

eNot Alone, 28-Oct-2023

Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist, describes a phenomenon called "echoism" in his research. People with echoistic tendencies often find themselves drawn to those who love attention. This relationship can be symbiotic but also fraught with complexities. Read More.

Echoism Is Basically the Polar Opposite of Narcissism—But It Can Be Just as Damaging in Relationships

Well + Good, 28-Oct-2023

Clinical psychologist, researcher, and Harvard Medical School lecturer, Craig Malkin, PhD, initially addressed this topic in his book Rethinking Narcissism and has continued to explore it further in subsequent articles for Psychology Today. Read More.

Why Are Narcissists Often Said To Have 'Dead Eyes'?

eNot Alone, 23-Oct-2023

Researchers like Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and Harvard Medical School lecturer, have expanded the scope of what we understand about narcissism. Malkin's Rethinking Narcissism argues that narcissism exists on a spectrum and that extreme forms manifest as disorders that can be both destructive and self-destructive. Read More.

Narcissism In A Relationship: Red Flags To Look For

BetterHelp, 17-Oct-2023

According to Harvard Medical School Instructor and Lecturer, Dr. Craig Malkin, it can be important to note that the self-important behavior commonly associated with narcissism is most often used as a way to mask incredibly low self-esteem. Read More.

The Opposite Of A Narcissist Isn’t An Empath, It’s An Echoist

Higher Perspective, 9-Oct-2023

The term was coined fairly recently by Harvard psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin, who's been working on defining this personality type and categorizing its traits. Though they're considered the opposite of narcissists, they still fall within the spectrum of narcissistic personality disorders due to their proximity. Read More.

What Is Echoism? 7 Signs of an Echoist & How to Heal

Marriage.com, 8-Oct-2023

Conflict avoidance is something echoists could be quite comfortable with, so they may tend to shy away from expressing their own opinions or asserting their needs. Read More.

Gaslighting: What It Is and How to Fight It

U.S. News & World Report, 25-Sept-2023

Gaslighting is "an extremely dangerous form of emotional abuse because it undermines your self-confidence," notes Craig Malkin, a psychologist and lecturer at Harvard Medical School and author of "Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists." Read More.

living with a narcissistic partner: identifying red flags, coping strategies, and knowing when to walk away

Simply Woman, 8-Sept-2023

According to psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin, narcissism falls on a spectrum, with full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder characterized by traits like entitlement, arrogance, lack of empathy, and a need for admiration. Read More.

Self-indulgent sabotage: A psychologist explains the dangers of over-diagnosing narcissism

Salon, 8-Sept-2023

Salon took these questions to Craig Malkin Ph.D., a psychologist and lecturer for Harvard Medical School, who is also the author of "Rethinking Narcissism The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists." Read More.

Coping With a Narcissistic Mother: 9 Tips To Heal The Damage

Toxicties, 5-Sept-2023

You can try something Dr. Craig Malkin calls a “connection contract.” This is when you lay out the terms of your agreement to spend time with a narcissist, and what happens if the narcissist violates this agreement. Read More.

Identifying Narcissism: Five Key Indicators And Strategies For Self-Protection

Verve Times, 27-Aug-2023

According to Dr. Craig Malkin, a lecturer in psychology at Harvard Medical School and a licensed psychologist in Cambridge, Massachusetts, the top 10 percent of people with the highest levels of narcissism are considered narcissists. This means that approximately 1 in 10 people could be considered a narcissist. So how do we spot these individuals and protect ourselves from them? Read More.

Surviving Toxic Love: 4 Stages Of Narcissistic Relationship

The Happiness Blog, 23-Aug-2023

Narcissistic relationships are characterized by an excessive focus on the narcissist’s needs, often at the expense of the other person. Survivors of these relationships must learn to prioritize their own needs and well-being, which can be challenging after having been conditioned to cater to the narcissist’s demands. Read More.

How to identify if someone is narcissistic? This is what the experts say

Euro ES Euro, 22-Aug-2023

Narcissism is a personality trait, and everyone falls somewhere on the spectrum, said Dr. Craig Malkin, a professor of psychology at Harvard Medical School and a licensed psychologist in Cambridge, Massachusetts. Read More.

How being a ‘gray rock’ can protect you against narcissists

CNN Health, 7-Aug-2023

Narcissism is complicated, but this technique is simple, said Dr. Craig Malkin, a lecturer in psychology for Harvard Medical School and a licensed psychologist based in Cambridge, Massachusetts. Read More.

Recognizing the 9 signs you were probably raised by a narcissistic parent

Positive Outlooks, 1-Aug-2023

Psychologist Craig Malkin, author of the book Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — And Surprising Good — About Feeling Special, noted down signs of people raised by a narcissistic parent, and what adult children must do to break the cycle of destructive decisions. Read More.

How to Identify and Address Difficult Personality Traits

Ponbey, 1-Aug-2023

One of them is Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and those who suffer from NPD, says Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist, and Harvard Medical School professor, “typically believe that they’re better and more important than others around them. Read More.

Are You Making a Mistake? 7 Signs You’re Falling for the Wrong Person

The Good Men Project, 27-Jul-2023

Psychologist Craig Malkin highlights the importance of recognizing that clinging to positive traits, such as affection and reliability, in an abusive partner can be misleading. True love should never be overshadowed by fear or distorted hope. Read More.

9 Self Help Books For Narcissists

Book Tech, 26-Jul-2023

Dr. Craig Malkin explains the variety of narcissism to help readers in identifying between good and harmful self-esteem. The book gives readers the skills they need to handle their interactions with narcissists while still looking out for their well-being. Read More.

Dating a Narcissist: 12 Shocking Insights

Not Alone, 25-Jul-2023

Narcissism isn't merely a black or white trait. It's a spectrum that varies in intensity and manifestation. Dr. Craig Malkin, in his groundbreaking work on the subject, emphasized the concept of 'healthy narcissism' where individuals possess self-confidence without tipping into the realms of egotism. Read More.

Personality and Relationships

Psychology Today, 24-Jul-2023

Echoism, a term coined by psychologist Craig Malkin, refers to people who have an aversion to seeming narcissistic in any way. This tendency tends to lead echoists into relationships with narcissists because they are willing to put others’ needs and goals ahead of their own, they can be highly self-critical, and they resist any special treatment or attention. Read More.

7 Signs Of Narcissism, According to Psychologists

Growth Lodge, 20-Jul-2023

As Craig Malkin, Harvard Medical School psychologist, explained in his book, Rethinking Narcissism,
"Individuals high in narcissism lack empathy, feel entitled, take more resources, and give less to others." Read More.

Narcissism In A Relationship: Red Flags To Look For

BetterHelp, 10-Jul-2023

According to Harvard Medical School Instructor and Lecturer, Dr. Craig Malkin, it can be important to note that the self-important behavior commonly associated with narcissism is most often used as a way to mask incredibly low self-esteem. Read More.

Social Media and Mental Wellness: Insights from a Mental Health Advocate

Medium, 26-June-2023

“Mindful engagement with social media can transform it into a powerful tool for connection, advocacy, and spreading mental health awareness. Use it as a force for good in your journey." Read More.

10 Ways How to Make a Narcissist Respect You: Unlock Respect

Changed Mind, 18-June-2023

Understand the psychology of respect in narcissistic relationships. Books like Rethinking Narcissism by Dr. Craig Malkin are a treasure trove of wisdom. Read More.

If You’re Not Attracted Enough, Here’s What to Do, Part 2

Deeper Dating, 16-June-2023

Dr. Craig Malkin, who’s a professor of psychology at Harvard University whose work I really love, said this. “Multiple lines of evidence confirm the romantic importance of oxytocin, the cuddle hormone, which is released in greater quantities when we touch our loved ones. The more you touch, the more oxytocin is released, which helps create feelings of closeness and trust, which leads to more touch. It’s a positive intimacy loop.” Read More.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Types, Symptoms, Causes, Risks & Treatment

Digit , 9-June-2023

Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist, states narcissism is a trait or pervasive human tendency that exists on a spectrum. Although it is impossible to clinically diagnose each sub-type, there is a pattern. Read More.

Healing From Narcissistic Abuse (Ruthless Lessons, Part 3)

Lissa Rankin, MD , 8-June-2023

Narcissism lives on a spectrum. In Rethinking Narcissism, Craig Malkin talks about how if narcissism lives on a scale of 0 to 10, with 8-10 being too much narcissism and 0-3 being not enough narcissism, we all need a healthy amount of narcissism in the 4-7 range. Read More.

5 Signs You're Being Catfished (Yes, It's Still Happening In 2023)

Women.com, 6-June-2023

"Love bombing, unlike real love, is a self-centered, anxious pursuit, with the singular goal of acquiring someone because it boosts the bomber's ego," Craig Malkin, clinical psychologist and author of "Rethinking Narcissism." Read More.

4 Ways Pregnancy Will Change Your Relationship With Your Partner

Parents, 3-June-2023

"Keeping up that physical connection during pregnancy and talking about it with your partner strengthens your bond as a couple," says Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a psychologist in Cambridge, Massachusetts, who recommends scheduling time for physical intimacy. "It may not feel spontaneous, but finding passion in the moment and reconnecting physically will bring you closer." Read More.

Unmasking the Covert Narcissist in Therapy

LinkedIn, 1-June-2023

Dr. Malkin discusses what pop culture—and the therapy field—often gets wrong about narcissism and how to know when “’healthy narcissism” tips into a disorder during this live interview. Read More.

Self-Sacrificing and Hate Attention? You May Be an Echoist, the Opposite of a Narcissist

Leaders, 31-May-2023

The concept of an echoist, the direct opposite of a narcissist, originated in Greek Mythology and was then elaborated on by researchers including psychologist Craig Malkin. Read More.

Echoism Is The Opposite Of Narcissism, But It Can Be Just As Toxic

Microsoft Start, 18-May-2023

The dread of coming across as narcissistic in any way lies at the core of echoism, according to Craig Malkin, a lecturer at Harvard Medical School and author of "Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists." Their own needs and wants make them feel uncomfortable. Instead of tending to themselves, they want to invest their energy into catering to other people's needs and solving other people's problems. Read More.

Is Donald J. Trump a Dangerous Narcissist?

Soapboxie, 9-May-2023

A healthy amount of narcissism is actually good for us. We are happier, more optimistic, and more consistently self-confident. High amounts of narcissism lead to bragging, boasting, insulting (to make themselves feel good), abusing positions of power, behaving unethically, cheating on taxes, extra-marital affairs, and so on. Read More.

Are You An 'Echoist' Without Even Realizing It?

HuffPost, 5-May-2023

A healthy amount of narcissism is actually good for us. We are happier, more optimistic, and more consistently self-confident. High amounts of narcissism lead to bragging, boasting, insulting (to make themselves feel good), abusing positions of power, behaving unethically, cheating on taxes, extra-marital affairs, and so on. Read More.

How To Tell If You Were Raised By Narcissists

The List, 3-May-2023

As psychologist Craig Malkin revealed to HuffPost, "I've seen clients whose parents made them feel sick, crazy, or selfish for expressing the most basic of needs." This can create serious issues for adult children of narcissists attempting to create genuine, meaningful, and lasting relationships in their lives. It sets them up for failure because these relationships were so incredibly toxic to begin with. Read More.

Rethinking Narcissism: Summary Review

Elevate Society, 20-Apr-2023

In Rethinking Narcissism readers will learn that there's far more to narcissism than its reductive invective would imply. The truth is that we all fall on a spectrum somewhere between utter selflessness on the one side, and arrogance and grandiosity on the other. A healthy middle exhibits a strong sense of self. On the far end lies sociopathy. Read More.

4 Ways Pregnancy Will Change Your Relationship With Your Partner

Parents, 20-Apr-2023

"Keeping up that physical connection during pregnancy and talking about it with your partner strengthens your bond as a couple," says Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a psychologist in Cambridge, Massachusetts, who recommends scheduling time for physical intimacy. "It may not feel spontaneous, but finding passion in the moment and reconnecting physically will bring you closer." Read More.

What happens when a narcissist finds themselves in an abusive relationship?

Yahoo News, 12-Apr-2023

Narcissists often romantically pair up – and in doing so, mutually engage in emotional and physical abuse. "They're drawn to one another, and it leads to very unhealthy interaction," says Craig Malkin, psychologist and author of "Rethinking Narcissism." Read More.

Narcissism and the Extra Drive to Feel Special

iHeart, 6-Apr-2023

With everything, there is a limit to what is healthy and what is toxic. Psychologist and author of Rethinking Narcissism Dr. Craig Malkin talks about the extroverted narcissist, i.e. “the narcissist we all know and loathe”, but says there are others. Read More.

To be, or not to be, a Narcissist, that is the question

Medium, 5-Apr-2023

Dr. Craig Malkin describes “the ability to hold positive illusions” as being “on the healthy side of narcissism.” According to Malkin, ‘positive illusions’ are “a belief that, despite the facts at hand, we can do great things.” Read More.

Love Bombing 101: How to Spot the 18 Signs and Avoid It

Science of People, 4-Apr-2023

Psychologist, Craig Malkin said "love bombing, unlike real love, is a self-centered, anxious pursuit, with the singular goal of acquiring someone because it boosts the bomber’s ego." Read More.

The Opposite Of A Narcissist; Empaths and Echoists

Newsbreak, 28-Mar-2023

Psychologist, Craig Malkin, developed the concept of echoism as someone who is voiceless and only exists to echo others. Read More.

Narcissist and Proud

The Cut, 21-Mar-2023

In his excellent 2016 book, Rethinking Narcissism, Harvard Medical School psychologist Craig Malkin translates Kohut’s very clotted writing to a basic spectrum. Read More.

Narcissist, gaslighting, love bombing: A guide to all the buzz-words around narcissism

USA Today, 17-Mar-2023

Echoism, a term popularized by psychologist Craig Malkin, describes many victims of narcissistic abuse who fear being the center of attention. Read More.

How Does a Narcissist Handle Rejection and No Contact

Marriage.com, 14-Mar-2023

In his book Rethinking Narcissism, Harvard psychologist Craig Malkin takes the idea that narcissists were once children that were overly admired one step further. He explains that those children only got praise for their actions rather than for who they were. Read More.

Red Flags When Dating in Your 50’s and Beyond

Smart Dating Over 60, 09-Mar-2023

Dr. Craig Malkin says, “It’s not that people with NPD can’t change; it’s that it often threatens their sense of personhood to try. And their failed relationships often confirm, in their minds, that narcissism is the safest way to live.” Read More.

How To Spot A Narcissist: Red Flags To Look For

Better Help, 08-Mar-2023

According to Harvard Medical School Instructor and Lecturer, Dr. Craig Malkin, it is important to note that the self-important behavior commonly associated with narcissism is most often used as a way to mask incredibly low self esteem. Read More.

Narcissism Counterparts: Are You an Empath, an Altruist, or an Echoist?

WikiHow, 06-Mar-2023

The word “echoist” was coined by Craig Malkin in his 2016 book Rethinking Narcissism as a counterpart to the classic narcissist. He took the term from the myth of Narcissus and Echo. Read More.

How To Find The Courage To Ask For Help With A Toxic Relationship

The List, 01-Mar-2023

Dr. Craig Malkin, author, clinical psychologist, and lecturer for Harvard Medical School, wrote in Psychology Today, "We all inevitably turn to self-doubt when we're afraid we can't control our experience." Read More.

Covert Narcissism Unmasked - What Are We Really Treating?

Psychotherapy Networker, 01-Mar-2023

Narcissism, at its core, isn’t simply about feeling handsome or rich or brilliant; it’s about feeling special, exceptional, or unique, standing out from the other nearly 8 billion people on the planet. Read More.

The Best Books to Read If You Have a Narcissist in Your Life

Oprah Daily, 22-Feb-2023

If you’re wondering if coworkers, friends, partners, and family members are trending too far toward grandiosity, this is a great and reasonable read, full of sound advice and tools for navigating relationships with people who have an inflated sense of themselves. And on the flip side, if you need a push to feel a little more full of yourself, this book might offer the permission slip you need. Read More.

How to Heal After Narcissistic Abuse as an HSP

Highly Sensitive Refuge, 17-Feb-2023

Before reading Dr. Craig Malkin’s book Rethinking Narcissism, I often used “empathy prompts” with my ex-partner. As a sensitive soul, they came to me naturally. According to Dr. Malkin, prompting involves “voicing the importance of your relationship and revealing your own feelings[,]” such that you can “distinguish between people who can change — and those who can’t.” Read More.

It’s Time to Stop Feeding Narcissism

Worth The War, 10-Feb-2023

It’s essential to grasp that being a diagnosable narcissist (NPD) isn’t just being a jerk. How can we stop an enemy we don’t even understand? Dr. Craig Malkin sheds light on the term from a professional perspective, but we can easily digest it in terms. Read More.

Don’t call me a snowflake! Why we should treat mental health the same as our physical wellbeing

Big Issue, 8-Feb-2023

Harvard psychologist and author Dr Craig Malkin said something similar, quoting renowned psychologist Diana Fosha. He said: “Feeling without dealing tips us into disruptive emotion displays.” He also said that feeling secure thanks to close relationships and trust “blesses us with resilience.” Read More.

11 Types of Narcissism & What They Look Like in Toxic Parents

Hopeful Panda, 1-Feb-2023

According to Dr. Craig Malkin, the author of Rethinking Narcissism, a narcissistic person does not necessarily have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), nor are they inherently abusive. However, the more extreme one’s narcissism is, the more likely they are to be emotionally and physically abusive. Read More.

5 Signs You’re In A Relationship With A Covert Narcissist

Yahoo News, 30-Jan-2023

Like overt narcissists, covert narcissists lack empathy for others, use manipulation to get their way and have a strong drive to feel special in comparison to other people. But the way the two different types of narcissists try to stand out is different, said clinical psychologist Craig Malkin. Read More.

You’re with The Wrong Person If You See These 7 Signs

The Good Men Project, 19-Jan-2023

Not feeling safe around a partner is a huge red flag in a relationship. In healthy relationships, partners produce an environment where both parties can feel physically and emotionally safe. Read More.

You’re With The Wrong Person If You See These 7 Signs

Medium, 15-Jan-2023

Psychologist Craig Malkin states that “many abuse survivors cling to the positive traits in their partners- like being affectionate and reliable”. Read More.

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Generation Me: Why a little narcissism can’t hurt

MSN, 29-Dec-2022

Narcissism is not harmful in general, but only in the extremes,“ Psychology Today quotes the American psychologist Craig Malkin as saying. „Malkin sees narcissism as „a habit that people use to self-defense courage to award“, as an inner source of conviction, confidence and energy“. Read More.

How To Stop Being Needy In A Relationship

The Ghana Report, 21-Dec-2022

The definition of neediness, as described by clinical psychologist Craig Malkin, Ph.D., author of the internationally acclaimed, Rethinking Narcissism, is: “A generalized, undifferentiated dependence on others coupled with feelings of helplessness and fear of desertion and abandonment.” Read More.

5 Signs You're Dealing With A Malignant Narcissist

Mind Body Green, 20-Dec-2022

Clinical psychologist and Harvard lecturer Craig Malkin, Ph.D., says, "Malignant narcissism is a combination of narcissism and psychopathy (remorseless or guiltless mistreatment of others)." Read More.

Why Exploitation and Entitlement in Narcissism Are so Destructive

The Good Men Project, 16-Dec-2022

Not all narcissists look and sound alike and, no doubt, we’ll discover even more than these three variations over time. But remember—regardless of their differences, they all share one overriding motivation. Read More.

10 books like The Narcissism Epidemic

The Shepherd 13-Dec-2022

Dr. Malkin’s work has been an inspiration for both books I have written. I use his definition of narcissism, Triple E (lack of empathy, entitlement, exploitation), whenever I explain it to others. Read More.

Echoism - the opposite of narcissism. Who are echoists?

Zwierciadlo, 07-Dec-2022

One of the first to write about echoism was clinical psychologist and lecturer at Harvard Medical School, Craig Malkin. In his book "Rethinking Narcissism" he explains that echoism is also the fear of feeling special or standing out in any field. Read More.

How To Stop Being A Narcissistic Boss’s Scapegoat

Inner Toxic Relief, 07-Dec-2022

There is no definitive answer to this question as there is no one agreed-upon definition of narcissism. However, some experts who study narcissism and its effects on individuals and relationships include Dr. Sam Vaknin, Dr. Craig Malkin, and Dr. W. Keith Campbell. Read More.

The 3 Biggest Dangers in a Narcissistic Relationship

The Good Men Project, 03-Dec-2022

Regardless of the root cause, there are 3 simple signs that should alert you to whether or not you’re in a dangerously unhealthy relationship. This post explains the three stop signs— and how to recognize them. Read More.

The One Strategy That Will Never Work With a Narcissistic Partner

The Good Men Project, 26-Nov-2022

When faced with the inevitable reactions of a narcissistic partner during times of stress or struggle, people often resort to Triple P for self-preservation. Dr. Malkin explains how to break this cycle and begin using effective strategies to deal with your relationship in a healthier way. Read More.

Narcissism: An Illusion?

Deceptology, 24-Nov-2022

Echoes are people who give to others when they have the opportunity, and they are typically absent from the spotlight. echoism has been widely popularized in the past decade, most recently through Craig Malkin’s book Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.

Narcissism: signs that may indicate that you are a narcissistic person

Tenemos Noticias, 30-Oct-2022

“Feeling like it challenges your sense of perfect autonomy. Admitting an emotion of any kind suggests that they may be affected by someone or something outside of them," adds Craig Malkin, a psychologist at Harvard Medical School. Read More.

Wisdom to Help the Victims of Narcissists

Medium, 29-Oct-2022

“Maybe it’s easier to tell yourself you’re the problem than to accept the possibility he won’t change.” Read More.

Are you dating a narcissist? Watch out for these red flags.

Yahoo News, 21-Oct-2022

Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and Harvard Medical School lecturer who authored a book on narcissism, says this study relied on the Narcissistic Personality Inventory, which may be more reflective self-esteem rather than narcissism. Read More.

Is Donald J. Trump a Dangerous Narcissist?

Soapboxie, 10-Oct-2022

His behavior was so abnormal, according to Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a contributor to Dr. Bandy Lee's The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump, it resulted in him being thought to have Narcissistic Personality Disorder, which is a real psychological diagnosis. Read More.

8 Signs You're Dealing With A Vulnerable Narcissist

Mind Body Green, 07-Oct-2022

"Covert narcissists feel special because they believe their pain is more important than others'," Malkin previously told mbg. "They may feel like the most misunderstood genius, the person who's suffering the most, or even the ugliest person in the room." Read More.

The Biggest Barrier to Leaving a Bad Relationship

The Good Men Project, 07-Oct-2022

What makes them different from echoists, who fear seeming narcissistic in anyway, is that they don’t feel inferior. Read More.

A definitive list of 7 co-parenting boundaries you need to know

Wealthy Single Mommy, 04-Oct-2022

“When people grow dependent on feeling special, they stop thinking that their partners are the best because they need to claim that distinction for themselves. They lose the capacity to see the world from any point of view other than their own,” writes Dr. Craig Malkin. Read More.

8 Brutal Truths About Life That Nobody Will Tell You

All Information, 02-Oct-2022

Dr. Malkin, a therapist, explains the true nature of narcissism — the good and bad, how unhealthy levels of narcissism can wreak havoc on your life, how to spot red flags that you might be dealing with a narcissist, and how to not only cope, but thrive when dealing with the narcissists in your life. Read More.

Narcissists and the Twin Fantasy

The Good Men Project, 30-Sept-2022

In conversation, they’re apt to jump on a misplaced word, or a change in tone, or a brief glance away, and demand "What did you mean by that?" or "Why are you turning away?" Read More.

The Law of Optimum Balance

The Power News, 27-Sept-2022

He says narcissism, in moderate doses, is good and healthy, and he would place that “healthy interval” between 4 and 6 on a 1 to 10 scale. He says that people within that range are more optimistic, happier and more consistently confident than people on the lower end of the scale. Read More.

REVIEW: The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump

The Urban News, 16-Sept-2022

Craig Malkin writes on pathological narcissism and politics as a lethal mix. Read More.

What Is Echoism, And Why Is It So Dangerous?

Medium, 15-Sept-2022

Narcissism expert and clinical psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin coined the term. He stated that those vulnerable were abused by those with dark personality types or had parents who meant well but were overly hard on them and had a high chance of becoming echoists. Read More.

How Can You Tell if You’re Being Love Bombed?

Good Men Project, 15-Sept-2022

The emotional experiences that drive love bombing play a crucial (and fun!) role in healthy relationships. Also known as positive illusions, these ways of seeing each and relating help build bonds. Read More.

What Causes Echoism?

Good Men Project, 09-Sept-2022

Echoism emerges through an interaction of nature and nurture— the clash between an emotionally sensitive temperament (a set of wired-in biological behavioral tendencies) and environment that requires us to be “smaller” to survive and maintain relationships. Read More.

Interview: Understanding Narcissism and Narcissistic Traits with Dr. Craig Malkin

Dr. Rick Hanson, 05-Sept-2022

We all have narcissistic traits. Having some sense of our own specialness isn’t just normal, it’s actually psychologically healthy. The problems start when people go beyond normal levels, and become addicted to feeling special. Read More.

The Most Dangerous Behavior in Pathological Narcissism

Good Men Project, 02-Sept-2022

As you can see, not all narcissists look and sound alike and, no doubt, we’ll discover even more than these three variations over time. Read More.

What Is Echoism? The Silent Response to Narcissism Explained

Solancha, 01-Sept-2022

If you have an active narcissistic parent, spouse, sibling, or leader figure in your life, you may find yourself losing your voice in the relationship. Your true identity is either completely stripped away, or never gets a chance to nurture and take root. In turn, you find yourself always agreeing with what the narcissistic person says. Dr. Craig Malkin, a psychologist, researcher, and author, popularized the term “Echoism” to describe this behavior. Read More.

Understanding Narcopathy: 20 Signs of a Narcopath (Narcissist-Sociopath Mix)

Mind Journal, 31-Aug-2022

Clinical psychologist and Harvard lecturer Craig Malkin, Ph.D. says “There is no ‘coping with’ malignant narcissists, except to stand up for ourselves, speak to those who can help, assert ourselves, and enlist allies for protection.” Read More.

'Echoists' are prone to narcissistic, emotionally abusive relationships. Is this you?Is This You? ‘Echoists’ Are Prone To Narcissistic, Aggressive Relationships

Livestly, 26-Aug-2022

Psychologist Craig Malkin coined the term echoism to describe this trauma response in victims of narcissistic abuse who fear being the center of attention. Read More.

Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it

Tamara Kulish, 25-Aug-2022

Like their namesake, echoists “struggle to have a voice of their own,” says Malkin, a lecturer at Harvard Medical School who wrote “Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists.” Read More.

'Echoists' are prone to narcissistic, emotionally abusive relationships. Is this you?

USA Today, 23-Aug-2022

This trauma response is called echoism, a term popularized by psychologist Craig Malkin, to describe many victims of narcissistic abuse who fear being the center of attention. Read More.

How do I know if someone in my life is a narcissist? Here's what it is – and what it isn't

Yahoo News, 22-Aug-2022

"We all go through periods where we might be temporarily self-preoccupied … That's normal and that happens," says Craig Malkin, a lecturer at Harvard Medical School and author of "Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists." Read More.

Why the opposite of narcissism is unhealthy, too

The Netional News, 22-Aug-2022

Narcissism is the topic du jour, We’re programmed to beware of gaslighting and avoid the red flags of extreme selfishness and a craving for attention. But the reverse – of having no narcissism – isnt any healthier, experts warn. In fact, it can be equally as damaging. Read More.

How To Know If You Have A Toxic Relationship With Your Parent

Glam, 22-Aug-2022

Once you've acknowledged that their reactions are their problem, civilly but firmly set some boundaries. To keep things amicable, you can try phrasing like, "I appreciate all the guidance you've given me in the past. But from now on, I'm going to be making my own career decisions." Read More.

Narcissism and Stealth Control

Good Men Project, 12-Aug-2022

There’s an angry insistence to introverted narcissists: they seethe with bitterness over the world’s “refusal” to recognize their special gifts. Read More.

'iCarly' star Jennette McCurdy says her mother was a narcissist who 'encouraged' her eating disorder

News Break, 11-Aug-2022

Narcissistic parents, who view their children as an extension of themselves , will use control tactics to manipulate them to fit their self-important image, Craig Malkin , a psychologist and author of "Rethinking Narcissism," told Insider. Read More.

How do I know if someone is a narcissist?

Waterloo Region Record, 10-Aug-2022

A “true” narcissist describes someone who is diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. Because of its rare prevalence, experts say narcissism is often misunderstood and oversimplified. Read More.

Once a Narcissist, Always a Narcissist?

Narcissist Blog, 7-Aug-2022

Anyone can change if (and that’s not just a big, but a crucial, if) they want to,” Dr. Malkin tells Talkspace.“I’ve seen dramatic changes from clients with NPD who are willing to roll up their sleeves and do deep emotional work, to learn to build mutually caring, connected, trusting relationships. Read More.

Why Narcissistic Partners Devalue — and How to See It Coming

Good Men Project, 4-Aug-2022

Not all narcissists look and sound alike and, no doubt, we’ll discover even more than these three variations over time. But remember—regardless of their differences, they all share one overriding motivation: each and every one of them desperately clings to feeling special. Read More.

Why a narcissist won't leave you alone after your relationship ends, according to a psychologist

Yahoo News, 4-Aug-2022

According to Craig Malkin, a psychologist and author of "Rethinking Narcissism," narcissists view relationship dissolution as a sign their exceptional status is declining. As a result, they may try to prove your decision was wrong or place the blame on the other person in the relationship. Read More.

3 signs your child could become a narcissist, according to psychologist who specializes in the personality disorder

Insider, 1-Aug-2022

There are certain signs and precursors that could make a child more likely to become narcissistic and later receive a diagnosis, Craig Malkin, a psychologist and author of "Rethinking Narcissism," told Insider. Read More.

Narcissistic Neurosis: A Personality Psychologist Explains What Happens When Narcissists Break Down

Naija On Point, 1-Aug-2022

as psychologist Craig Malkin explains, narcissists experience what is called narcissistic collapse. From the outside, it then appears as if the person is disabled and argumentative. Read More.

Covert and Overt Narcissist

California Cognitive Behavioral Insitute, 1-Aug-2022

Researcher and author Craig Malkin, PhD, suggests that the term “covert” can be misleading. In his work, he states that the term covert is often used to suggest that the covert narcissist is sneaky or that their striving for importance is not as significant as an overt (more extroverted) narcissist. Read More.

Recognizing Extreme Narcissism Quickly

Good Men Project, 28-Jul-2022

Communal narcissists, a type more recently identified by researchers, aren’t focused on standing out, being the best writer or most accomplished dancer or the most misunderstood or overlooked genius. Read More.

How to Avoid Gaslighters Who Manipulate Your Mind

Medium, 24-Jul-2022

Dr. Craig Malkin shares The Simplest Way to Spot Narcissistic Personality Disorder and how to protect yourself from gaslighting. Read More.

Dating Someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)

Talkspace, 19-Jul-2022

According to Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist, and Harvard Medical School professor, narcissism is a personality trait found in all humans to some extent. It’s derived from “the drive to feel special, exceptional or unique.” However, narcissism exists on a spectrum, Malkin notes, and individuals with severe cases that compromise interpersonal relationships likely have a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Read More.

What Is a Covert Narcissist?

Verywell Mind, 14-Jul-2022

Researcher and author Craig Malkin, PhD, suggests that the term "covert" can be misleading. In his work, he states that the term covert is often used to suggest that the covert narcissist is sneaky or that their striving for importance is not as significant as an overt (more extroverted) narcissist. In fact, he reports, the traits of the overt narcissist and the covert narcissist are the same. Read More.

Moving Out And On From A Gay Narcissistic Relationship

Steven Surman Writes, 01-Jul-2022

If you’re interested in learning more about narcissism, toxic relationships, dark personalities, and sexuality, then I highly recommend Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.

The best books on understanding narcissism and how to deal with narcissists

Shepherd, 01-Jul-2022

This is a groundbreaking read on narcissism and a must for anyone interested in the topic. Read More.

The Ultimate Guide To Ignoring A Narcissist (Spotting And The Aftermath)

Her Way, 22-Jun-2022

You have to see it for yourself, otherwise, you wouldn’t believe if someone told you what they are capable of doing or why so many of their victims are in desperate need of a guide to ignoring a narcissist. Read More.

60 Narcissist Youtube Channels

Feedspot, 21-Jun-2022

Dr. Craig Malkin is a psychologist, Lecturer for Harvard Medical School, and Author of Rethinking Narcissism, devoted to the new science of recognizing and coping with narcissists. Read More.

RETHINKING NARCISSISM – THE SECRET TO RECOGNIZING & COPING WITH NARCISSISTS

The Trauma & Mental Health Report, 20-Jun-2022

Dr. Malkins also shares important parts of his book with the audience and further explains the term he coined “echoism”. Read More.

Signs The New Supply Is Not Working Out After Narcissistic Discard

Steven Surman Writes, 10-Jun-2022

Steven Surman gives high praise to Dr. Malkin's book, Rethinking Narcissism, and highly recommends it for those wanting to learn more about narcissism. Read More.

Love Bombing Blew My Mind + Soul: Married To A Narcissist Book

Catenya McHenry, 06-Jun-2022

“It’s not about care or compassion or tenderness. For the love bomber, you’re no different than a shiny new toy that captures their attention for the moment.” Read More.

How To Deal With a Narcissistic Parent

World Time Todays, 31-May-2022

According to Malkin, narcissists are often characterized by the “three It’s”. Exploitation makes them do anything to feel special; entitlement allows them to take what they want; and impaired empathy makes them less likely to understand or consider the feelings of others. Read More.

How To Deal With a Narcissistic Parent

Newsweek, 31-May-2022

"There's no evidence that narcissism is on the rise. What there is evidence of is that we have much larger megaphones on social media that provide more opportunities to express it," says Dr. Craig Malkin. Read More.

Common traits of the super rich

Business Insider, 31-May-2022

According to clinical psychologist Craig Malkin, narcissism and wealth have a positive correlation. Read More.

3 Ways To Spot Covert Narcissists Before They Strike

Your Tango, 15-Apr-2022

"The term 'covert narcissism' (aka hypersensitive or vulnerable) was coined to capture the pattern in narcissists who aren’t loud, vain, chest-thumping braggarts, but are still — as their partners discover soon enough — just as arrogant and argumentative as people with the prouder, more outgoing brand of extraverted narcissism (aka overt or grandiose)." Read More.

5 signs you’re dealing with a toxic parent as an adult (and how to cope)

My Joy Online, 13-Mar-2022

One of clinical psychologist Craig Malkin’s clients grew up with a father who responded to any display of emotion with some variation of “you need to grow a thicker skin” or “you need to learn to let things go.” This led to a lot of shame and confusion around his own emotions, a struggle that followed him into adulthood. Read More.

ARE WE ALL NARCISSISTS?

Zocal Public Square, 11-Feb-2022

One of the clinical psychologists leading this charge is Craig Malkin, whose 2015 book Rethinking Narcissism begins with an anecdote about his own mother, crediting her “warmth, optimism, and activism” to the conviction that she was special, and therefore could affect change in the world. Narcissistic behavior, Malkin posits, isn’t just for “arrogant jerks or sociopaths.” Read More.

Narcissism is our latest online moral panic

i-D, 08-Feb-2022

According to Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and lecturer for Harvard Medical School, narcissism is a normal personality trait which exists on a curve and impacts everyone in the world; full-fledged, clinical NPD, which affects roughly six percent of the population, is extremely rare. Read More.

Unloved Daughters and the Problem of People-Pleasing

Psychology Today, 31-Jan-2022

Basically, an echoist is someone who doesn’t have enough healthy self-regard and thus erases herself and her own needs. Read More.

If You've Online Dated, You've Probably Been Love Bombed

HuffPost, 21-Jan-2022

Love bombing, unlike real love, is a self-centered, anxious pursuit, with the singular goal of acquiring someone because it boosts the bomber’s ego. Read More.

The Best Books To Help You Understand Narcissism

Scary Mommy, 12-Jan-2022

This book is a little different - it look at the broader trend of narcissism in our country as well as the positive aspects of loving yourself. Read More.

Dating a Serial Narcissist

The Good Men Project, 10-Jan-2022

Clinical psychologist and Harvard Medical School lecturer Craig Malkin argues that the core of all narcissism is “a pervasive, universal human tendency: the drive to feel special, exceptional, unique.” Read More.

8 Long-Lasting Effects Of Having Narcissistic Parents

Your Tango, 08-Jan-2022

Here are 8 of the most common effects of having narcissistic parents that can last your entire life. Read More.

DR. MALKIN QUOTED IN THE PRESS - 2021

The echoist has no self-recognition. "It's a shadow of a narcissist"

WP Kobieta, 10-Nov-2021

The term was introduced not so long ago by an American clinical psychologist and lecturer at Harvard Medical School, Craig Malkin, in the book "Rethinking Narcissism" ("Rethinking Narcissism" published in 2016). to narcissus and described it. Read More.

Are you dating a narcissist? Watch out for these red flags

USA Today, 24-Aug-2021

Daters, beware: Those looking to restart their love lives after COVID-19 quarantine have more than just ghosting and awkward conversations about vaccination status to deal with. Read More.

Not All Narcissists Are Arrogant, Some Are Vulnerable Too, Research Shows

The Swaddle, 10-Aug-2021

Not all narcissists care about looks or fame or money… if you focus too much on the stereotype, you’ll miss red flags that have nothing to do with vanity or greed. Read More.

Is It My Partner’s Mental Illness Affecting Our Relationship – Or Abuse?

AutoStraddle, 8-Jul-2021

In Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin explains the nuance in this spectrum – some narcissism is healthy and protective, and too much empathy (and lack of boundaries) can actually be quite problematic, codependent, and also lead to toxic patterns in relationships, something I learned the hard way, again, when the relationship that followed this one contained similar dynamics. Read More.

Making Book on Trump

Frontpage Mag, 10-Jun-2021

One after another of these tomes hit the bestseller lists. Read More.

The Three Types of Narcissists and How to Recognize Them

Lifehacker, 22-Apr-2021

As Dr. Craig Malkin points out in Rethinking Narcissism, vulnerable narcissists “are just as convinced that they’re better than others as any other narcissist, but they fear criticism so viscerally that they shy away from, and even seem panicked by, people and attention.” Read More.

12 Signs That You Are Actually A Narcissist

I Heart Intelligence, 25-Mar-2021

Harvard Medical School psychologist Craig Malkin explains that “Narcissists abhor feeling influenced in any significant way. It challenges their sense of perfect autonomy; to admit to a feeling of any kind suggests they can be affected by someone or something outside of them.” Read More.

How The Narcissist Gets Away With Abusing People And Come Off As A Good Person

Mystical Raven, 20-Mar-2021

For a true narcissist, any problems you have in your relationship will always be your fault, and they will work hard (consciously or not) to make sure you feel that way. Read More.

Becoming a Narcissist by Proxy

Medium, 18-Feb-2021

Echo personality disorder, coined by Dr. Craig Malkin and understood as a form of dependent personality disorder, is descriptive of folks who are compulsively driven to align with narcissists. Read More.

Selections from The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump

Moyers, 25-Jan-2021

“When it comes to the question of whether or not someone who’s mentally ill can function, danger is the key – to self or others. This is where pathological narcissism and politics can indeed become a toxic, even lethal mix. When peace at home and abroad are at stake – not just the feelings of coworkers, friends, or partners – pathological narcissism unchecked could lead to World War III.” (p. 60) Read More.

The Hidden Danger of Being an Echoist, the Opposite of a Narcissist

The Good Men Project, 23-Jan-2021

Echoists, not empaths as previously assumed, are the exact opposites of narcissists. Psychologist Craig Malkin introduced the term in his book, Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.

Echo ~ The Inverted Narcissist

Medium, 12-Jan-2021

Understood as a form of dependent personality disorder, and coined by Dr. Craig Malkin as echoism or Echo Personality Disorder (EPD), this unfortunate affliction explains the psychological machinations of those who are magnetically drawn to narcissists. Read More.

DR. MALKIN QUOTED IN THE PRESS - 2020

Commentary: The president’s condition is harmful to all of us

The Daily World, 4-Dec-2020

Another interesting mental malady is narcissistic personality disorder known among mental health practitioners as NPD. Craig Malkin, PH.D. lists three manifestations of NPD that include: Entitlement, acting as if the world and other people owe them and should bend to their will; Exploitation, using the people around them to make themselves feel special, no matter what the emotional or even physical cost to others …; Empathy-impairment, neglecting and ignoring the needs and feelings of others … because their own need to feel special is all that matters.” Read More.

Some covid-19 rule-breakers could be narcissists, experts say. Here’s how to approach them

The Washington Post, 28-Sept-2020

Consider your language: This is especially important for public health messaging, said Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and lecturer at Harvard Medical School. To encourage change in people who are behaving narcissistically, Malkin recommended using “we” language to emphasize interconnectedness and appealing to that population’s drive to feel special. Read More.

Echoism: The Other Side of Narcissism

Healthline, 28-Aug-2020

Psychologist Craig Malkin, who discusses echoism in his 2015 book, “Rethinking Narcissism,” describes it as a lack of healthy narcissism. Read More.

The Psychology of Donald Trump

Psychology Today, 8-Aug-2020

Craig Malkin, Ph.D., pointed out that pathological narcissism can spiral into a psychotic spiral of paranoia, impaired and volatile decision making, and gaslighting. Read More.

I Thought He Was “The One”, Turns Out He Was Love Bombing

The Good Men Project, 7-Aug-2020

It’s not about care or compassion or tenderness. For the love bomber, you’re no different than a shiny new toy that captures their attention for the moment. Read More.

Echoism: When You'd Prefer to Go Unnoticed

Exploring Your Mind, 30-Jul-2020

According to Dr. Craig Malkin, psychologist, researcher, and author of Rethinking Narcissism, echoism is the intense fear of seeming narcissistic in any way. In contrast to narcissists, who attract attention and want to feel special, echoists are scared of special attention. Read More.

Not Spotting a Narcissist in a Business Relationship May Cost You a Fortune

Medium, 27-Jul-2020

I want you to imagine that the “boss” is your business partner. Now watch what Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist of Harvard Medical School advises employees to do if they’re looking for a promotion. Read More.

Racism & Narcissism: The Work of Carl Bell, MD

Being Fully Human, 21-Jul-2020

This volume includes two papers that are worth dealing with at length as so many people are trying to understand how racism in the United States could be getting so much support from elected officials and even the president. Read More.

The Bully Narcissist at Work: A Toolbox for Coping

Psychology Today, 20-Jul-2020

According to Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and instructor at Harvard Medical School, narcissists tend to possess a grandiose sense of self, feel entitled to special treatment, and are prone to emotional outbursts. Read More.

Why It Seems Like Bullies Are Everywhere—and How to Stop Them

The Wall Street Journal, 14-Jul-2020

This is because people who are very narcissistic display a trio of behaviors called the Triple E: exploitation, entitlement and empathy impairment, according to Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist, lecturer at Harvard Medical School and author of “Rethinking Narcissism.” Read More.

I Dated A Narcissist, Again

The Prosiest, 18-Jun-2020

Harvard Medical School psychologist Craig Malkin said, “the very fact of having a feeling in the presence of another person suggests you can be touched emotionally by friends, family, partners, and even the occasional tragedy or failure." Read More.

Narcissists, Controllers, and the Art of Blame-Shifting

Psychology Today, 17-Jun-2020

An allied tactic is what Craig Malkin in his book Rethinking Narcissism calls “playing emotional hot potato,” which is another way of looking at projection: The narcissist ascribes what he or she is feeling to the target. Read More.

I like the sound of my own voice – but does that make me a narcissist?

The Guardian, 30-May-2020

Narcissism is on a spectrum. Everyone has some narcissistic traits, he says, but a narcissist is someone who lets it govern their personality. Read More.

In Lockdown with a Narcissist? 5 Things Not to Do

Psychology Today, 21-May-2020

I happen to be weathering this particular storm on my own but I found myself wondering what I would have done if I were still with my ex. So, I turned to Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, for advice for dealing with those difficult, toxic, and high in narcissistic traits folks who are with us 24/7 in a shrunken world. Read More.

19 signs that you're a narcissist and don't even know it

Business Insider, 13-May-2020

Just as narcissists hate to talk about their feelings, "they can't stand to be at the mercy of other people's preferences," Malkin says. "It reminds them that they aren't invulnerable or completely independent — that, in fact, they might have to ask for what they want — and even worse, people may not feel like meeting the request." Read More.

We're Not Machines Meant to Just Perform - We're People - A Reflection on Our Times

Phil Svitek, 10-May-2020

Craig Malkin talked about how kids learn to perform in order to survive, rather than be a person. Read More.

A complete guide to the narcissist: meaning and how to deal

Ladders, 4-May-2020

“It’ll appear that they’re not motivated, or that they are too preoccupied with their own needs to display empathy,” according to clinical psychologist and Harvard Medical School professor Dr. Craig Malkin. “But they have a capacity [for empathy] and this can make it very confusing if you’re in a relationship with them.” Read More.

5 Signs You're Dealing With A Malignant Narcissist

Mind Body Green, 1-May-2020

Clinical psychologist and Harvard lecturer Craig Malkin, Ph.D., says, "Malignant narcissism is a combination of narcissism and psychopathy (remorseless or guiltless mistreatment of others)." Read More.

Are You An Introvert — Or An Echoist? A Psychologist Explains The Difference

Mind Body Green, 30-Apr-2020

In essence, think of the echoist as the counterpart of the narcissist. Coined by psychologist Craig Malkin, echoists are afraid to take up any space for fear of seeming narcissistic. Read More.

8 Types Of Narcissists & How To Distinguish Them

Mind Body Green, 27-Apr-2020

Clinical psychologist and Harvard lecturer Craig Malkin, Ph.D., thinks of narcissism as a trait, or pervasive human tendency, which exists on a spectrum. Read More.

What Does Healthy Narcissism Look Like?

Goop, 21-Apr-2020

“It’s the fuel of fear that keeps these patterns going,” says Craig Malkin, PhD. The Harvard Medical School psychologist joins Elise Loehnen to redefine narcissism. Read More.

Progressives Decide: Dignity and Freedom, or Voting for Biden

Ted Call, 8-Apr-2020

Victims of abusive relationships “don’t stay for the pain,” psychologist Craig Malkin observed in 2013. “Their desperate, often palpable hope, if you sit in the room with them, is that the abuse will go away. And they tend to block out all evidence to the contrary.” Read More.

What Is Echoism? 8 Signs Of An Echoist & How To Heal

Mind Body Green, 2-Apr-2020

Malkin explains that echoism may be rooted in upbringing. For instance, if one's parents discouraged pride or modeled self-effacement, then children might grow up to be the same. Read More.

What Is Echoism?

Happiful, 3-Mar-2020

Coined by Harvard Medical School lecturer Dr Craig Malkin, the term echoist describes someone who, like the Greek nymph Echo, struggles to have an autonomous voice. They tend to emphasise other people’s needs over their own, and have difficulty accepting compliments. Read More.

MODERN EXTREMISM and the Cult of Narcissistic Control - A Psychological View into Current Social Manipulation

Discerning The Mystery, 27-Feb-2020

As Dr. Craig Malkin points out in Rethinking Narcissism, vulnerable narcissists “are just as convinced that they’re better than others as any other narcissist, but they fear criticism so viscerally that they shy away from, and even seem panicked by, people and attention”. Read More.

How to Humiliate an Absolute Narcissist

Psychology Today, 24-Feb-2020

As psychologist Craig Malkin rightly points out, some narcissism is a good thing. But here the focus is on people who fall all the way into it: Absolute narcissists. Read More.

How Your Attachment Style Colors Your World

Psychology Today, 13-Feb-2020

Not surprisingly, securely attached people tend to land in the middle of the narcissistic spectrum with healthy self-regard along with emotional management skills. Read More.

The Suffocating ‘Locomotive Breath’ of Trumpism

Medium, 13-Feb-2020

Secondly, since the publication of “The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump” in 2017, edited by psychaitrists Bandy Lee and Craig Malkin, growing movement of Mental Health professionals in the USA have joined up to question his fitness to hold office. Read More.

‘Modesty Is A Virtue?’ No, Today Narcissists Get Further In Life

Forbes, 10-Feb-2020

According to narcissism researcher Craig Malkin of Harvard University (author of the book Rethinking Narcissism), their behavior is characterized by many positive qualities, including creativity, leadership and self-confidence. Read More.

DR. MALKIN QUOTED IN THE PRESS - 2019

ARE THEY A NARCISSIST OR JUST SELF-CONFIDENT? HERE'S THE DIFFERENCE

MindBodyGreen, 01-Dec-2019

Confidence is about knowing and appreciating your own qualities and worth, and that’s a good thing. Narcissism involves an exaggeration of and obsession with one’s qualities and worth. Read More.

HOW TO KNOW IF THE PERSON YOU'RE DATING IS A 'HEALTHY' VS 'UNHEALTHY' NARCISSIST

Your Tango, 12-Nov-2019

The word certainly conjures up a negative image! However, we all fall somewhere on the scale between pure selflessness and complete arrogance. Read More.

SEEING THE NARCISSIST IN YOUR REARVIEW MIRROR: WHAT YOU MISSED

PsychCentral, 29-Oct-2019

When it comes to not taking responsibility, the brushstrokes are very broad and include, as Dr. Craig Malkin observed in his book Rethinking Narcissism, what he calls “emotional hot potato.”

3 TYPES OF NARCISSISTIC PARENTS

Yahoo! Lifestyle, 18-Oct-2019

The more extreme the narcissism (and the more disordered the narcissist) the more likely you are to see physical and emotional abuse,” Craig Malkin, Ph.D., lecturer at Harvard Medical School and author of “Rethinking Narcissism,”. Read More.

UNLOVED DAUGHTERS AND THE PROBLEM OF UNMET GOALS

Psychology Today, 17-Oct-2019

Dr. Malkin reminds us that narcissism is a spectrum—think of it as a line that stretches from left to right—and in the middle is healthy self-regard. Read More.

TOP 3 THINGS YOU CAN DO TO HELP A LOVED ONE WHO’S STUCK IN LIFE

Thrive Global, 15-Oct-2019

A personality disorder is a pervasive disturbance in a person’s ability to manage his or her emotions, hold onto a stable sense of self and identity, and maintain healthy relationships in work, friendship, and love. Read More.

THE EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT WAY TO DEAL WITH 5 TYPES OF COWORKERS

Fast Company, 07-Oct-2019

Rather than stroke their ego or ignore them altogether, clinical psychologist Craig Malkin previously told Fast Company that a better way is to “catch” and acknowledge them when they display good behavior. Read More.

UNFIT FOR OFFICE

The Atlantic, 03-Oct-2019

“Pathological narcissism begins when people become so addicted to feeling special that, just like with any drug, they’ll do anything to get their ‘high,’ including lie, steal, cheat, betray, and even hurt those closest to them,” Malkin says. Read More.

NARCISSISM 101

Medium, 23-Sep-2019

Scientists don’t even know for sure what causes narcissistic tendencies. But it can be useful to think of narcissism as a spectrum, from absolute selflessness to total arrogance. Everyone is on it, argues Craig Malkin, a Harvard Medical School instructor and author of Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.

ECHOISM: THE TRAIT YOU MIGHT RELATE TO IF YOU GREW UP WITH A 'NARCISSISTIC' PARENT

Yahoo! Lifestyle, 10-Sep-2019

Echoism is a trait of people who are skilled at echoing the needs and feelings of those around them — often at the expense of their own needs and feelings. Read More.

HOW LONG SHOULD YOU BE WITH YOUR PARTNER BEFORE YOU MOVE IN TOGETHER?

Newshub., 06-Sep-2019

Relationship expert Craig Malkin says the key to success is for both partners to show " an active and clear commitment before deciding to live together". Read More.

WHAT IS ECHOISM? A PSYCHOLOGIST TELLS US ABOUT HOW SOME PEOPLE REALLY HATE BEING PRAISED

Mic, 20-Aug-2019

Malkin and his colleagues have found that echoists tend to agree with statements such as “I'm afraid of becoming a burden,” and “When people ask me my preferences, I’m often at a loss.” While these traits might sound a lot like run-of-the-mill people-pleasing behavior or even humility, Malkin says there’s a big difference. Read More.

YOU AREN’T A NARCISSIST, BUT COULD YOU BE AN ECHOIST?

PsychCentral, 14-Aug-2019

Echoism is a fairly new term for a personality type that many of us might be familiar with — the people pleaser. In the recent years Harvard psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin has done work defining echoism and the traits associated with it. Read More.

WHEN SCAPEGOATING IS A WEAPON IN MOM OR DAD’S ARSENAL

PsychCentral, 13-Aug-2019

Scapegoating is a way of controlling the dynamics among and between family members and, not surprisingly, mothers (and fathers) who are high in control or narcissistic traits or are combative by nature use it.

VULNERABLE VS GRANDIOSE NARCISSISM: WHICH IS MORE HARMFUL?

Psychology Today, 23-Jun-2019

As Dr. Craig Malkin points out in Rethinking Narcissism, vulnerable narcissists “are just as convinced that they’re better than others as any other narcissist, but they fear criticism so viscerally that they shy away from, and even seem panicked by, people and attention”. Read More.

ARE YOU AN ECHOIST? TAKE THIS QUIZ TO FIND OUT

Curiosity, 21-Jun-2019

Echoism is a trait, not a diagnosis, and while it's popped up here and there in papers over the last few decades, its big moment in the sun came with Dr. Craig Malkin's 2016 book, "Rethinking Narcissism." "... their defining characteristic is a fear of seeming narcissistic in any way," Malkin wrote.

SPOTTING THE NARCISSIST BY HOW HE TELLS (AND CURATES) HIS STORY

PsychCentral, 11-Jun-2019

Narcissists bury normal emotions like fear, sadness, loneliness, and shame because they’re afraid they’ll be rejected for having them; the greater their fear, the more they shield themselves with the belief that they’re special.

6 WAYS THE NARCISSIST TAKES CONTROL OF A RELATIONSHIP

PsychCentral, 05-Jun-2019

The women who are more likely to swept in by the narcissist’s charms past the initial meeting are those whose emotional needs weren’t met in childhood, and whose mother or father or both were unloving, narcissistic, combative, withholding, or hypercritical. These women typically have low self-esteem, especially if their mothers were high in narcissistic traits; the chances are good that rather than be criticized or scapegoated by their mothers, they learned to duck under the radar and draw as little attention to themselves as possible. In his book, Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin calls these daughters “echoists,” pointing out that they actually lack healthy narcissism.

LISTENING TO ECHOISM

Psychology Today, 07-May-2019

You won't find echoism in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. That's because it's not a disorder, but a measurable trait that my colleagues and I have studied for the past six years. And like all traits, it exists to a greater or lesser degree in all of us, causing damage only when it becomes extreme. Read More.

NARCISSISTIC MOTHERS: THE LONG-TERM EFFECTS ON THEIR DAUGHTERS

PsychCentral, 30-Apr-2019

If you think of narcissism as a spectrum with healthy self-regard in the middle, the ends are occupied by the echoist, who lacks self-regard, and the narcissist, who uses exaggerated self-regard as armor. Read More.

8 SIGNS YOU’RE DATING A NARCISSIST

Ladders, 27-Apr-2019

Narcissism exists on a spectrum, Malkin said, and individuals with severe cases that compromise interpersonal relationships likely have narcissistic personality disorder. Read More.

IS YOUR TOXIC CHILDHOOD MAKING YOU OPEN TO ABUSE IN ADULTHOOD?

PsychCentral, 17-Apr-2019

This way of going along to get along is the ultimate self-effacement and, not surprisingly, these daughters have little sense of who they are, in addition to having low self-esteem. In his book Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin describes narcissism as a spectrum with healthy self-regard in the middle, pathological narcissism on one end and echoism on the other other; the daughters I am describing here are echoists, content to stay off the radar.

WHY DO WOMEN STAY? - IS THE WRONG QUESTION

Modern Ghana, 27-Jan-2019

Batterers, the ill-formed, and ignorant individuals may blame women for staying, “But you won't find a single expert familiar with domestic violence who agrees that victims like being in an abusive relationship,” asserted Dr. Craig Malkin. Read More.

WHAT A NARCISSIST MEANS BY SAYING "I LOVE YOU"

News Dog, 22-Jan-2019

This is hard part—really understanding what motivates and drives those who are high in narcissistic traits and what underlies their words and actions. Keep in mind that it’s the underlying drivers of behavior that set the person high in narcissistic traits apart, and not always the behaviors themselves. They are more than capable of nice gestures, for example, but they don’t do for others but for the value of how they’re perceived. Read More.

AGING ANXIETY AND FACEBOOK'S 10-YEAR CHALLENGE

Psychology Today, 18-Jan-2019

Dr. Craig Malkin points out that narcissism is driven by a pathological need to feel special, and claiming not to have aged in a decade would certainly seem to express the narcissist’s need. Read More.

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MICHAEL ADKINS: WORRIES ABOUT TRUMP’S MENTAL STATE

Daily Reporter, 26-Dec-2018

If pathological narcissists, in their reality-warping efforts to feed their addiction, bring themselves to the precipice of disaster, why should we, as nations, allow them to pull us into the abyss with them? It’s this urgent existential question, he says, that faces Democracies throughout the world today. Read More.

ARE YOU AN ECHOIST?

Good Men Project, 18-Dec-2018

Echoists fear seeming narcissistic in any way—and act accordingly. Does this describe you? Read More.

ECHOISM IS THE LITTLE-KNOWN CONDITION THAT AFFECTS VICTIMS OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE

Broadly, 12-Dec-2018

Echoism typically arises when someone is in a toxic relationship with a narcissist. The narcissist may be their partner, parent, or sibling. Highly sensitive, compassionate, and emotionally intelligent, echoists are extreme people-pleasers. Read More.

ECHOISTS ARE BASICALLY THE OPPOSITE OF NARCISSISTS

Tonic, 04-Dec-2018

It's worth noting that echoism, unlike narcissism, is not an officially recognized condition or disorder. While the term has been used informally—mostly among psychologists—for the better part of a decade, it was popularized most recently in the 2016 book Rethinking Narcissism by Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and lecturer at Harvard Medical School. As Malkin put it, “Echoism is a fear of feeling special or standing out in any way, even positively. It’s a fear of seeming narcissistic in any way." Read More.

10 REASONS YOU WERE FOOLED BY A NARCISSIST

PsychCentral, 28-Nov-2018

It’s thought by most experts, including Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, and Dr. Joseph Burgo, author of The Narcissist You Know, that for all the outward braggadocio, swagger, and projected confidence, people high in narcissistic traits are deeply wounded emotionally and on the run from a deep sense of shame and inadequacy. While he won’t articulate his needs directly—that’s one of his hallmarks—his real motivations are always self-directed and have nothing to do with you. But that may only be obvious in retrospect. Read More.

ECOÍSMO: LOS INSOSPECHADOS RIESGOS DE VIVIR EN LA POSTERGACIÓN

Economía Y Negocios (Spanish), 27-Nov-2018

El ecoísmo se podría definir como el opuesto del narcisismo y del egoísmo. Los ecoístas tienen miedo de sobresalir y sienten que merecen menos o son menos importantes que los demás. Tienden a ser las personas más modestas y de mejor corazón, pero en su versión extrema lidian con una baja autoestima. No se sienten merecedores de atención o cariño, les cuesta reconocer sus propios logros y no tienen la habilidad de reconocer su voz, sus necesidades y sus sentimientos dentro de una relación. Read More.

WHEN YOU’RE NOT NARCISSISTIC ENOUGH: MEET THE ECHOIST!

PsychCentral, 11-Nov-2018

Well, no one wants to be high in narcissism but did you know that some people don’t have enough healthy self-regard and that, in some ways, they’re just as problematic as the folks at the other end of spectrum—yes, the Big Bad Wolf types—with their grandiosity, lies, and lack of empathy. As Dr. Craig Malkin explains in his book, Rethinking Narcissism, there’s actually a spectrum of narcissism.

THE SIMPLEST WAY TO SPOT NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER

Good Men Project, 02-Nov-2018

Is there a narcissist in your life? Read More.

UNLOVED DAUGHTERS AND THE STRUGGLE WITH "ECHOISM"

Psychology Today, 25-Oct-2018

Echoism isn’t a diagnosis, but a trait, and knowing about it can be valuable on the journey to reclaiming yourself from the effects of a toxic childhood or one in which your emotional needs weren’t met. Read More.

DEALING WITH NARCISSISTS: TWO TIPS FROM SHAKESPEARE

Psychology Today, 10-Oct-2018

Every play, practically, has characters who show some of the “warning signs” of narcissism that psychologist Craig Malkin has outlined—emotion phobia, emotional hot potato, exerting stealth control, placing people on pedestals, and pretending to have found a “twin.” Read More.

THE SIMPLEST WAY TO REDUCE ANXIETY & TRAUMA SYMPTOMS

Good Men Project, 01-Oct-2018

One of the most powerful tools in battling anxiety and posttraumatic stress disorder, drawn straight from science, is the knowledge of how trauma symptoms operate in our nervous system. Read More.

9 THINGS EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW ABOUT ECHOISTS

Psychology Today, 28-Sep-2018

Echoism support groups, therapists, and workshops are springing up, and demand for information appears to be growing. But what does the word mean? Read More.

PERILS OF BEING AN ECHOIST

Daily Mail, 23-Sep-2018

Echo, the once-talkative nymph cursed to repeat back the last words she hears, whose love for Narcissus is callously spurned until she fades and dies. Echo is the silent partner to Narcissus’s cruel vanity. Read More.

25 FUN AND HELPFUL QUOTES ABOUT SELF-CONFIDENCE

Psychology Today, 14-Sep-2018

To produce anything great—to even sit down and try—often requires feeling that we’re capable of greatness, hardly the humblest state of mind. Read More.

THE MOST POWERFUL WAY TO PROTECT YOUR KIDS FROM PATHOLOGICAL NARCISSISM

Good Men Project, 31-Aug-2018

You have far more power to protect your children from emotional abuse than you realize. Read More.

10 MYTHS ABOUT CONFIDENCE THAT ARE HOLDING YOU BACK

Psychology Today, 22-Aug-2018

As Dr. Craig Malkin points out in his fascinating book, Rethinking Narcissism, having too little narcissism can also be harmful: “The less people feel special, the more self-effacing they become until, at last, they have so little sense of self they feel worthless and impotent.” Read More.

HOW TO SPOT COVERT ABUSERS

Good Men Project, 21-Aug-2018

Dr. Craig Malkin identifies the clear traits that predict covert abuse. Read More.

THESE 11 SIGNS MEAN YOUR BOSS COULD BE A NARCISSIST

Science Alert, 20-Aug-2018

Feeling an emotion "challenges their sense of perfect autonomy," he wrote. "To admit to a feeling of any kind suggests they can be affected by someone or something outside of them." Read More.

THE SIMPLEST SCIENTIFICALLY—PROVEN WAY OF OVERCOMING PTSD (AND ANXIETY)

Good Men Project, 17-Aug-2018

One of the most powerful tools in battling anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder. Read More.

6 WAYS THE NARCISSIST TURNS THE TABLES ON YOU

PsychCentral, 10-Aug-2018

As Dr. Craig Malkin notes in his book, Rethinking Narcissism, it’s easy to confuse or conflate the roller-coast ride of this kind of relationship—with its dramatic ups and downs, its quick turn from love-bombing to disparagement and control—with passion. Read More.

7 SUBTLE SIGNS YOU’RE DATING A NARCISSIST WHO’S REALLY GOOD AT HIDING IT

Romper, 02-Aug-2018

There are some subtle signs you're dating a narcissist who's really good at hiding it that might give you some added insight into what really might be going on with your partner and might keep you from feeling so blind-sided when the truth really does come out later on down the line. Read More.

DO YOU KEEP DATING NARCISSISTS? 4 ROMANTIC SCRIPTS YOU MUST GIVE UP

PsychCentral, 30-Jul-2018

Think about it for a second: No one is perfect, not even you, and you have to wonder why anyone would put you up there to begin with. Answer?

IS YOUR PARTNER EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE? 7 SIGNS YOU SHOULDN’T IGNORE

PsychCentral, 10-Jul-2018

These are actually red flags but may not appear to be. It’s in the context of love bombing that the abuser begins to isolate his or her partner, either by asserting what Dr. Malkin calls “stealth control” or by an outright protest.

5 SAD DETAILS ABOUT ANTHONY BOURDAIN'S SUICIDE, INCLUDING THE 2016 PARTS UNKNOWN EPISODE THAT SHOULD'VE WARNED US HE NEEDED HELP

Yahoo Lifestyle, 08-Jun-2018

If you do not trust that you can depend on people for love, for caring, connection, you're going to have to soothe yourself some other way. You can soothe yourself with narcissism, you can soothe yourself with a drug addiction. Read More.

6 WAYS TO SPOT A NARCISSIST FROM DAY 1

PsychCentral, 23-May-2018

Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, makes this point brilliantly because how the narcissist controls you may not be as obvious as telling you what to do or issuing directives or ultimatums. Instead, the narcissist switches up plans you’ve already made—whisking you off for a weekend alone when you’ve made plans with friends, for example, or deciding that a French restaurant would be so much more glamorous than ordering in—always under the guise of making things nicer or better. This allows him to run your life without your even noticing; in time, you’ll forget that you had your own wants and needs which is the point.

IS HE OR SHE REALLY A NARCISSIST? IS CALLING SOMEONE A “NARC” A FAD?

PsychCentral, 03-May-2018

On the far ends of the spectrum are those who lack healthy narcissism—these are people Malkin calls echoists—and those who are addicted to attention, the narcissists we are fixated on.

ARE YOU A VICTIM OF GASLIGHTING?

U.S. News & World Report, 25-Apr-2018

The more addicted to feeling special and flawless they are and the more they're confronted with information that challenges that, the more they'll start distorting reality," Malkin says. "If reality doesn't match their sense of how wonderful they are, they'll do things to make you feel like you're memory isn't correct. Read More.

WHY DAUGHTERS OF UNLOVING MOTHERS STRUGGLE TO FIND A PARTNER

Psychology Today, 09-Apr-2018

In the case of the unloved daughter, what she’s learned about love in childhood — that it must earned, fought for, sought, and is never given freely — makes it easier to mistake the arousal of intense feelings such as anger, pain, or fear for passion. Read More.

THERE’S NOTHING ROMANTIC ABOUT LOVE BOMBING

Huffington Post, 16-Mar-2018

Love bombing, unlike real love, is a self-centered, anxious pursuit, with the singular goal of acquiring someone because it boosts the bomber’s ego. Read More.

CURSE OF NARCISSISM

Medium, 12-Mar-2018

While there are several types of narcissists what they all have in common is “self-enhancement”. Their thoughts, behaviors, and statements set them apart from others, and this feeling of distinction soothes them, because they’re otherwise struggling with an unstable sense of self…a pervasive disturbance in a person’s ability to manage his or her emotions… Read More.

11 SUBTLE SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE IN AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

Huffington Post, 05-Mar-2018

While overt control — insisting they get their own way, asserting veto power over plans, making constant demands without discussion — is easy to spot, what Dr. Craig Malkin calls ‘stealth control,’ a behavior he identifies with narcissists, is much more insidious. Read More.

CAN NARCISSISTS ACTUALLY CHANGE THEIR WAYS? WE ASKED THE EXPERTS

Huffington Post, 28-Feb-2018

“The truth is that not all narcissists care about fame, looks or money,” said Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and author of Rethinking Narcissism. “Some can be extremely quiet, so if we get too stuck on these images — really, stereotypes — we miss signs of trouble that have nothing to do with vanity or greed.” Read More.

7 TOXIC BEHAVIORS YOU SHOULD NEVER TOLERATE

PsychCentral, 23-Feb-2018

Rather than own his or her feelings and take responsibility for them, the narcissist projects those onto you—trying to make his or her anger yours. Read More.

HOW TO DEAL WITH A NARCISSIST COWORKER

HR Digest, 17-Feb-2018

Craig Malkin, a psychology lecturer at Harvard Medical School suggests you should walk back when you're receiving the emotional outburst from a narcissist coworker. Read More.

WHAT EVERYONE NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT COVERT ABUSERS

Psychology Today, 16-Feb-2018

There’s another kind of violence, directed at men and women alike, that isn’t as obvious. It creeps into people’s lives in the form of whispered profanities, subtle put-downs, and simmering rage. It thrives in the shadows, as it always has, wreaking havoc with people’s health, safety, and sanity. Mental health professionals call it “covert abuse.” Read More.

HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSIST ON THE VERY FIRST DATE

Huffington Post, 05-Jan-2018

Narcissism exists on spectrum; it’s possible to have some characteristics of narcissism without having full-blown, clinically diagnosed narcissistic personality disorder. There are some telltale signs. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2017

THE POST THAT HIT A NERVE: WHY UNLOVED DAUGHTERS FALL FOR NARCISSISTS

PsychCentral, 30-Dec-2017

Narcissists are experts at projecting their feelings onto you; it’s what Dr. Craig Malkin calls playing “emotional hot potato” in his book Rethinking Narcissism.

5 WAYS NARCISSISM MAKES PEOPLE STRONGER, SMARTER, AND MORE SUCCESSFUL

Business Insider, 22-Dec-2017

Malkin introduces the concept of "healthy narcissism," which means that you display some narcissistic qualities — but they contribute to, rather than detract from, your success in life. Read More.

EVERYONE’S A LITTLE BIT NARCISSISTIC, BUT 5 TRAITS CAN GIVE TRUE NARCISSISTS AWAY

Business Insider, 15-Dec-2017

All narcissists have "self-enhancement" in common: They somehow stand out from the pack. Read More.

A PSYCHOLOGIST REVEALS OUTSTANDING TRAITS OF THE SUPER RICH

Business Insider, 13-Dec-2017

When we look at the relationship between wealth and wealth accumulation and measures of narcissism, people's narcissistic scores go up as they tend to earn more. What all super wealthy people have in common is they feel deserving of their wealth. They don't feel any conflicts about pursuing it. Read More.

HOW TO WORK WITH A NARCISSISTIC BOSS

Business Insider, 12-Dec-2017

If you're dealing with a boss who is just sort of arrogant and can be aloof and difficult to deal with, there are two approaches that are very effective. Read More.

LOOK OUT FOR THESE EARLY WARNING SIGNS THAT YOU'RE DATING A NARCISSIST

Business Insider, 09-Dec-2017

Some early warning signs that you're with a narcissist when you're dating someone that you really want to pay attention to all come down to one thing: All narcissists hate depending on others in mutually caring and emotional ways. Read More.

REPORT: LEADING PSYCHIATRISTS WARN TRUMP’S MENTAL ILLNESS THREATENS NATION

Patheos, 07-Oct-2017

Craig Malkin writes on pathological narcissism and politics as a lethal mix. Read More.

DIAGNOSING DONALD TRUMP, AND HIS VOTERS

The New Yorker, 06-Oct-2017

Craig Malkin, a lecturer at Harvard Medical School and the author of “Rethinking Narcissism,” suggests relying on “people already trained to provide functional and risk assessment based entirely on observation—forensic psychiatrists and psychologists as well as ‘profilers’ groomed by the CIA, the FBI, and various law enforcement agencies.” Read More.

THESE 27 TOP SHRINKS THINK TRUMP MIGHT BE NUTS

The Daily Beast, 02-Oct-2017

Healthy narcissism is a trait that all of us carry: the drive to feel special or unique. “In fact, people with a healthy dose of narcissism are happier, more optimistic and consistently confident than people at the low end of the spectrum,” he writes. Pathological [or malignant] narcissism begins “when people become so addicted to feeling special that, just like with any drug, they’ll do anything to get their ‘high,’” writes Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.

FEELING OVERWHELMED? THE MFA SAYS ONE MINUTE WITH A ROTHKO PAINTING COULD HELP

WBUR 90.9, 22-Sep-2017

Malkin points to the rise of “nature coaches” who help people reconnect not just with the earth and a sense of peace, but also with themselves.Art can also help you step back and reflect, Malkin says — as long as it speaks to you. Read More.

IS DONALD TRUMP ACTUALLY CRAZY? 27 MENTAL-HEALTH EXPERTS OFFER UP THEIR CONCLUSIONS (COMMENTARY)

The Oregonian, 19-Sep-2017

Richard Nixon, the 37th president, was a narcissist, clinical psychologist Craig Malkin states. Donald Trump, the 45th president, is a step beyond that: a pathological narcissist. “Pathological narcissism begins,” Malkin writes, “when people become so addicted to feeling special that, just like with any drug, they’ll do anything to get their ‘high,’ including lie, steal, cheat, betray and even hurt those closest to them.” Read More.

5 IMPORTANT MYTHS (AND FACTS) ABOUT NARCISSISM

U.S. News & World Report, 30-Aug-2017

Fact: Like many things in life, narcissism occurs on a continuum from healthy to unhealthy (or pathological). On the positive side, people who have narcissistic tendencies are often charming, intelligent and intuitive, experts say. Healthy narcissism involves “seeing yourself through slightly rose-colored glasses,” Malkin says. “It lets you dream big but not at the expense of relationships, and it helps you persist in the face of failure.” Read More.

THE NARCISSIST’S PLAYBOOK: TEN TACTICS TO RECOGNIZE

PsychCentral, 24-Aug-2017

Everyone fights—and that’s what you keep telling yourself—but somehow you manage not to fully register, not at the start at least, that he doesn’t own up to what he’s feeling. Instead, he plays what Dr. Malkin calls “emotional hot potato,” ascribing his feelings to you. Read More.

TRUE DO-GOODERS DON'T DO GOOD FOR 'LIKES' ON SOCIAL MEDIA

The Straits Times, 08-Aug-2017

According to Dr. Craig Malkin, who wrote the book, Rethinking Narcissism, communal narcissists regard themselves as especially nurturing, understanding and empathetic. They proudly announce how much they give to charity or how little they spend on themselves. Communal narcissists come from many walks of life. Read More.

DIAGNOSING AND TREATING NARCISSISM

The Carlat Report, 10-Jul-2017

At its heart, pathological narcissism is a desperate need to feel special—in fact, you can call it an addiction to feeling special. The confusing thing is that we tend to focus on one presentation, which is the loud, arrogant, conceited narcissist, but that’s only one type. Click here to get the full article from The Carlat Report. Click here to get the full article from The Carlat Report.

TRUMP ASKS WHY OBAMA ‘DID NOTHING’ TO STOP RUSSIA’S ‘MEDDLING’ IN PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION

MarketWatch, 24-Jun-2017

One response over Twitter from Dr. Craig Malkin summed up some of the of critical responses to the Trump tweet. Read More.

THE REAL NARCISSISTS

Willing Ways, 15-Jun-2017

One response over Twitter from Dr. The label is everywhere, but it's widely misused to describe anyone who offends us. The truth? A little narcissism is good for you. Read More.

ON A CAROUSEL WITH A NARCISSIST? 5 STEPS TO GET OFF

PsychCentral, 15-Jun-2017

The problem with seeing the narcissist as the Big Bad Wolf is that you expect him to behave horribly in obvious ways and that’s probably not going to happen. The truth is that he’s a master of grand gestures which Dr. Craig Malkin has identified as his tactic of stealth control.

IN DELUSIONAL TWEET, TRUMP CLAIMS ‘VINDICATION’ FROM ‘LEAKER’ COMEY. GETS EPIC RESPONSE

Political D!g, 09-Jun-2017

Dr. Malkin fires back about Comey's firing. Read More.

THREE WAYS TO SPOT A NARCISSIST

meQuilibrium, 06-Jun-2017

No one wants to be accused of being a narcissist: someone with an excessive interest in themselves. But how can you tell if you (or someone you know) is a narcissist? When does self-interest become self-limiting? The answer lies in knowing the difference between healthy and unhealthy narcissism. Read More.

ECHOISM: THE FLIP SIDE OF NARCISSISM.

Elephant Journal, 31-May-2017

Echoists tend to be introverted because they’ve learned it’s unsafe to express themselves. Read More.

9 THINGS YOU NEED TO DO IF YOU’RE INVOLVED WITH A NARCISSIST

PsychCentral, 31-May-2017

Because narcissists in popular culture are portrayed as bad guys and gals, many people expect a straightforward scenario—like being locked up in a dungeon by someone who acts like a thug or being derided or humiliated publicly front of other people. Nope, that’s not how the narcissist plays it.

9 THINGS A NARCISSIST WILL NEVER DO

PsychCentral, 22-May-2017

What the person high in narcissistic traits doesn’t do constitutes a pattern of its own and, in many ways, makes him easier to identify. Once you’ve focused on what he isn’t doing, you can see that what motivates him isn’t the need to connect to you in any meaningful way—which is, of course, what you’ve been hoping for all along—but a very private and specific agenda which is making sure that his vision of himself stays protected and invulnerable.

IN PRAISE OF SELFISH WOMEN

Quartz, 13-May-2017

We all have narcissistic tendencies that can be roughly measured on a scale of 1 to 10, with the most problematic cases at either end of the spectrum. Read More.

DONALD TRUMP WAGES WAR AGAINST REPUBLICANS OF THE FREEDOM CAUCUS — AND TWITTER LAUGHS AT THE HYPOCRISY!

Perez Hilton, 30-Mar-2017

Dr. Malkin was quick to criticize to the President's latest divisive remarks.

NARSISIZME YENI BIR BAKIŞ (TURKISH)

İletişim, 15-Mar-2017

Lately, everyone is talking about narcissism. In newspapers and magazines, in television programs, on the internet, in everyday conversations, this word comes out constantly. It is mostly used with negative connotations and accepted by many as an "epidemic". What is the cause of narcissism and, worst of all, is it bad? Read More.

10 PROJECTIONS FROM THE MIND OF A NARCISSIST

Power of Positivity, 10-Mar-2017

There’s a long-standing belief…that narcissists actually feel great about themselves…Savvier researchers recognized that the emperor had no clothes…They hooked the narcissists up to a lie detector (fake) then asked them how they felt about themselves. Suddenly, their high self-esteem vanished... Read More.

DOES YOUR SIGNATURE REVEAL YOU ARE A NARCISSIST? RESEARCHERS FIND LARGE SIGNATURES ARE A SIGN OF DARK TRAITS

Daily Mail, 27-Feb-2017

A study analyzing the signatures of 500 chief financial officers found that signature size is linked only to the dark elements of narcissism. Read More.

PATIENT IN CHIEF

The Huffington Post, 25-Feb-2017

Narcissism is best understood as a drive to feel special, to stand out from the rest of the 7 billion people on the planet. At its healthiest, it can engender big dreams, charisma, and ambition. Read More.

WHEN YOUR BOSS IS A NARCISSIST

Psychology Today, 08-Jan-2017

Narcissists are ego-driven, big-headed, cold-blooded individuals who expect total loyalty from others without being loyal in return. According to Dr. Craig Malkin, Harvard Medical School Lecturer and author of Rethinking Narcissism, narcissists want to feel important. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2016

9 LITTLE WAYS TO MAKE YOUR HUSBAND FEEL BUTTERFLIES AGAIN

Coastal Courier, 20-Dec-2016

You two still love each other — but the days are getting duller. Your husband is a great man, but sometimes it's difficult to rekindle the spark you once had. If your husband needs a bit of a nudge, here are some small ways to give the him butterflies he had when you were dating.

22 SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE A NARCISSIST

Midland Daily News, 09-Dec-2016

The "very fact of having a feeling in the presence of another person suggests you can be touched emotionally by friends, family, partners, and even the occasional tragedy or failure," Harvard Medical School psychologist Craig Malkin writes in The Huffington Post. That's why narcissists avoid emotional displays. Read More.

LIFE AFTER YOU: RECOVERING FROM A NARCISSIST

PsychCentral, 02-Dec-2016

It’s often only at the end that you may fully appreciate how much of you has been chipped away over the course of the relationship.

How To Cope With A Narcissistic Mother

Bustle, 29-Nov-2016

Dr. Craig Malkin explains in his writing for Psychology Today that people with full-fledged narcissistic personality disorder may be capable of change, but that doesn't mean it's going to happen: "It’s not that people with NPD can’t change; it’s that it often threatens their sense of personhood to try." Read More.

SEXUAL ASSAULT AWARENESS MONTH

Kerry Hayes, 04-Nov-2016

“Eventually there’s sort of this wearing down for people on the receiving end of the abuse where they continue to tolerate more and over time feel less entitled to safety.” Read More.

NARCISSISTIC PARENTING: ITS HARMFUL & LONG-TERM SIDE EFFECTS ON CHILDREN

Parent Herald, 30-Oct-2016

Children with parents who have narcissistic personality disorder display side effects, with chronic self-blame among them. According to a The Huffington Post report penned by clinical psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin, narcissistic parents are emotionally tone deaf and they are too absorbed in themselves to focus on their child's pleas or pains. Read More.

WHY WE CAN'T STOP READING ABOUT TRUMP

LA Weekly, 30-Oct-2016

"Absolutely, we are attracted to this kind of extroverted narcissist," Malkin says. "They’re more outgoing, they tend to be chest-thumping, glib, show a lot of braggadocio. They’re overwhelmingly rated as more attractive, whether they’re physically attractive or not. Narcissists are more likely to take risks." Read More.

8 COMMON EFFECTS OF NARCISSISTIC PARENTING

The Huffington Post, 27-Oct-2016

What happens to the development of our personality when we live in the shadow of narcissistic parent? Here are eight of the most common effects. Read More.

DO YOU HAVE A NARCISSIST IN YOUR LIFE? THESE TRAITS CAN BE TELLTALE SIGNS.

Today.com, 24-Oct-2016

When narcissists feel vulnerable, they don’t want to process those feelings. Instead, they put others down to bolster their self-esteem, what Craig Malkin calls playing “emotional hot potato.” Read More.

IS THERE SOMEONE ELSE NARCISSUS?

Dr. Gail Beck, 23-Oct-2016

Narcissism is a word that gets used a lot these days, mostly because of the American election, but I am absolutely going to say nothing else about that because I want to focus on the central message of Craig Malkin’s 2015 book Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad – and Surprisingly Good – About Feeling Special. Read More.

NARCISSISTS ARE EVERYWHERE — BUT THEY MAY NOT BE THE PEOPLE YOU THINK THEY ARE

The Washington Post, 07-Oct-2016

Some true narcissists are obsessed with helping other people — kind of self-aggrandizement through martyrdom. We’ve all met people like this, Craig Malkin, author of “Rethinking Narcissism,” tells Webber — “self-sacrificing to the point where you can’t stand to be in the room with them.” Other narcissists might have so damaged a sense of self that they cannot handle criticism and become highly introverted. Read More.

BOOSTING YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE MAY BE KEY TO WINNING AND KEEPING FRIENDS.

Today.com, 04-Oct-2016

"Part of it is the self-centeredness of the personality," he said. "With narcissism, you are looking for the power and status. That can interfere with relationships over time if what you are looking for is status over warmth and caring." Read More.

IS HE OR SHE AN ADDICT FIRST? OR A NARCISSIST FIRST?

Psychology Today, 03-Oct-2016

Deep down, is every addict also a narcissist? And is every narcissist actually an addict? These are the difficult questions that the partner of a narcissist and addict has to explore and answer for him or herself. Read More.

IS IT TIME TO GET HELP? NARCISSISM EPIDEMIC.

Aquarius Magazine, 01-Oct-2016

Malkin argues that modern society is no more narcissistic than previous generations, merely that today’s show off has more platforms on which to do it. He says, “Technology is only as healthy as our use of it. Research suggests that people largely express their personalities though social media: extroverts are more extroverted, introverts are more introverted, narcissists are more narcissistic.”

WHY UNLOVED DAUGHTERS FALL FOR NARCISSISTS

PsychCentral, 28-Sep-2016

Feelings of anger and jealousy can easily be triggered in an anxious person by the threat of separation or a perceived slight; the narcissist in your life knows this about you and he’s likely to play this reactivity to his advantage. Narcissists are expert at projecting their feelings onto you; it’s what Dr. Craig Malkin calls playing “emotional hot potato” in his book Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.

5 MOMENTS GETTING BACK TOGETHER WITH AN EX IS A WASTE OF TIME

FemaleNetwork.com, 27-Sep-2016

Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist at Harvard Medical School says those who are abused usually rationalize the situation. “People wind up blaming themselves for the abusive behavior of their partners. They convince themselves if they approach the person differently, maybe they won’t be abused.” He also says that having a relationship with an abusive partner is like a gambling addiction, “the person being abused is focused on the positive and waiting for the next positive.” Read More.

HOW NARCISSISM HURTS US ALL

Alternet, 17-Sep-2016

Craig Malkin, the author of Rethinking Narcissism, warns that expecting a one-size-fits-all manifestation of narcissism is likely to cloud your judgment when you encounter one who runs against the popular grain.

WHAT TO DO WHEN A WOMAN DOESN’T LIKE YOU

True Viral News, 15-Sep-2016

The truth being that “people are attracted to us, or not, for all sorts for reasons that are beyond our control. We worry about the right word, the right approach, the right clothes, all because we’re convinced that if we craft ourselves in the perfect way, we’ll find a great date.”

5 THINGS A NARCISSIST NEVER DOES

PsychCentral, 05-Sep-2016

Think of it more like a jolt of energy that accompanies any intense feeling and courses through your nervous system. A big dose of arousal ramps up our feelings of attraction. Anxiety excites. Anger entices. Terror titillates. Unfortunately, as far as our bodies are concerned, uncertainty is as good a source of passion as any other feeling.

THE REAL NARCISSISTS (COVER FEATURE)

Psychology Today Magazine, 01-Sep-2016

Dr. Malkin is featured in this month's cover story of Psychology Today. Read More.

DOES YOUR OFFICE HAVE A CLEAR HIERARCHY? THEN YOU COULD BE A NARCISSIST, RESEARCHERS SAY.

Daily Mail, 17-Aug-2016

People who have narcissistic tendencies are more likely to work in an office with a clear hierarchy, researchers have found. They discovered those with narcissistic traits tended to support hierarchical businesses and organizations when they were either at the top of the hierarchy or when they expected they could rise to the top. Read More.

LINDSAY LOHAN EXPOSES A SAD REALITY ABOUT ABUSE

attn:, 08-Aug-2016

Many people in abusive relationships faced domestic abuse as children or watched one of their parents suffer in an abusive relationship. Read More.

4 KEYS TO LEAVING A BAD RELATIONSHIP

The Huffington Post, 08-Aug-2016

Self-blame comes in handy when a relationship no longer works and leaving feels too painful. If we convince ourselves that someone’s being hurtful or insensitive because of our own failings, there’s still hope. All we have to do is improve. If I’m the problem, then the happiness of the relationship is entirely in my hands. It’s a solution that preserves hope at the expense of our self-esteem. Read More.

DID YOU MARRY A NARCISSIST?

PsychCentral, 05-Aug-2016

The caricature of the narcissist the culture embraces—the guy so full of himself that every sentence begins with “I,” the bully who’s easy to spot from just a few yards, the control freak out in the open—is, according to Craig Malkin, far from the truth.

WHY AMERICA CAN’T GET ENOUGH OF TRUMP’S CAMPAIGN OF SPECTACLE

The Buffalo News, 17-Jul-2016

Most politicians are narcissists, Malkin said, and voters usually can discern the healthy ones from the rest.

I'M SPECIAL! THE SCIENCE OF NARCISSISM

Canvas8, 15-Jul-2016

While narcissism is often considered a bad thing, does it have to be? Psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin isn’t sure. He sat down with Canvas8 to explain what healthy narcissism looks like. Read More.

THESE SIMPLE STEPS WILL IMPROVE YOUR DATING LIFE

FemaleNetwork.com, 13-Jul-2016

There’s nothing sexier than a woman who knows how to carry herself–and someone who is confident enough not to seek another person’s approval is definitely attractive. Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a Harvard psychologist says that confidence makes you seem more trustworthy and the lack of it “may even unintentionally spoil the attraction. Read More.

IS NARCISSISM ALL BAD?

Beliefnet, 08-Jul-2016

Narcissism is more than a stubborn character flaw or a severe mental illness or a rapidly spreading cultural disease, transmitted by social media. Read More.

7 HOURS OF CEC CREDIT FOR RETHINKING NARCISSISM

Web Wire, 21-Jun-2016

With this being the final month for mental health professionals to obtain their licensing hours through continuing education credits, if you or a colleague is in the process of gathering credits, the book Rethinking Narcissism by Dr. Craig Malkin could be perfect for you! Read More.

THE SECRET TO SPOTTING SUBTLE NARCISSISTS

The Huffington Post, 20-Jun-2016

Subtle narcissism is marked by an entitlement surge — those moments when a normally understanding friend or partner or coworker angrily behaves as if the world owes them. It’s usually triggered by a sudden fear that their special status has been threatened in some way. Read More.

WHY RECOVERING FROM THE NARCISSIST IN YOUR LIFE IS SO HARD

Psychology Today, 20-Jun-2016

One of the most dizzyingly disorienting experiences about uncovering layers of lies is that you end up questioning your judgment about everything, especially if you had a partner who covered his or her tracks by trying to convince you that you were ‘crazy’ or ‘paranoid.’ Read More.

A NARCISSISTIC LEADER TENDS TO MOVE TOWARDS BEING A FASCIST LEADER

Intuitive fred888, 09-Jun-2016

Craig Malkin calls a lack of healthy narcissism "echoism" after the nypmh Echo in the mythology of Narcissus. Read More.

4 REASONS A NARCISSIST IS LIKE CATNIP–AT FIRST…

PsychCentral, 08-Jun-2016

The narcissist likes to be in control and unless you are willing to park your own needs by the door in perpetuity, there are bound to be conflicts—lots of them. Additionally, the narcissist is an expert at playing games and manipulating others; he plays what Dr. Malkin calls “emotional hot potato,” meaning that he denies his own feelings and projects them onto you.

How To Be Less Jealous Of Friends' Success

Bustle, 2-Jun-2016

If you aren't handling your jealousy well, it could be that you're tired, stressed, or overwhelmed. As Craig Malkin, Ph.D., said on Psychology Today, "Jealousy is a stress response, which means if you're already anxious and overwhelmed, you're likely to feel it even more intensely ... [So] manage anxiety with exercise, good nutrition, meditation or yoga, and plenty of supports." A little self-care may be just what you need. Read More.

THE COMMUNAL NARCISSIST: ANOTHER WOLF WEARING A SHEEP OUTFIT

Psychology Today, 24-May-2016

In his book Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin distinguishes between three types of narcissists—the extrovert, the introvert, and the communal. Read More.

WHY WE STILL THINK ABOUT RODIN'S 'THE THINKER,' NOW SITTING PENSIVELY AT THE PEABODY ESSEX

90.9 WBUR, 16-May-2016

Malkin is author of the book, “Rethinking Narcissism,” and blogs for The Huffington Post. For him, "The Thinker" is open to interpretation, and he believes our reactions to the sculpture tell us something about ourselves. Read More.

13 THINGS YOU MUST KNOW IF YOU ARE DIVORCING A NARCISSIST

Psychology Today, 11-May-2016

“A good therapist,” says Malkin, “should talk to you about the possibility of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, common in abuse survivors, even when the only abuse has been serial infidelity.” Keep in mind that your lawyer isn’t a therapist, and your therapist isn’t an attorney. Read More.

FEATURED IN PSYCHOLOGIE HEUTE - GERMAN PUBLICATION

Featured In Psychologie Heute - German Publication, 01-May-2016

Ich finde mich prima! Sie stellen sich selbst in den Mittelpunkt und haben kein Ohr und kein Herz für die anderen: Extreme Narzissten sind eine Plage. Doch zu eine gewissen Grad sind wir fast alle narzisstisch. Wir sind von uns eingenommen, halten uns für besser, als wir tatsächlich sind. Und das ist gut so!

WHAT IT TAKES — 2016: EXCERPT II FROM ‘BRIGHT, INFINITE, FUTURE’

The Huffington Post, 28-Apr-2016

While a strong ego is necessary to survive the political gauntlet, if it’s too large then a person can plunge over the cliff into narcissism if not solipsism, a place where others exist only for your enhancement. And extreme self-absorption is inconsistent with the public good or maintaining public support. Read More.

13 HONEST CONFESSIONS FROM PEOPLE MARRIED TO NARCISSISTS

The Huffington Post, 27-Apr-2016

Keep in mind that not everyone who’s vain or self-absorbed necessarily has the disorder. Narcissism exists on a spectrum, according to Dr. Craig Malkin, an instructor of psychology at Harvard University and the author of Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — and Surprising Good — About Feeling Special. Here are some signs to look out for. Read More.

HOW ARE WE FOOLED BY A NARCISSIST? (LEARN HOW!)

Surviving Narcissistic Abuse, 13-Apr-2016

While many descriptions of narcissistic behavior would have you imagine someone who begins every sentence with “I” and demands that everything be done his way, it’s actually more complicated than that. You don’t fall for it because you’re stupid but because you misread his motivation.

UNDERSTANDING THE LANGUAGE OF THE NARCISSIST

PR Newswire, 12-Apr-2016

In reading her book, I have found myself instead becoming her fan." Dr. Craig Malkin, Psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School and author of the critically acclaimed book, "Rethinking Narcissism," totes Swithin's work, "After years of research as an advocate, Swithin knows enough about these disorders to put some clinicians to shame. If you need to start over, this is the woman you want holding your hand through the process." Read More.

WARUM DIE DIAGNOSE NARZISSMUS ETWAS GUTES HAT

Die Welt, 12-Apr-2016

Malkin takes the word narcissism and shows how adaptive it is for people to feel valuable. Read More.

FEATURED IN DIE WELT - GERMAN PUBLICATION

Featured in Literarische Welt - German Publication, 09-Apr-2016

Verdammt, ich lieb mich. Craig Malkin erklart Narzissmus als Adaptionsstrategie.

HOW TO SPOT (AND WORK WITH) THE OFFICE NARCISSIST

Fast Company, 08-Apr-2016

We can get too focused on that stereotype that we miss the danger signs that have nothing to do with greed or vanity. Narcissism is a spectrum of self-importance, and everyone falls somewhere on the scale between utter selflessness and total arrogance, says Malkin. Read More.

ERST ICH – UND DANN DIE ANDEREN

DiePresse.com, 05-Apr-2016

Narcissism occurs, according to Malkin, on a graded scale. He deems insufficient narcissism to be harmful. "The less someone thinks something better, the more he takes himself back until he has such a low self-esteem that he finds himself worthless and powerless." Read More.

Behaviors That Can Make You Less Likeable

Bustle, 1-Apr-2016

in a piece for Psychology Today specifically about dating — but which applies to any social situation — Harvard psychologist Craig Malkin said that both men and women generally prefer people who appear confident over those who seem shy and reserved, because confident behavior instantly creates a stronger sense of trust. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2015

IS TRUMP’S NARCISSISM REALLY A BAD THING?

The Goodmen Project, 26-Dec-2015

We paint narcissism as a bad thing, but in truth, what we call narcissism contains components of healthy functioning. The challenge, Dr. Malkin points out, is when these ingredients are in bad proportions. Read More.

9 THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT LOVING AGAIN AFTER EMOTIONAL ABUSE

The Huffington Post, 17-Dec-2015

Letting friends fall to the wayside leaves you completely dependent on one person for connection, making it that much more difficult to leave.

ARE YOU A NARCISSIST?

Curtis Yungen, 15-Dec-2015

Not all narcissists are this obvious. The more subtle narcissists may seem self-effacing and modest, but they secretly harbor an unhealthy sense of entitlement which will suddenly rear its ugly head when they fear their special status has been threatened in some way.

BOOK REVIEW: RETHINKING NARCISSISM

Eating Disorders Blogs, 07-Dec-2015

Whether the Narcissist in your life is a spouse/partner, adult child, parent, boss or co-worker, Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad—and Surprisingly Good—About Feeling Special by Dr. Craig Malkin, will help you deal with him or her rather than eat over the distress they’re bound to generate.

THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE REJECTION FROM WOMEN

Men's Health, 04-Dec-2015

"There is no right move,” Malkin says. “Some women might even like the guy who seems a little nervous or quiet. One women’s Adonis is another’s Quasimodo — and vice versa."

8 QS TO ASK TO KNOW IF YOUR JEALOUSY IS NORMAL (OR WAY OUT OF HAND)

Your Tango, 28-Nov-2015

A little jealousy is totally normal, but are you the green goblin? Jealousy is rarely a black and white issue, and it is rarely objective, either.

7 TIPS FOR CHOOSING THE NEXT PRESIDENT

RGJ.com, 25-Nov-2015

Credit goes to Craig Malkin, a Harvard psychologist and author of "A Psychologist's Open Letter To U.S. Voters." His subtitle caught my eye: "A research-backed guide to picking the next president." Facts and logic affecting an election? Now, that's interesting. Read More.

THE 100 MOST FOLLOWED PSYCHOLOGISTS AND NEUROSCIENTISTS ON TWITTER!

The British Psychology Society, 18-Nov-2015

The 100 most followed psychologists and neuroscientists on Twitter based on follower counts recorded over the last few weeks.

SECRET SIGNS OF NARCISSISM

Oprah Weekly, 16-Nov-2015

Are you in a toxic relationship without knowing it? A Harvard researcher explains how to identify people that may hurt you—and how to protect your emotional health.

5 THINGS PSYCHOLOGISTS WISH THEIR PATIENTS WOULD DO

Everyday Health, 16-Nov-2015

“Many of my clients berate themselves for each and every mistake,” he says. But research shows that this kind of self-punishment is the worst way to change behavior. “We’d all do much better celebrating our moments of success than laying into ourselves for our ‘failures,’” he says. Read More.

READ THIS TO MOVE YOUR LIFE FORWARD

Oprah's Book Club 2.0, 12-Nov-2015

Is there someone in your life who's hurting you and you just don't know it? In this Harvard researcher's illuminating—reads-like-a-novel—book, he reveals how to identify and repair your relationships to live with more fulfillment. Click here for more details.

THIS IS A SALES CALL, NOT A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL

Inc., 10-Nov-2015

Don't allow emotional neediness to derail your confidence. Instead, switch to connectedness, which Dr. Craig Malkin defines as a valuing of relationships and sensitivity to the effects of our actions on others. Read More.

THINK CAREFULLY BEFORE CALLING SOMEONE A NARCISSIST

Catholic Herald, 29-Oct-2015

Dr Malkin teaches at Harvard Medical School, and in his book he gives fascinating insights which have helped me understand what is ‘unhealthy narcissism’.

LETTERS: THE CULTURE OF NARCISSISM

New York Times, 23-Oct-2015

The question of why the public currently seems fascinated enough by apparent narcissists to buy their products and turn them into celebrities is not addressed. Read More.

23 THOUGHTS ON “READER QUESTION: ABOUT THIS BLOG…?”

An Upturned Soul, 15-Oct-2015

Information about the narcissistic continuum is finally being offered to the public. Dr. Craig Malkin has written an excellent book. Read More.

CAN A NARCISSIST EVER REALLY CHANGE? THE EXPERTS WEIGH IN

QueenBeeing.com, 14-Oct-2015

Yes, Narcissists CAN Change - "I’m going to go on record as saying yes—I do believe it’s possible for people to change, even if they’ve been diagnosed with something as deeply entrenched and formidable as a personality disorder,..." Read More.

21 SIGNS YOU'RE A NARCISSIST

Popsugar, 13-Oct-2015

The "very fact of having a feeling in the presence of another person suggests you can be touched emotionally by friends, family, partners, and even the occasional tragedy or failure," says Harvard Medical School psychologist Craig Malkin. Read More.

I AM A NARCISSIST. THAT'S A GOOD THING.

Psychology Today, 13-Oct-2015

"Chock full of eminently practical advice on how to cope with the dangers of narcissism, in ourselves and others, Rethinking Narcissism brings much needed compassion and clarity to one of the most vexing problems in mental health without ever resorting to false hopes or naivete. In that way, the book itself is special.”—Tom Wooton, Huffington Post Blogger and author of The Bipolar Advantage Read More.

6 SIGNS YOU WERE RAISED BY A NARCISSIST

Huffington Post, 12-Oct-2015

A narcissistic parent will trample all over their family to address their own desires without giving much thought to what anyone else needs. Because of this, some adult children of narcissists will actually overcorrect and bend over backwards to make sure no one could ever possibly perceive them this way. Alternately, they may have grown up all their lives being told that their needs don’t matter. Either way, the result is the same: They let people walk all over them because they’re not in touch with what they need and they don’t know how to express it. Read More.

RIHANNA POIGNANTLY EXPLAINS WHY SHE WENT BACK TO CHRIS BROWN

Health, 07-Oct-2015

Craig Malkin, PhD, a clinical psychologist at Harvard Medical School, offered a helpful analogy for this mental barrier: He likened the dysfunctional relationship to an addiction. “The person being abused is focused on the positive and waiting for the next positive. There’s a psychological effect like gambling: the moments of tenderness and intimacy are unpredictable, but they are so intense and fulfilling that the victim winds up staying in the hopes that a moment like that will happen again.” Read More.

8 WAYS TO TELL IF YOU'RE IN A HEALTHY PLACE ON THE JEALOUSY SPECTRUM

Overage.com, 06-Oct-2015

We recently published an article on this site by Dr. Craig Malkin about how narcissism exists on a spectrum -- and either end of this spectrum is a rather unhealthy place to be. That's how we first started thinking about this idea of jealousy existing on a spectrum, too.

OCTOBER’S BOOK OF THE MONTH: RETHINKING NARCISSISM

Patrick Betdavid, 01-Oct-2015

Harvard Medical School psychologist and Huffington Post blogger Craig Malkin addresses the “narcissism epidemic,” by illuminating the spectrum of narcissism, identifying ways to control the trait, and explaining how too little of it may be a bad thing. Read More.

3 SIGNS YOU NEED A NARCISSIST EXIT STRATEGY

Redonline.co.uk, 30-Sep-2015

The pattern of a relationship with a narcissist often goes like this: a flurry of attention, a huge romantic drama... then nothing. Or your partner seems to care but you keep feeling worthless, neglected or alone. 'The good and bad coexist,' says Dr Malkin. 'We stay for the good. But you don't have to wait for physical abuse to leave.' So when should you leave? Read More.

WHAT’S YOUR NARCISSIST SCORE?

Redonline.co.uk, 30-Sep-2015

‘Narcissists can be aloof, insensitive, entitled – but not all the time,’ says Malkin. ‘They’re difficult to live with. It’s confusing for people in relationships, there’s no ongoing abuse that’s a reason to leave the relationship but things don't feel right, don't feel secure. Partners often don’t feel special in the lives of milder narcissists, more like one of the crowd.’ Other varieties of narcissist are the ‘fair-weather friend’ or a ‘ruthless co-worker’. Read More.

YOU, ME, AND THE NARCISSIST NEXT DOOR

Psychology Today, 29-Sep-2015

In Dr. Malkin’s view, both the echoist and the narcissist are products of their childhoods, with what he terms insecure love identified at the culprit. While acknowledging that nature does play a role—personality traits such as introversion or extraversion, a higher narcissistic drive in some children or a more fragile nature in others—he lands firmly in the court of nurture, arguing that what pushes people to one end or another of the spectrum is how they are parented.

WHY EMOTIONAL ABUSE IS SUCH A NEGLECTED TOPIC

The Covington News, 25-Sep-2015

There are other factors that make it even more difficult to pick out those that are suffering from emotional abuse. One clinical psychologist and author, Dr. Craig Malkin explains about a common type of emotional abuse that sometimes both the victim and the abuser have no idea they are playing the roles in an abusive relationship.

‘SELFISH,’ BY KIM KARDASHIAN WEST, AND MORE

The New York Times, 22-Sep-2015

“Narcissism isn’t all bad,” he writes. “In fact, some narcissism is good — even vital — for us to lead happy, fulfilled and productive lives.” He writes that “creativity, leadership and high self-esteem” are associated with the feeling that one is better than average. Read More.

Why a Little Narcissism Can Be Healthy

Quiet Revolution, 08-Sep-2015

Confusing introversion and narcissism is a common mistake. The irony of the introvert’s experience in the boisterous, extroverted world, where loud debating and relentless socializing are the norm, is that the least selfish people end up being accused of being narcissists: entitled, aloof, and insensitive. But nothing could be further from the truth: most introverts actually need to feel more, not less, entitled—at least when it comes to enjoying their inner lives. They need more pride, more confidence, and more appreciation of what makes them unique. Read More.

Healthy Narcissism? 8 Ways To Be (A Bit) More Like Donald Trump

WBUR Blog, NPR affiliate, 07-Sep-2015

Dr. Craig Malkin, author of the new book, “Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — And Surprising Good — About Feeling Special.” A clinical psychologist and instructor at Harvard Medical School, he begins with a massive disclaimer: “I would not advise anyone to emulate Donald Trump in a lot of the ways that he behaves.”But broadly speaking, he says, it’s a myth that narcissism is all bad. In fact, narcissism is a trait, not a diagnosis, Malkin says; it’s a drive to feel special. And it exists on a spectrum, unhealthy mainly at the extremes. Read More.

Smart Advice For When You Disagree Over What’s Really Risky For Your Kid

Fatherly, 03-Sep-2015

If you're the risk-taking parent, Dr. Malkin says, "The first question should always be, 'What is it that has you worried? I love you and don't want you to be scared about what happens to our child, so can you tell me what you picture might happen?' You want your partner to really spell it out." Read More.

Now You See It, Now You Don’t: The Many Faces of Narcissism

Psychology Today, 02-Sep-2015

This post takes its cue from, and is in fact a review of, Dr. Craig Malkin’s Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad—and Surprising Good—About Feeling Special (2015). In shedding new light on the various paradoxes of narcissism, this excellent and much needed “re-introduction” to one of the most compelling psychological subjects takes optimal advantage of up-to-date clinical and academic research. Read More.

Craig Malkin writes that some narcissism is healthy

Belmont, 24-Aug-2015

The classic definition of the word "narcissism" is a normal, pervasive human tendency -- the drive to feel special, pathological in the extreme, according to local author Craig Malkin. A Harvard Medical School-affiliated psychologist with more than two decades of clinical experience, Malkin redefines narcissism and shows why feeling special isn’t necessarily such a bad thing after all in his recently published first book, “Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad -- and Surprising Good -- About Feeling Special.” Read More.

Book Review: Rethinking Narcissism

PsychCentral, 20-Aug-2015

Among all the books that have been published on the topic in the past 10 years, Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — and Surprising Good — About Feeling Special stands out as a definite must-read.

A Psychologist's Open Letter to U.S. Voters

The Huffington Post, 20-Aug-2015

As a narcissism expert, I'm not especially worried that narcissists might make it to the White House. According to research, they've always been there. And that shouldn't scare us anyway, because just to be clear: narcissist is not a diagnosis. It never has been. Read More.

Why some people stay with their partners even after abuse

Bryan County News, 19-Aug-2015

“People wind up blaming themselves for the abusive behavior of their partners,” Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist at Harvard Medical School, told Time magazine last year. “They convince themselves if they approach the person differently, maybe they won’t be abused.”

Rethinking narcissism: Feeling extra-special may not be so bad after all

Chicago Tribune, 19-Aug-2015

Many people think of narcissism as a poor personality trait and narcissists as people we should try to avoid. Sure, there's some truth to this, but moderate doses of narcissism are not only good, but also necessary, for our self-esteem, relationships and health, says clinical psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin, author of the new book, "Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — and Surprising Good — About Feeling Special" (Harper Wave). Malkin, an instructor at Harvard Medical School, explains how narcissism, the drive to feel special, falls on a spectrum — and having either too little or too much of it can be unhealthy. Read More.*Additional publications in the Gulf Times, Press of Atlantic City, Philly.com, AJC, Republican American, Wcfcourier.com, Newsday, Monterey County Herald, Marin Independent Journal and Fredericksburg.com.

What to Do When a Woman Doesn't Like You

Men's Health, 18-Aug-2015

There are few things in this world as terrifying as asking a woman out on a date.If you claim otherwise, you’re either seriously deluded or a lying asshole. Asking a woman “want to go out sometime?” means putting your ego on the line. You’re inviting rejection on the most personal level. Read More.

How To Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Family Members

Huffington Post, OWN, 18-Aug-2015

It's one thing to cross paths with a narcissist every once in a while, but when the self-centered offender is actually a loved one, it can make you dread every family function or want to avoid those gatherings altogether. There is, however, a better way to cope.

Am I Married to a Narcissist?

About.com Relationships, 13-Aug-2015

"Narcissism" is a term people frequently throw around, but the way they use it is often ambiguous or simply wrong. The word most definitely conjures up a negative image. However, everyone falls somewhere on the scale between utter selflessness and complete arrogance. Read More.

How to use narcissism to your advantage

The Independent, 12-Aug-2015

The drive to feel special can be good for us, as you can feel exceptional without becoming obnoxious. Some people consider themselves extremely special, but they don’t manipulate or beat others down - they just brighten the room. And they're likely to have longer relationships, too. Read More.

The Independent "fascinating book"

The Independent, 08-Aug-2015

You don't have to be a Harvard psychologist like Dr Malkin to work out that narcissism in the prevailing condition of our age. The question is how we adapt to the living world of preening peacocks. Malkin's big idea is "the narcissism spectrum' on which we all exist, with one being self-effacing victims and 10 being those psychopaths we all know and hate. This fascinating book includes a test to find out how you score, with tips on how to shift offenders to the healthy centre ground. Beware: some cases are incurable. "If you see signs of dangerous narcissism" concludes Malkin, "your best bet, frankly is to run."

Are You an Introvert — Or Are You Maybe an Undercover Narcissist?

New York Magazine - Science of Us, 06-Aug-2015

Something introverts really like to do, it seems, is read and talk about their own introversion. A commenter on a recent Science of Us post on the four kinds of introversion summed matters up quite nicely: "Gosh, introverts are just so FASCINATING! — Introverts." Read More.

Putting fans in the spotlight

The Boston Globe, 05-Aug-2015

In this time of personal branding, are the fan photos just a bit of selfie-ish fun or a sign we’re approaching peak narcissism?That depends on how they’re used, said Craig Malkin, an instructor in psychology at Harvard Medical School, and the author of “Rethinking Narcissism.” Read More.

The Key to Understanding Bad Boys: They’re Narcissists

Em & Lo, 02-Aug-2015

Bad boys — and bad girls — are sexy, alluring, intense, and challenging. They draw you in, and then inevitably push you away. Trying to earn their love and approval can become addictive. But it’s a losing game. Because, according to Dr. Craig Malkin, they’re often unhealthy narcissists who, by definition, can’t — or at least won’t — ever take the focus off themselves. Read More.

Why being in love with yourself is good for you

Daily Mail, 31-Jul-2015

This is a gripping and sometimes terrifying book that will make you look anew at your spouse, your parents, your children, your friends, your enemies, your fellow workers and - perhaps most pertinently - your reflection in the mirror. And if your reflection pleases you far more than any of the others, you probably won't like what you read.

5 Ways To Spot The Hidden Narcissist In Your Life

Huffington Post, OWN, 28-Jul-2015

Some narcissists are easy to spot from miles away, but they're not all so bold and obvious. In fact, it's the more subtle narcissists that can be especially toxic -- and you may even have one in your life right now without realizing it.

Me: The Narcissist Test

The Sunday Times, 26-Jul-2015

Narcissists. They’re everywhere. Thanks to the selfie generation, society has finally disappeared up its own Instagram feed — hasn’t it? Not according to Dr Craig Malkin, a psychology lecturer at Harvard Medical School, whose new book, The Narcissist Test, suggests that we’ve got it all wrong and narcissism can actually be good for us. Read More.

The Key to Spotting Hidden Narcissists

The Huffington Post, 26-Jul-2015

Recently, I sat down with the people at OWN studios to discuss how to spot narcissists. We had so much to say it resulted in a three part series. Below is part one.I wasn't interested in rehashing all the familiar traits -- boasting, manipulation, unabashed arrogance -- because most people, even those narcissistic enough to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, won't strut about insulting you at the start of a relationship. If they did, no one would fall in love with them.

Rethinking Narcissism: Self-Pride Can Be Healthy

Booktrib, 23-Jul-2015

These days, you’re a “narcissist” if you allude to any personal achievement, or if you name-dropped at a party, or even if you simply showed up wearing nicer clothes. But could there be health aspects to narcissism. Read More.

Why It's Hard to Leave Narcissists

The Huffington Post, 21-Jul-2015

Recently, I wrote an article about the dangers of trivializing "narcissist" and reducing the label to an empty pejorative. While I addressed the reality that there are some dangerous people in the world, many of them extremely narcissistic, I also pointed out that narcissism isn't always bad for us. That led to mixed reactions.

It’s OK to be a little narcissistic

New York Post, 19-Jul-2015

Narcissism — the drive to feel special — can be healthy or unhealthy, depending on how much we cling to our need to stand out from the rest of the 7 billion people on the planet. Read More.

15 signs you're a narcissist

msn, 17-Jul-2015

You're more likely to find a narcissist in the executive suite than on the street, research suggests. To help you figure out if you're a narcissist, msn combed through the psychology literature looking for patterns of narcissistic behavior.

Are YOU a narcissist?

Daily Mail, 17-Jul-2015

Narcissism has always existed, but in the 21st century, the number of people with the trait have swollen immeasurably. Dr Malkin cautions that it's ok to have a degree of narcissistic tendencies. Read More.

Narcissism Redefined

Collins, 16-Jul-2015

Is it any wonder that the current dictionary definition of narcissism reflects our suspicion that we should avoid it at all costs? Who would feel good about becoming completely self-obsessed or overly fond of—um—their endowments? And, indeed, some of the most famous people in history have warned against the dangers of narcissism. Read More.

Some narcissists really are wonderful

Times Live, 16-Jul-2015

Narcissists are an unpopular bunch, typically associated with the reality-TV egomaniacs or pouting selfie-fanatics. But we shouldn't be too quick to decry self-adoration, said a Harvard psychologist, because a little bit of grandiosity can be a very good thing. Read More.

Dr. Laurie Betito interviews Dr. Craig Malkin on the "Passion" show

CJAD 800fm, 16-Jul-2015

Dr. Laurie Betito interviews Dr. Craig Malkin on "Rethinking Narcissism" - could you be with living with a narcissist? Discussions unfold into how to spot the more classic signs of narcissism. Listen Now.

The narcissist test: Are you too self-obsessed?

The Telegraph, 15-Jul-2015

Narcissists are an unpopular bunch, typically associated with the brash egomaniacs on reality TV or pouting selfie-fanatics. But we shouldn’t be too quick to flinch from self-adoration, says a Harvard psychologist, because a little bit of grandiosity can be a very good thing.

Can Abuse Be Invisible?

With horrifying allegations surrounding Rachel Dolezal's family, the subjects of physical and sexual abuse have been making headlines once again. If you've followed my work, you know I've worked hard to educate people about the dynamics of abuse. But there's an aspect of it that gets far less attention than it should -- even within survivor communities.

The Narcissism Test -- What's Your Score?

The Huffington Post, 13-Jul-2015

Narcissism is hot. Which should make narcissists very happy.But it's also widely -- and wildly -- misunderstood, due in large part to widespread caricatures of narcissists, who are invariably depicted as vain, primping braggarts.The problem is that many narcissists, particularly the more introverted ones, who pride themselves not on looks, but on being sensitive and misunderstood, couldn't give a fig about fame or money.

Self Magazine's Q and A With An Expert

Self Magazine, 03-Jul-2015

What makes someone create a 'false self'?

The Telegraph, 16-Jun-2015

In this context, Dolezal - whose interest in African-American culture began in earnest, when her parents adopted four black siblings - may merely be one of the most spectacular examples of an increasingly modern phenomenon. Read More.

Why Parental Praise Doesn't Create Narcissists -- and What Does

The Huffington Post, 27-May-2015

It came as shocking, shocking! news recently that overpraising kids -- making them feel special -- will turn them into entitled little brats and raging narcissists. Well, that announcement hardly counts as groundbreaking. It's a warning parents have heard as far back as spare the rod, spoil the child.

7 science-backed signs you work for a narcissist

Business Insider, 27-Apr-2015

The "very fact of having a feeling in the presence of another person suggests you can be touched emotionally by friends, family, partners, and even the occasional tragedy or failure. Read More.

Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad—and Surprising Good—About Feeling Special

Publishers Weekly, 20-Apr-2015

“...this is, importantly, a book that will have readers rethinking themselves and, paradoxically, those around them.”

3 Big Obstacles to Change and How to Overcome Them

Psychology Today, 09-Apr-2015

So powerful is the tug of the old self that self-loathing people often go out of their way to avoid supportive friends or partners; they’ll even dodge caring spouses in favor of people who consistently put them down. They don’t enjoy being hurt. They just don’t know how to be close to someone who’s nice. Read More.

Can You Spot A Narcissist? It's Not As Easy As You Think, Study Finds

Forbes, 06-Apr-2015

Spotting a narcissist in a crowd might be a fun pastime, but if you’re a researcher or a hiring manager, your job may actually depend on it. Although there’s been a lot of research – and public interest – in the narcissistic personality, it’s been less clear how narcissists may actually differ from the average Joe conversationally. Read More.

9 Signs You're In Love With A Narcissist

The Huffington Post, 30-Mar-2015

Narcissists are appealing for good reason: they're charming, compelling and don't hold back on the compliments, but how do you know if you're in love with one?

11 Reasons Women Look Gorgeous without Makeup

Men's Health, 24-Mar-2015

10 Things You Should Know About Dealing With a Narcissist

Cosmopolitan, 16-Mar-2015

NIt can be incredibly challenging to deal with a narcissist, Cosmopolitan.com has rounded up some expert wisdom to help get you through any future encounters with your own sanity intact. Read More.

RETHINKING NARCISSISM

Kirkus, 11-Mar-2015

It’s good to feel good about yourself. Clinical psychologist Malkin (Psychology/Harvard Medical School), contributor to popular magazines, the Huffington Post, NPR and Fox News, draws on decades of experience in his debut self-help book, focused on the problem of narcissism. Read More.

5 Ways Kids Can Save Your Relationship

The Huffington Post, 10-Mar-2015

Rather than resigning yourself to the dissatisfaction predicted in the longitudinal studies, you could, like some I've people seen over the years, decide to embrace children as an opportunity for self-growth.

Recovering Resilience: 7 Methods For Becoming Mentally Stronger

Forbes, 02-Mar-2015

For people who aren’t so good at coping with stressors, it may be that they’ve never been particularly good at it—or it could be that they were once good, but the losses and blows of life have worn away their resilience over time. Read More.

Is This the Key to an Exciting Life? New Research

The Huffington Post, 13-Feb-2015

Inspired by the results of Ainsworth's research, subsequent researchers branched out to study adults and discovered much the same thing. People who feel more securely attached (comfortable being close to and depending on someone) aren't just happier, but more likely to seek thrills like rock climbing and parachute jumping and throw themselves into new situations and challenges, like meeting strangers and traveling overseas. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2014

OVERBLOWN FACEBOOK PERSONAS CAN LEAVE FRIENDS DEFLATED

The Boston Globe, 01-Sep-2014

Facebook and other social media allow users to present a curated self, showing friends or the public a happier or more accomplished version of a person. Most of the time it is trivial. But in some cases, the gap between reality and the Facebook version can be striking, and troubling. Read More.

WHY WOMEN STAY: THE PARADOX OF ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

Time, 01-Sep-2014

HOLLYWOOD'S RELATIONSHIP MYTHS CAN WREAK HAVOC ON REAL-LIFE ROMANCE

Chicago Tribune, 01-Aug-2014

The plots of romance movies are fairly predictable. Two romantically challenged characters will meet, realize they're destined to be together, encounter a series of problems meant to separate them, but by the end they'll be wrapped in each others' arms. Cue the credits. Read More.

LOVE AND PREGNANCY: CAN A BABY SAVE YOUR STRUGGLING RELATIONSHIP?

Parents, 02-Jun-2014

In some rare cases (i.e. Hollywood movies that usually don't reflect reality), bringing a baby into the world can bring a couple closer together. Having a baby can create a bond that encourages mature personal growth and strengthens a couple's commitment to each other -- but that doesn't happen overnight, and more often, it doesn't happen at all. Read More.

7 STRATEGIES FOR DEALING WITH THE NARCISSIST YOU LOVE

The Huffington Post, 23-Apr-2014

Late last year, I wrote a piece where I shared a perspective, based on growing research, that narcissism isn't simply a stubborn trait, but a style of coping. The seeds of that idea turned into a book, scheduled for release in spring next year. Since I promised a follow up, I'm taking a brief break from the larger project to deliver on my promise. Here's a glimpse at what's to come. If you think your partner's a narcissist, you might want to try these seven strategies. Read More.

WHEN DEPRESSION HURTS YOUR RELATIONSHIP: HOW TO REGAIN INTIMACY AND RECONNECT WITH YOUR PARTNER WHEN YOU'RE DEPRESSED (NEW HARBINGER)

Foreword by Dr. Craig Malkin, 03-Mar-2014

When you are feeling depressed, having a loving, supportive relationship with your partner can help you in your path towards healing and creating a happier life. But often depression interferes with your relationship, distancing you from your partner during your time of need. Get the book.

30 MOST PROMINENT PSYCHOLOGISTS ON TWITTER

Best Psychology Degrees, 24-Feb-2014

WIn view of this, we’ve put together a list of the 30 most prominent psychologists on the popular micro-blogging site – so anyone reading can follow the individuals’ day-to-day lives while also discovering what news and articles they find interesting. Some of the psychologists in this roundup are famous for particular research, others run their own clinics, and yet others are frequently cited in the media as the go-to experts in their fields. Regardless of which area of psychology is of interest, these 30 leading psychologists on Twitter are sure to fascinate. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2013

HOW TO HELP AN EMOTIONALLY NEEDY SISTER

Our Everyday Life, 06-Dec-2013

Neediness stems from fear, believes clinical psychologist Craig Malkin, because needy people are scared by their needs for connection and the chance that those needs won't be met. Read More.

WHAT'S HER EX FACTOR

Men's Health, 02-Dec-2013

HOW TO CONFRONT MY BOYFRIEND WITHOUT BEING JEALOUS

Our Everyday Life, 16-Oct-2013

Learn to express your jealous feelings in an appropriate way, which can actually make your relationship stronger. Read More.

CAN NARCISSISTS CHANGE?

The Huffington Post, 10-Sep-2013

At the end of May 2013, I wrote an article titled 5 Early Warning Signs You're With A Narcissist. It sparked a number of rich conversations through comments, emails, facebook, and twitter. Not surprisingly, the vast majority of reactions came from people who feared they were currently in a relationship with a narcissist. Read More.

LYING ABOUT YOUR AGE IN LA IS MORE COMMON THAN YOU MAY THINK

Los Angeles Times, 06-Sep-2013

Everyone in L.A. lies about his or her age, says the author of the book "Career Comeback — Repackage Yourself to Get the Job You Want.""This is the most youth-oriented city on the planet, where you're only as old as your cosmetic dermatologist makes you look," says Lisa Johnson Mandell (no relation to the writer of this story). "This might be the only city where people use professionally Photo Shopped head shots not just for acting, but on their LinkedIn profiles, Facebook pages, and of course on their online dating profiles."Is it worth it? Read More.

5 EARLY WARNING SIGNS YOU'RE WITH A NARCISSIST

The Huffington Post, 30-May-2013

At the beginning of April this year, I was tapped by the Huffington Post Live team for a discussion on narcissism. I happily agreed to appear, for a number of reasons, not the least of which is that narcissism happens to be one of my favorite subjects. Early in my training, I had the pleasure of working with one of the foremost authorities on narcissism in our field, and in part because of that experience, I went on to work with quite a few clients who'd been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. Read More.

MENDING CHALLENGING RELATIONSHIPS

Psychology Today, 07-May-2013

What are some simple strategies to overcome conflict and mend challenging relationships of any sort? Ask the other person what it is that they would changed in order for the situation to feel better. When you do that, it helps them feel as if you're taking their perspective seriously. By at least repeating back to them what they just said, you show that you're trying to understand. Read More.

SUCCESS TIPS FOR FIRST TIME DATERS

Happen Magazine, 07-May-2013

Alfred and Silvia Cavagnaro met each other on Match.com, but Alfred says that he botched everything on their first date. “I arrived late,” says Alfred. “Silvia declined an alcoholic drink, but I said that I needed a drink — and then pulled out my hidden bottle of tequila. Booze was not a plus in her mind, and she was thinking to herself, 'Nice guy, but I'm not going down that road again.' Then I discussed all my exes. Who knows what else I said?

HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSIST

The Huffington Post, 04-Apr-2013

WHY DO PEOPLE STAY IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS?

The Huffington Post, 01-Mar-2013

During one of my breaks yesterday, I received an email from a colleague. The subject: "Another Know Nothing." Included was a link to the evolving story about New Hampshire state legislator Mark Warden's recent comments. I scanned down the page, and just below the header, next to Warden's innocently beaming face, I found his offending remarks: "Some people could make the argument that a lot of people like being in abusive relationships. Read More.

CUPID’S ADVICE FOR LOVELORN HARD TO COME BY ON VALENTINE’S DAY

The Washington Times, 13-Feb-2013

Lots of people think they know something about manoeuvring the land mines of love. But few of them try to patent their wisdom. So the U.S. Patent and Trademark Office had a lot to consider a few years ago when it received a nine-page instruction manual titled “Interpersonal Pursuit Method” that teaches men how to attract a woman, build her trust and ultimately seduce her. Read More.

CAN ACTING IN LOVE HELP YOU STAY IN LOVE?

The Huffington Post, 11-Jan-2013

In the same way that assuming a "power pose" builds our confidence, intentionally engaging in loving, passionate behaviors appears to spark romantic excitement. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2012

CAN CYBORGS FALL IN LOVE?

The Huffington Post, 28-Dec-2012

In the process of crafting our second self, we can only retain our humanity -- and our capacity to love -- if we use technology in a way that doesn't leave us anemic and enervated. Read More.

IS EMPATHY SEXY?

The Huffington Post, 10-Dec-2012

The researchers suspected that anxiously and securely attached people, who seek out and enjoy intimacy, would be turned on by empathy, while avoidantly attached people, who get a little squeamish about closeness, would be turned off by a caring listener. Read More.

HOW TO OVERCOME NEEDINESS

The Huffington Post, 15-Nov-2012

When we're gripped by the terror of neediness, we feel completely out of control. When we bear witness to it, we feel confused and overwhelmed, wondering if any amount of reassurance will ever be enough. How can we understand these moments? More importantly, how can the needy find relief? Read More.

WIN HER BACK: REBOUND FROM ANY RELATIONSHIP MISTAKE

Men's Health, 12-Oct-2012

HOW TECHNOLOGY MAKES US AFRAID OF INTIMACY

The Huffington Post, 24-Sep-2012

One of my clients, Lisa, 25, a socially anxious software engineer, hadn't been to a party, let alone on a date, in months. She was far too busy racking up points on a new online multiplayer game. "I'm lonely most of the time, she confessed "but when I get lost in the game, I forget all about how terrible I feel. Read More.

BOYFRIENDS AND BOY FRIENDS: HOW TO KEEP BOTH

Women's Health, 01-Aug-2012

IS SHE THE ONE? NINE QUESTIONS YOU MUST ASK HER

Men's Health, 20-Jun-2012

SIN AND SEX, POLITICS AND RELIGION

Providence Journal, Newsday, Scrippnews, Associated Press, 20-Jun-2012

Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School, points out that after an abortion some women with trauma histories have severe stress reactions. He says, "The American Psychological Association's position, based on research evidence, is that abortions do not harm women's mental health."

BEING CONFIDENT WILL GET YOU MORE DATES THAN BEING ATTRACTIVE WILL, SAYS SCIENCE

The San Francisco Chronicle, 17-Jan-2012

The kind of confidence we’re talking about really comes down to feeling good about your appearance and attractiveness,” says Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a Harvard psychologist. “Men and women both prefer a confident date, for a number of reasons.” For one, confident folks are natural salespeople.

IN THE PRESS | 2011

THE GREAT STALL: EXPERT WAYS TO GET YOUR REAR IN GEAR

Psychology Today, 01-Nov-2011

I call it the library cure: Create a dedicated work space where all you can do if you don’t focus on the task is twiddle your thumbs. Use it daily. Over time, your brain will begin to associate work with the space. Read More.

BOND BOOSTERS: TIPS TO HELP BRING BACK ROMANCE

Psychology Today, 01-Jun-2011

Exercising regularly combats stress and improves your mood, making fights less likely, and it maintains your health and energy for a more active sex life—which comes with its own benefits. Read More.

WEE WISDOM: THE BENEFITS OF STAYING YOUNG AT HEART

Psychology Today, 01-May-2011

Children see the world with beginners' eyes. They aren't constrained by experience, so a box could just as easily be a castle or a car. I'm always trying to see things as if I've glimpsed them anew. Read More.

GUEST COMMENTARY: SPEND TIME, NOT MONEY, THIS VALENTINE'S DAY

Cambridge Chronicle, 11-Feb-2011

Singles feel pressure to be a couple. In love and haven’t tied the knot? Feb. 14 can quickly collapse into a day of wishful thinking and analysis. Many couples even compare their bond to others, wondering if it is as good as their neighbor’s love.

LOVE IS BLIND…AND NUMB?: WHY YOU CAN’T ALWAYS FEEL WHEN LOVE HURTS

Psychology Today, 06-Jan-2011

Blinded by the glow of romantic love (or the love of one’s children), we tend to miss the faults, the disappointments, the slights—minor and sometimes even major—in the people we love the most. Now it appears there may be a powerful neurological component to love-blindness. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2010

ISLE OF MAN: HUMOR IS THE FASTEST WAY TO HIS HEART, EXPERTS SAY

The Toronto Star, 26-Oct-2010

Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist who trained and taught at Harvard University and is currently writing a book about human attraction, says both genders rate humour high on their list of desirable qualities. Read More.

THE ATTITUDE THAT ATTRACTS LOVE

Women's Health, 01-Sep-2010

5 THINGS HAPPY COUPLES KNOW

www.sheknows.com, 02-Jul-2010

When you’re stressed, it’s natural to look around for what might be causing the problem, says Craig Malkin, Ph.D…For couples, that means a fair — or perhaps unfair — amount of finger-pointing. “Sometimes it’s better to accept that a situation is hard, no matter what your partner does or doesn’t do—and seek his support. You can bond and even laugh over stress if you quit finding fault,” says Dr. Malkin.

STAYING IN LOVE WHEN HE’S NEVER HOME

www.LovingYou.com, 01-May-2010

According to Craig Malkin, PhD, Director YM Psychotherapy & Consultation, Inc., the most important step a frenzied mom can take is to devote less time to being angry at her absent husband and more time thinking about what will make things better.

9 Ways To Cure Jealousy

www.LovingYou.com, 01-Mar-2010

According to clinical psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin, Director of YM Psychotherapy & Consultation, Inc. and writing a book about how people control attraction, when you’re separated from your partner, it’s natural to feel jealous. However, it isn’t natural to act jealous.

WHEN BABY MAKES 3

Oregon Bend Bulletin, 12-Feb-2010

Instead of believing children doom a relationship, [Massachusetts clinical psychologist and relationship expert Craig Malkin] thinks kids may just speed up an already doomed couple toward a split.

RULES OF ATTRACTION

HealthLine.com, 01-Feb-2010

Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist who is currently writing a book about how we control desire, noted that the power of this neurochemical cocktail can be potent.

IN THE PRESS | 2009

WILL HE CHEAT? 14 RED FLAGS YOU CAN’T IGNORE

LifeScript.com, 09-Dec-2009

If a guy is organizing his life to spend less time with his partner, it doesn’t really matter whether he has met someone,” Malkin says. “Such behavior signals a distance that’s “always a breeding ground for infidelity.

THE RULES OF LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS

Marie Claire, 01-Dec-2009

DATE WANTED: MUST LOVE DOGS

Happen Magazine, Match.com, 07-Jul-2009

Take a walk in any city park and you’ll see plenty of singles with their loved ones on a short leash — literally. For those who think of their dogs and cats as their furry kids, it makes sense to date only fellow pet lovers, or those who are at least willing to come second, right behind Fido or Fluffy.

ARE WE FALLING FOR THE SAME MAN AGAIN AND AGAIN? ELIMINATE DATING DÉJÀ VU

Boston Examiner, 01-Jul-2009

Years of research confirm the importance of childhood (‘early attachment’) in our romantic patterns,” said Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in Cambridge, MA. “So all those books about the role of childhood are right; your father’s emotional distance did influence your choice of stoic men; but your continued attraction to strong, silent types has far more to do with the present than the past.

THE LAWS OF ATTRACTION

IndianExpress.com, 21-Jun-2009

Love is a tough nut to crack. Considered the domain of poets and philosophers, science's forays into it have been fairly recent. Things started to speed up with the discovery of the 'stages of love' by Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University. She also found that love is not a mere emotion—it's a basic human drive, a system inbuilt for mate selection. Read More.

LOVE IN THE TIME OF THE RECESSION

The Atlanta Journal-Constitution, 14-Jun-2009

No need to drop out of the dating scene if you lose your job. Yes, you can pretty much count on being asked, “So, what do you do?” but being between jobs doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. Here are some tips from Craig Malkin.

SEX AFTER BABY: HOW TO GET YOUR GROOVE BACK

LifeScript.com, 09-Jun-2009

After you’ve just had a baby, beds are more for sleeping than romping. But even if you’re too tired to think about sex, your hubby probably isn’t. So how can you get your groove back? Find out now. Plus, does your marriage need extra spice? Take our quiz and find out…

HOW TO REPATTERN OUR BEHAVIOR TO CHOOSE THE RIGHT RELATIONSHIPS

VoiceAmerica Talk Radio, 16-Mar-2009

Patricia welcomes Craig Malkin, Ph.D., licensed clinical psychologist who taught and trained at Harvard. Dr. Malkin’s research on the role of relationships in psychological growth in the classroom has been published in peer reviewed journals. He practices full time and serves as president and director of his own successful therapy and consulting company, YM Psychotherapy and Consultation Inc. He will discuss why we choose and stay in relationships that do not work and how we can change our patterns to find happy and fulfilling relationships. Read More.

HOW TO INDULGE EACH OTHERS’ HOBBIES

Happen Magazine, Match.com, 02-Mar-2009

One of the wondrous, ineffable joys of dating is learning all about your partner’s quirky hobby — whether it’s spending hours hunched over 5,000-piece jigsaw puzzles, rifling through Dumpsters for rare bottle caps, or dressing up like Capt. Janeway at biweekly Star Trek: Voyager get-togethers. Such hobbies bear the indelible stamp of their owner’s personality and were likely forged during childhood or inherited from eccentric aunts.

PRESS INQUIRIES

For interviews or press coverage please contact Craig at [email protected]

OWN SHOW - HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM NARCISSISTS

RADIO: INTERVIEW ON PASSION WITH DR. LAURIE BETITO

VIDEO: FOX BOSTON - THE SCIENCE OF LOVE

NECN (NEW ENGLAND CABLE NEWS)

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH SPECIAL WBUR SERIES: DIGITAL LIVES

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH DAN REA

RADIO: BOSTON TALKS 96.9 VALENTINE'S DAY INTERVIEW

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH PATRICIA RASKIN - WHY WE CHOOSE AND STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT DO NOT WORK

Dr. Malkin On Video - 2022

PTSD and Negative Thought Patterns - Stop Catastrophizing Begin Reframing

YouTube Video, 30-Oct-2022

Dr. Malkin On Video - 2016

Reading With Robin

Facebook Live Stream, 04-Nov-2016

Dr. Malkin had a terrific conversation with Robin about Rethinking Narcissism, where he described all the faces of pathological narcissism--not just the charismatic manipulator-- and how to cope.

ON VIDEO | 2015

Author explains 5 ways to spot a narcissist

WGNTV.com, 01-Oct-2015

How to Cope With Narcissistic Family Members (Part 3 of a 3 Part Series)

OWN Show, 13-Aug-2015

It's not always easy to spot a narcissist, but knowing who they are can save you from heartbreak. Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, breaks down the hidden warning signs of a narcissist. Watch as he explains how they work—and how you can protect your own emotional health.Original broadcast on #OWNSHOW

How to Protect Yourself from Narcissists (Part 2 of a 3 Part Series)

OWN Show, 31-Jul-2015

It's not always easy to spot a narcissist, but knowing who they are can save you from heartbreak. Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, breaks down the hidden warning signs of a narcissist. Watch as he explains how they work—and how you can protect your own emotional health.Original broadcast on #OWNSHOW

How to Spot the Hidden Narcissist in Your Life (Part 1 of a 3 Part Series)

OWN Show, 24-Jul-2015

It's not always easy to spot a narcissist, but knowing who they are can save you from heartbreak. Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, breaks down the hidden warning signs of a narcissist. Watch as he explains how they work—and how you can protect your own emotional health.Original broadcast on #OWNSHOW

HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSIST?

Huffington Post Live, 05-Apr-2015

Narcissism is casually used as an exaggerated description for a person's self-involvement. But some people can be clinically defined as narcissists. So where does insult meet diagnosis?Original broadcast on Huffington Post

ON VIDEO | 2011

NECN (NEW ENGLAND CABLE NEWS)

NECN, 14-Feb-2011

(NECN) - February 14th is Valentine's Day -- the day of love. But, after the flowers and chocolate, how can you keep the love going? And, how do you keep from stressing out over just one day? Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist, joins NECN for a discussion.

The Science Of Love

Fox Boston, 08-Feb-2011

(FOX 25 / MyFoxBoston.com) - Valentine's Day is right around the corner and for many it's financially stressful and emotional taxing on their relationships. But Dr. Craig Malkin from YM Psychotherapy and Consultation has some scientific tips to help make cupids favorite day fun and bring you closer to your partner. Dr. Malkin offers substantiated advice to help alleviate Valentine's angst and improve commitment.Original broadcast on Fox Boston

PRESS INQUIRIES

For interviews or press coverage please contact Amanda on [email protected]

OWN SHOW - HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM NARCISSISTS

RADIO: INTERVIEW ON PASSION WITH DR. LAURIE BETITO

VIDEO: HUFFINGTON POST LIVE (INTERVIEW): HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSIST?

VIDEO: FOX BOSTON - THE SCIENCE OF LOVE

NECN (NEW ENGLAND CABLE NEWS)

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH SPECIAL WBUR SERIES: DIGITAL LIVES

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH DAN REA

RADIO: BOSTON TALKS 96.9 VALENTINE'S DAY INTERVIEW

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH PATRICIA RASKIN - WHY WE CHOOSE AND STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT DO NOT WORK

Dr. Malkin Radio Shows - 2023

Podcast: Rethinking Narcissism, featuring Dr. Craig Malkin

Surviving Narcissism, 16-May-2023

Dr. Les Carter shares an insightful interview with psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin, who is a lecturer at the Harvard Medical School in Cambridge, Massachusetts, and who also maintains an active therapy practice. Dr. Malkin explains how narcissism is a combination of inborn temperament and learned patterns, and also discusses why they have such difficulty regulating themselves as adults.Click here to listen.

Dr. Malkin Radio Shows - 2022

Dr. Craig Malkin talks Narcissism - Part Four

Narcissists in divorce – the lure, the loss and the law, 18-Dec-2022

In this episode, Dr. Malkin broke down the behaviors of pathological narcissism as exhibited by Mr. Trump. We discuss how it is actually simpler for the spouse of a narcissist to recognize narcissism in their partner than for a clinician (who has very limited information). We also talk about mutual abuse and reactive abuse, about whether narcissists are conscious that they are narcissists, and about the dark tetrad of psychopathy, sadism, narcissism, and Machiavellianism.Click here to listen.

Dr. Craig Malkin talks Narcissism - Part Three

Narcissists in divorce – the lure, the loss and the law, 03-Dec-2022

In this episode, Harvard psychologist and narcissism expert and author Dr. Craig Malkin talks with Dr. Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker about how one can protect their children from becoming narcissistic, even when they have a narcissistic parent. They also discuss the difficulties encountered in dating when one has had a previous narcissistic relationship, to do with attraction, chemistry, trust, and relating in new ways.Click here to listen.

Dr. Craig Malkin talks Narcissism - Part Two

Narcissists in divorce – the lure, the loss and the law, 19-Nov-2022

Dr. Malkin explains the importance of feeling one's anger when one is a victim of narcissistic abuse. We also talk about social media, and how this can have a part to play in some narcissistic individuals.Click here to listen.

Dr. Craig Malkin talks Narcissism - Part One

Narcissists in divorce – the lure, the loss and the law, 6-Nov-2022

Dr. Malkin talks about the concept of the psychotic spiral, and how during a narcissistic collapse narcissists may even become delusional in their thinking. We also discuss therapy for narcissists, and what Dr. Malkin's experience of this has been.Click here to listen.

Dr. Malkin Radio Shows - 2017

Dr. Craig Malkin On Narcissism and Trump

Healthcare Politics, 10-Jul-2017

A Little Narcissism Is Not a Bad Thing

BYU Radio, 15-Mar-2017

To call someone a narcissist is very much in vogue right now. Whole books have been written about Millennials and their obsession with selfies and hunger for approval. Many a pundit has lobbed the label as our new President, too. Anybody who’s overbearing or obnoxious or egocentric is liable to be called a narcissist.Click here to listen.

Dr. Craig Malkin Discusses Narcissism

Victory Chicks Radio with Annmarie Kelly, 08-Feb-2017

To call someone a narcissist is very much in vogue right now. Whole books have been written about Millennials and their obsession with selfies and hunger for approval. Many a pundit has lobbed the label as our new President, too. Anybody who’s overbearing or obnoxious or egocentric is liable to be called a narcissist.Click here to listen.

ON THE RADIO | 2016 LISTINGS

Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists

Going Solo Network, 01-Oct-2016

Click here to listen.

Rethinking Narcissism with Dr. Craig Malkin

Talk with Francesca, 24-Sep-2016

Life Lessons with Dr. Craig Malkin- Danger Signs of Narcissism

Life Lessons, 21-Jul-2016

Rethinking Narcissism by Dr. Craig Malkin

Reading With Robin, 04-Jul-2016

Why We Still Think About Rodin’s ‘The Thinker,’ Now Sitting Pensively At The Peabody Essex

90.9 WBUR, 16-May-2016

WTOP Radio

WTOP Radio, 08-Feb-2016

ON THE RADIO | 2015 LISTINGS

NightSide – Rethinking Narcissism

CBS Boston, 18-Nov-2015

Dr. Craig Malkin, Rethinking Narcissism: The bad—and surprising good—about feeling special

Maryanne Live!, 03-Nov-2015

"What is Narcissism?" It like it's bad. Dr. Craig Malkin offers a radically new model for understanding that it's a spectrum of self-importance---and everyone falls somewhere on the scale between utter selflessness and total arrogance. Click here to listen.

Rethinking Narcissism The Bad-and Surprising Good-About Feeling Special

Dr. Michael Harris, Blog Talk Radio, 16-Oct-2015

Click here to listen to the original broadcast.

Presidential Narcissism, Racial Bias, Growing up Social

Matt Townsend Show, 01-Oct-2015

Dr. Malkin outlines the dos and don’ts of picking our next leader by helping us understand the good and bad traits of narcissism. Click here to listen.

Could We All Benefit From Some Narcissism?

90.9 WBUR, 11-Sep-2015

NightSide – Is Narcissism Actually A Good Thing?

CBS Boston, 03-Sep-2015

Dr Craig Malkin - Rethinking Narcissism

WOCA The Source Radio, 20-Aug-2015

The Joy Cardin Show

Wisconsin Public Radio, 06-Aug-2015

IN DEFENSE OF SELFISHNESS & NARCISSISM: PETER SCHWARTZ, DR. CRAIG MALKIN

The Halli Casser Jayne Show, 05-Aug-2015

Rethinking Narcissism 2

Conversations Live with Vicki St. Clair, 03-Aug-2015

Dr. Craig Malkin Debuts Rethinking Narcissism

Life Lessons Network, 30-Jul-2015

Larry Conners USA

Larry Conners USA, 30-Jul-2015

The Ray Lytle Show

The Ray Lytle Show, 30-Jul-2015

The Jan Mickelson Show

The Jan Mickelson Show, 30-Jul-2015

Columbia Morning with David Lile

Columbia Morning with David Lile, 30-Jul-2015

Dave Akerly, AM Talk Radio

WILS­ 1320, 30-Jul-2015

Dan & Mike Morning Show

WBEX- AM, 30-Jul-2015

Original broadcast on WBEX

The Christal Frost Show

WTCM NewsTalk 580, 28-Jul-2015

Did you know that “what is narcissism” is one of the fastest-rising searches on Google? Dr. Craig Malkin offers a radically new model for understanding this often misused term. Listen to Dr. Malkin discuss the spectrum of narcissism- the bad and surprisingly good- about feeling special.Original broadcast at WTCM NewsTalk 580

INTERVIEW ON PASSION WITH DR. LAURIE BETITO

Passion Show, 16-Jul-2015

ON THE RADIO | 2013 LISTINGS

Facebook Envy: How The Social Network Affects Our Self-Esteem

90.9 wbur, Digital Lives Show, 20-Feb-2013

Original broadcast at wbur.org

ON THE RADIO | 2011 LISTINGS

VALENTINES DAY INTERVIEW ON BOSTON TALKS

96.9 fm Boston Talks, 14-Feb-2011

INTERVIEW WITH CRAIG MALKIN ON NIGHTSIDE WITH DAN REA

WBZ 1030 News Radio, 14-Feb-2011

ON THE RADIO | 2009 LISTINGS

WHY WE CHOOSE AND STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT DO NOT WORK

The Patricia Raskin Show, Voice America, 16-Mar-2009

Patricia welcomes Craig Malkin, Ph.D., licensed clinical psychologist who taught and trained at Harvard. Dr. Malkin’s research on the role of relationships in psychological growth in the classroom has been published in peer reviewed journals. He practices full time and serves as president and director of his own successful therapy and consulting company, YM Psychotherapy and Consultation Inc. He will discuss why we choose and stay in relationships that do not work and how we can change our patterns to find happy and fulfilling relationships.Original broadcast on Voice America

PRESS INQUIRIES

For interviews or press coverage please contact Amanda on [email protected]

OWN SHOW - HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM NARCISSISTS

RADIO: INTERVIEW ON PASSION WITH DR. LAURIE BETITO

VIDEO: HUFFINGTON POST LIVE (INTERVIEW): HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSIST?

VIDEO: FOX BOSTON - THE SCIENCE OF LOVE

NECN (NEW ENGLAND CABLE NEWS)

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH SPECIAL WBUR SERIES: DIGITAL LIVES

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH DAN REA

RADIO: BOSTON TALKS 96.9 VALENTINE'S DAY INTERVIEW

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH PATRICIA RASKIN - WHY WE CHOOSE AND STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT DO NOT WORK

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